ANNIHILATING ANGER

Anger is a killing thing: it kills the man who angers, for each rage leaves him less than he had been before – it takes something from him. 

-Louis L’Amour

EPISODE #92

In this week’s episode we are going to talk about:

• How to annihilate anger from taking over your emotions and keeping you in the past
• The one instance when you can utilize anger for good
• My five ways I manage anger in my life

SHOUT OUT OF THANKS:

Dave from Maryland!

LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:

Derrick

Hi Trish,

I have been listening to your podcasts off and on for several years.. I haven’t listened to all of them, but when I need a good boost, I definitely tune in to your channel. You have made me cry and inspired me. Anyways…  I wanted to know your thoughts about anger.. maybe you have already done a podcast, and I missed it and if you can direct me to it great, or maybe you can do another one.

The reason I ask, is I suffer from depression and I have had individuals hurt me so much, that even thou years have past, when I think about them and the pain, my anger takes me right back to the moment, and the power of it is so real… I feel like it happened yesterday. Though, I don’t talk to most of the individuals now, I so badly want to call them up and have them take back all the anger they have given me by letting them know how much it hurt. I don’t know if that is appropriate, but I really want too.

Either way, I am wondering if you have experienced such anger, and if you have any possible recommendations on how to deal with anger that lingers for years… despite your best efforts to let it go.

ANNIHILATING ANGER:

Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy. –Aristotle

For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.

-Ralph Waldo Emerson

I shall allow no man to belittle my soul by making me hate him.

-Booker T. Washington

Anger is a killing thing: it kills the man who angers, for each rage leaves him less than he had been before – it takes something from him.

-Louis L’Amour

For those of you who listened to episode #80 – you know my sideways years – and I have had the opportunity to be angry about a lot of things in my life. If you missed it, here’s a short outline:

I was angry at the world for…

• having to suffer a broken heart
• being emotionally abused and threatened in a relationship
• being raped and having PTSD as a part of my life for a full year

I was angry at myself for…

• my eating disorder
• my imperfections and my body
• my awkwardness and quirks
• my “failures” and short-comings on goals I didn’t achieve
• the amount of pressure I put on myself

 I was angry at God for….

• parents that were always in turmoil
• a family who struggled financially

I used these 5 methods to annihilate the anger in my life so that I wouldn’t be pinned to the past, but instead be able to thrive and have peace in the present and future.

FIVE WAYS TO ANNIHILATE ANGER IN YOUR HEART: 

1. Remind yourself that anger is a killing thing – and you’re the one it kills.
2. Anger prevents peace from being present. Choose peace.
3. Choose to be a victor, not a victim.
4. Put it into perspective.
5. Pray for the person.

ANGER IS OKAY WHEN….

It is a “righteous” anger and ignites your soul to change the world or yourself for the better.   How do you know when your anger is righteous? It is righteous when you are inspired to positive action. It is not righteous when you are consumed with rage, distraction, or personal vendetta to punish someone else or try to make something right by playing God yourself.

EXAMPLES OF WORDS OF LIFE: 

• I am not timid, I am strong and determined and I can do this.
• I am confident, even when I don’t feel like it.
• I am full of life, energy and enthusiasm.
• My mistakes do not define me, they refine me and I have learned and grown from them.
• My past is not my present.
• I have full control over my perspective and thoughts.
• I am someone who does what they say they are going to do.
• Everything I do, I do with love.
• I extend grace and kindness to others, and to myself.
• I am disciplined and committed.
• I do not get easily discouraged – I will press on and keep on keeping on.
• I forgive generously.
• I believe in myself – even when I’m not sure of the next step.

Do you want more words of life in your mind and less jibber-jabber of negativity / fear / insecurity / or worry? Then the Insecurity Detox is your next step.   This 7-day program requires 15 minutes of your day and will set you up with a complete cleanse of your mind, body and spirit so that you can jump-start positive internal self-talk in your mind.  Sign up at: www.trishblackwell.com/insecurity-detox

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Be more of who you are. Be you. Be free.

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