The reason why some people succeed and others don’t isn’t that complicated. Success is more simple and accessible than ever before, yet the majority of people chase it as futilely as a dog chasing its tail. So, in an effort to make sure that you are in the small percentage of people who absolutely succeed this year, let’s make sure you have all of the tools you need (the three simple secrets) to be successful and have results.
This is the time of the year where everyone is high on goals and feeling confident that they can make this year the year that is really different than any past year. And, as a confidence coach, I absolutely support this type of thinking, but I want there to be more for you. I want you to have more than just “thinking,” I want you to have follow through. I want this year to be your year of action, and I believe it will be. I put together a few thoughts on the three distinguishing secrets to success that will help make this year different than any previous year in your life.
Before we get started, first things first, please be kind to yourself about your past efforts. It’s important you let it go – it’s imperative that you stop beating yourself up for the self-sabotage, the distraction, the loss of belief or interest, because if you don’t get over that, you’ll carry it with you like a giant weight this year, making it super hard to chase your goals wholeheartedly. I need you to realize that the reason you didn’t succeed in the past probably wasn’t because of your lack of effort, your lack of ability or your lack of desire. Often it’s because of misguided effort. It’s because you got tired, you got discouraged, you got distracted or you lost belief because of some form of set-back or rejection and you stopped trying. You stopping trying because you stopped believing that you could do it – not because you stopped caring. You still care and that right there is the magic sauce that is going to fuel your fire this time – the key is to keep caring not matter what happens along the way!
The biggest mistake most people make when it comes to reaching goals? And possibly the number one boo-boo you made too?
Not having a coach or a proper support system.
That’s right, it sometimes can be that simple; the difference between reaching your goals or not is in having the strategy and support of a coach. Having a coach is the quickest way to dial in deep and to make sure that you never feel alone on your journey. It’s amazing what happens when you take some of the weight off your shoulders and you can feel the belief of someone who understands and believes in your ability to accomplish your vision as much as you do. Plus that coach’s job is to remind you of why you care about your vision and help you stay in alignment for those moments along the way that you will inevitably lose your way or be distracted by discouragement.
SIMPLE SECRET #1:
HAVE A COACH
It’s true. A coach provides the accountability, the strategy, the pep-talks, the support that you need to press on and to keep on keeping on when you are feeling tired or discouraged. The proper support network reminds you that people care about you and that they care about your success – they believe in you and they will encourage you until you are shining as brightly as you meant to!
Every top level performer has a coach. Professional athletes have coaches. High-level execs have coaches. Coaches have coaches. Everyone needs an outside-party’s perspective to guide, support and push them to become the best that they can be. Great coaches empower you to believe in yourself in a way that you might not be able to on your own because great coaches see the greatness within you that you can’t yet see. Great coaches pull out your greatness and support you as you take each scary step along the way.
SIMPLE SECRET #2:
HAVE A COMMUNITY
When you know you’re not alone you can always keep going. That’s the secret sauce of having an open community or a small support group who know and support you as you pursue your goal. Not only does having a community promote you to a new level of accountability that will help your level of consistent follow-through, but it also provides a network for you to fall back on in moments when your spirits are down or you are tired of staying the course. Being connected to others – and being open about your goals, your baby-steps of action and your progress with them is a secret to results.
Furthermore, you’re going to be celebrating, because you’re going to be successful, so you might as well get yourself people who are going to want to party with you and celebrate with you along the way. One of the secret powers of a community of support is that they will remind you just how far you have come and will be willing to help you really engage in and relish the journey along the way.
SIMPLE SECRET #3:
HAVE A PLAN FOR CONSISTENCY
We make our goals harder than they need to be. I’m not saying that we set too high of goals, quite the contrary, actually. Often our goals are too small and too limited. We set small goals and we make them harder than they need to be. We overthink, we over-plan, and we over anticipate what big things we need to do. The truth is that reaching a goal is less about doing big, drastic things and more about doing small, daily tasks.
Goal setters who have a commitment to be consistent are goal setters who reach their goals. You don’t need to know all of the steps you need to take, you just need to take one day, each day, towards what matters to you. Successful people show up for their goals, for the small actions they need to stay consistent on, even when they don’t feel like it. This becomes easy to do when you have made the simple decision to be a person of consistency.
Decide two things and you will have results: decide to be consistent, and decide to always show up. If you do those two things the option to give up or give in will never present itself and you will never stop until you reach wherever it is that you want to go. The decision to be consistent and committed also empowers you to de-personalize any fear of rejection or vulnerability you might feel as you put yourself out there in pursuit of your goal. When you’re committed to consistency it doesn’t matter what people think – it just matters that you show up and keep going.
Consistency keeps your eyes on the prize and it gets the prize into your hands.
It can be different for you this year. It has to be different for you, because this is your year if you want it to be. But you need to prepare for the inevitable hiccups that are going to come your way. You need to anticipate the challenges, and you can do that by making sure you have a coach and a community on your side. I have a solution that might help you:make sure you have the three secrets to success as part of your plan. Get a coach. Get a community. Get consistent.
I want to be your coach.
I want The College of Confidence to be your community.
I want to help you stay consistent.
And the best news is…
For a limited time you can still join The College of Confidence and start coaching with me for just $1!
Just go to www.trishblackwell.com/college and join at the bottom of the page. You will get full access to The College for five-full days without any obligation to stay for just $1. Come and share your 2018 vision with me and the rest of The College and let’s make sure you have absolutely everything you need to succeed this year!!! I know this – my folks in The College of Confidence ARE in the 5% of people who will reach their goals in 2018 because they are already set up for success, strategy and support!
I can’t wait to connect with you in The College!
Don’t put this off.
Enrolling now will help you push through to success in ways you never imagined!
Confidently yours,
Trish
PS > You might be wondering how I actually support you in The College of Confidence? You have tons of personal access to me, all month long! We have four monthly coaching sessions that are delivered right to your inbox as well as four monthly “live” video sessions where we all connect face-to-face and dive in deep to your personal goals and needs (oh, and don’t worry if you can’t make the live calls, you can always pre-submit questions you want me to address and you will always get a replay link to watch the session). On top of that we have a private Facebook forum where you can post a question about anything you need and you will get my personal reply, input and support within 48-hours – my goal and my commitment is to help you succeed, whatever it takes, period!
