THE #1 THING MOST PEOPLE DON’T KNOW ABOUT HEALTHY EATING
I remember the day I ate four oatmeal cream pies, in a matter of like two minutes. More than that, I remember the tummy ache I had afterwards and the self-hatred I felt for being so weak in my willpower to not turn to food when I felt sad. I was so committed to healthy eating, and yet, there I was again. In total failure mode, and bloated at that. I thought I would always struggle with food.I was filled with shameover my inability to stay disciplined with what I ate at night and I sabotaged my workout efforts for years from the emotional eating that would happen once I was alone and in my pajamas. I kept my struggle hidden in the dark because, well, it mortified me.I used to wonder, What would people think of me if they really knew how pathetic I was at night when I felt sad? Who would like or respect someone like me who couldn’t trust herself to know if she could eat just one Oreo or fifteen of them? How much longer could I keep up the yo-yo cycle of binging, purging and overexercising to punish myself without someone noticing how miserable I was in what felt like a hamster wheel I could never get off?
The day I decided that I needed to find a new way to live was the day that everything changed for me. I didn’t know how to change, if I could change, or where to start, but I knew I couldn’t keep on how I was. I knew that God had more in life for me than that, and that my struggle with food and with my body image was keeping me on the sidelines of life. I didn’t want anyone to see me and I certainly didn’t want to step out and into the purpose God had for me because I was so consumed with shame and helplessness.
What I learned is what I want to share with you today: your eating doesn’t have to be “perfect” for it to be healthy.
The expectation of perfection that we put on ourselves our food and around our diets convinces us that we won’t ever be able to keep it up and that we’ll forever be stuck in a yo-yo struggle of eating well, then not eating well, then eating well, then not eating well. But you’re not stuck in a cycle, unless you decide that you want to be. One courageous decision to be strong – to say that change, even though it might feel impossible, is possible – can give you all the strength you need to do a complete transformation. Believe that change is possible and change will happen. The beautiful thing is that you don’t have to change all on your own; if you decide you want to change, you just need to show up with openness to a small shift, and then continue to do that day after day, and, before you know it, you will see that you are where you never imagined you could be: a place of freedom. And that’s what God wants for us anyways, for us to be free and alive and engaged in making the world around us a little bit of a better place. He’ll help you change if you ask for His help. Trust me, He helped me and He will help you.
*You don’t need to have all of the steps figured out, you just need to believe that change is possible.
*You don’t need to “be more disciplined,” you just need to have a new approach.
*You don’t need to keep hiding in shame, you need to know there are others like you and that when you shine the light on shame it loses its power over you and you can start to take action in more confident, habit-changing ways.
*You don’t need to be perfect in your food choices, you just need to learn to be kind to yourself and to listen to what your body needs without fearing what might happen.
*You don’t have to keep beating yourself up, you just need the right coach and mindset shift to help you see that you’re in the process of change and that you have the right to celebrate every baby step you take towards freedom.
Know this: you can change. YOU.ARE.NOT.STUCK. You can find the healing and freedom you have been praying for and working towards.You might just need the reminder that you don’t need to do it all on your own. We aren’t meant to walk along in life, let along to walk through our deepest struggles alone, so if you are ready to change the cycle, if you’re ready to break free and change your relationship with food and with your body, then it’s time to do something different. It’s time to enroll in The College of Confidence with me and with the collective sisterhood of women who are members in the group, ready to encourage you and walk alongside you as you celebrate each important “win” in this area of your life.
What I have put together in the July coaching content of The College of Confidence is what I wish I had been coached through ten years ago when I was hiding in my pajamas, hating myself for “falling off the wagon” once again as I cradled a pint of ice cream, feeling like I was hopelessly stuck. In July, together we are going to celebrate our bodies and our diets in ways you have never imagined and you will walk away with body confidence, food confidence and the know-how to be balanced and believe, perhaps for the first time, that healing and freedom is yours.
You are not stuck, so make the brave decision to believe that change is around the corner.Let’s be done with beating ourselves up, with picking ourselves apart and with wishing we had someone else’s body and let’s dive deep into a new approach together. It takes just two-minutes to enroll, and it’s cancel-at-any-time, so there’s no risk for you, only hope and major change / freedom / happiness / beauty to come. Enroll now, you deserve this > www.trishblackwell.com/college
Confidently yours,
Trish
PS – If you’re particularly curious about whether or not this month of The College of Confidencewill really help you with your body confidence and your disordered eating or self-sabotage habits around food, then you might want to know that we will have four LIVE coaching sessions where you can connect personally with me via video and we can dive into exactly what you need. Additionally we will have four coaching sessions on the following topics: How to Feel Good About Yourself When You Aren’t Where You Want to Be, How to Create Better Habits For More Body Confidence, How to Have Positive Conversations Around Body and Food Topics,and How to Do What Makes Your Body Feel Good. All coaching is exclusive to The College of Confidencemembers – and we are going to get into the nitty gritty of how to love ourselves in the mirror, how to break emotional eating behaviors and how to see the beauty in the body we have so that we can rock what we’ve got! You’ll want to join, believe me: www.trishblackwell.com/college
