One little known habit of confident people is that most of them have gone into recovery. The happiest, most confident women in the world – the ones who have learned to live in the present and to find real joy in the daily trials of life – are the ones who have checked themselves into recovery from perfectionism. In short, they identify as “recovering perfectionists,” and are totally over trying to pretend they have it all together. This vulnerability, authenticity and real-ness draws others to them, making them more appealing and charismatic. This magnetism has a compound effect too. The more people are naturally drawn to us, the more confident we feel about who we are.
I have put together a manifesto for you, and it’s one that you can use to start your journey of recovery from the binding and limiting shackles of perfectionism.
Here are the words of the manifesto:
- I am a recovering perfectionist and will no longer use perfectionism as my crutch.
- I have a strong sense of self and know that I am adaptable to whatever comes my way.
- I refuse to expect myself to unrealistically “do it all”. Instead I will focus on what I can do and on what I am passionate about doing and I will do those things with excellence.
- I accept and embrace failure as a key element of every success I will ever have.
- I am committed to training my mind and to choosing thoughts that bring life to me.
- I believe that I am capable of doing anything that I set my mind to.
- I do not fear failure, but instead I see it as part of the struggle that is necessary for my personal growth and development.
- I am not defined by my past, but rather, refined by it.
- I willingly and enthusiastically step outside of my comfort zone on a daily basis.
- I am confident, I am capable , I can be the best version of me through self-compassion, kindness, focus and boldness.
Also, because, as your confidence coach, I am committed to providing you with as much value and as many helpful resources as possible each and every week, I went back through the archives of my website and created a list of relevant blog posts on finding freedom and recovery from perfectionism and I have them listed out right here:
The Anti-Perfectionism Quest: http://www.trishblackwell.com/the-anti-perfectionism-quest/
Perfectionism vs Excellence: http://www.trishblackwell.com/122/
Punching Out Perfectionism: http://www.trishblackwell.com/punching-out-perfectionism/
The Problem with Perfectionism: http://www.trishblackwell.com/the-problem-with-perfectionism/
Confidently yours, your recovering perfectionist coach,