The best portion of a good man’s life is his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and of love. –William Wordsworth
1) That we often rush it
2) That in our overscheduled lives we often discount its value and power
3) That we are more kind to others than to ourselves – to the extent that we are actually unkind to ourselves
4) That we underestimate the inherent need the world has for more kindness
5) That kindness deepens our connections – to the world, to others, to strangers, to love, to life
What would happen if you lived in such a way that you realized that your kindness towards yourself DOES in fact have a direct impact on others?
Kindness matters. It opens our chasms of compassion and prepares us to participate in the potential of life.
Today my family honored my grandmother Ellen Madeline Pollin, and though it was a small ceremony, the reoccurring statement said is that she did everything for everyone without ever complaining or even talking much. She was a quiet woman, but inexhaustibly loving, always looking for someone to help or serve or love. My aunt and uncle – who spoke at the ceremony – both said the same thing of her: she did countless, nameless and unremembered acts of love. Those acts – the noticed and unnoticed – paved her life and have been remembered as her legacy. Remember, we are remembered for what which we most consistently do and most fervently believe in. How you live now affects the legacy you will leave with the world in the future.
(ONE). Name this month – the next 30 days – a “month of kindness”. Do one thing kind towards (a) yourself (b) someone you love (c) a coworker every day for the next 30 days.
(TWO). Remember that, like Ellen, kindness is often displayed in nameless, unremembered acts. Create a list of 20 ways you can increase your kindness in general.
Ideas: Open the door for a stranger, put your shopping cart away, pick up fallen cans off the shelf in the grocery store, let someone merge on the highway, thank your postal delivery person and learn their name, ask your cashiers with authenticity how their day is going, buy yourself flowers, take a bath, give yourself permission to veg out on the couch and relax, compliment someone, buy the coffee for the person in line behind you at Starbucks, let someone else have the front row parking spot, start up a small talk conversation, be the first to say hi, go in for the hug, give a word of encouragement, tell someone that it’s nice to see them that day…
(THREE). Create an actual kindness card.