Podcast #607

MICRO-COMPLAINING AND HOW TO STOP

If you want to have a happy and positive life, there’s a small, toxic micro habit that you’ve got to start taking seriously. It seems innocent, and in many ways it’s socially acceptable, but it’s deteriorating your happiness from the inside out. The thing is, most of us don’t intentionally do it, and when we do engage in it, we don’t even realize how pervasively negative we are being. Remember this: negativity attracts negativity, and so allowing unmonitored, micro-negativity to run wild in your brain will snowball into larger, more burdensome negativity. Today we’re talking about micro-complaining … how it sneaks into our thoughts and our conversations and what to do about it so that you can be and feel happier with your life.

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we’re coaching on:

  • How complaining is sneaking into our conversations and creating an undercurrent of negativity
  • What to do about micro-complaining
  • The steps to creating a positive mental atmosphere

Quotes About Complaining:

“Complaining is like bad breath. You notice it when it comes out of someone else’s mouth, but not when it comes out of your own.” – Will Bowen 

“What you’re supposed to do when you don’t like a thing is change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Don’t complain.”-Maya Angelou

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar 

“See if you can catch yourself complaining, in either speech or thought, about a situation you find yourself in, what other people do or say, your surroundings, your life situation, even the weather. To complain is always nonacceptance of what is. It invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself a victim. Leave the situation, change the situation, or accept it. All else is madness.” -Eckart Tolle

“When you wake up every day, you have two choices. You can either be positive or negative; an optimist or a pessimist. I choose to be an optimist. It’s all a matter of perspective.” -Harvey Mackay (a complainer or a praiser) 

What Is Micro-Complaining?

Micro-complaining refers to expressing minor, often trivial grievances or annoyances. Here are some examples:

  1. Weather Complaints: “It’s so hot today,” or “I can’t believe it’s raining again.”
  2. Traffic Gripes: “The traffic light took forever to change,” or “Why is there always so much traffic on this street?”
  3. Food Issues: “My coffee isn’t hot enough,” or “This sandwich has too much mayo.”
  4. Technology Frustrations: “My phone is so slow today,” or “The Wi-Fi keeps disconnecting.”
  5. Workplace Annoyances: “The printer is always jammed,” or “The office is too cold.”
  6. Minor Personal Inconveniences: “I have to wait in line,” or “I left my headphones at home.”
  7. Social Media Pet Peeves: “People post too many pictures of their food,” or “I hate when people send long voice messages.”
  8. Daily Routines: “I hate having to wake up early,” or “Why do I always misplace my keys?”

Micro-complaints are typically about small, everyday issues that don’t significantly impact one’s life but can still be a source of momentary irritation.

Micro-complaining, though seemingly minor, can have various impacts on individuals and their surroundings. Here are some potential effects:

On Individuals

  1. Mental Well-being: Constantly focusing on minor negative aspects can create a habit of negativity, leading to increased stress and dissatisfaction.
  2. Mood: Regular micro-complaining can perpetuate a negative mood, making it harder to enjoy positive aspects of life.
  3. Perception: It can shift an individual’s perception, making them more attuned to negative events and less likely to notice or appreciate positive ones.

On Relationships

  1. Interpersonal Strain: Regular complaints, even small ones, can wear down relationships. Friends, family, or colleagues may find it draining or annoying, leading to tension or conflict.
  2. Communication Quality: It can negatively impact the quality of interactions, making conversations more negative and less enjoyable.
  3. Reputation: A person who frequently micro-complains may be perceived as pessimistic or difficult to please, potentially affecting social standing and relationships.

On the Environment

  1. Workplace Atmosphere: In a workplace, frequent micro-complaining can contribute to a negative or toxic atmosphere, reducing overall morale and productivity.
  2. Social Settings: In social settings, it can create a negative ambiance, making the environment less enjoyable for everyone involved.

Psychological Impacts

  1. Cognitive Bias: It can reinforce negative cognitive biases, making individuals more likely to notice and dwell on negative aspects of their experiences.
  2. Emotional Contagion: Negativity can be contagious. Micro-complaining can influence others to focus on negatives, spreading discontent.

Potential Positive Effects

  1. Bonding: Sometimes, sharing minor grievances can serve as a bonding experience, helping people feel understood and connected.
  2. Relief: Venting small frustrations can provide a sense of relief, helping individuals process and move past minor annoyances.

Why it Happens:

We feel sorry for ourselves.
We want to acknowledge the hard (and there’s a difference between acknowledgement and complaining)
We don’t know other ways to connect with others – social complaining is acceptable small talk
We aren’t aware of how negative it makes us come off 

Managing Micro-Complaining

  1. Awareness: Becoming aware of the frequency and triggers of micro-complaining can help in managing it.
  2. Positive Focus: Actively focusing on positive aspects of life can counteract the habit of micro-complaining.
  3. Constructive Communication: Finding more constructive ways to express dissatisfaction can improve personal well-being and relationships.

Methods To Combat Micro-Complaining

  • Get to vs. Have to
  • Grounded in Gratitude
  • Positive soil vs Negative soil
  • Victim Mode Awareness
  • APR – Absolute Personal Responsibility
  • Power of Choice

Announcements:

Join me in the College of Confidence — we start an Anti-Complaining Challenge next week AND it’s going to be paired up with a full coaching workshop on how to stop complaining.  Join at www.collegeofconfidence.com/join

Follow Trish on Instagram @Trish_Blackwell to receive details on the Anti-Complaining Challenge. Join the 48-day Anti-Complaining Challenge by commenting “challenge” on Trish’s Instagram posts.

Get free access to the 3|3|3 Method: 

www.trishblackwell.com/333method

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If you want to have a happy and positive life, there's a small, toxic micro habit. This is teeny teeny. It's so small that you probably don't notice it's happening, but still toxic. And so we need to start taking it seriously, it seems innocent, and in many ways is socially acceptable, but it's the carry are eating your happiness from the inside out. And the thing is, is, most of us don't intentionally do it. And when we do engage in it, we don't even realize how pervasively negative we are being, what is the habit, it is complaining, it is micro complaining and how to stop. Remember this. Negativity attracts negativity and so allowing unmonitored micro negativity in the form of a complaint complaint, to allowing that to run wild in your brain is going to snowball into something larger and more burdensome in the terms of negativity and your general mood. And so today we're talking about what I'm calling, micro complaining, we're going to talk about how it sneaks into our thoughts into our conversations, and more importantly, what to do about it so you can be and feel happier with your life. You're listening to the confidence podcast, the go to coaching podcast, oozing with motivation, and easy to implement steps that help you to be bold, and confident in life. I'm your host, Trish Blackwell, internationally recognized confidence coach, best selling author, and founder of the College of confidence. I teach go getters in life, how to master their self talk, turn down the volume of self doubt, and get more results in life. So that you can be the difference maker and world changer. God created you to be you were made for more. And today's episode will help you tap into it. Let's go. Hey, guys, it's Trish Blackwell, you're listening to the confidence podcast. This is episode 607. We're talking today about micro complaining, and how to stop. Now if you're new to the app to the show, we drop new episodes every Tuesday. My goal as your confidence coach is that you always walk away with something you can apply to your life right away. So if you are a returning listener, longterm have been here the whole time, it's good to see you again, it's good to be with you, I'm super happy that you are committed to your mindset, you're committed to just the same way you go to the gym to get your body strong, and you can be super fit, you don't stop going to the gym, you keep it up, we keep and go and do the exercise we lift multiple times a week we run everyday, we just stay fit, you do things that fit people do to stay mentally fit, we do the same thing. And so to stay confident, you keep training your confidence. And that is why you keep listening to this show. So I am so glad you're here. We are talking about this subject actually. Because in my group coaching program, the College of confidence, we are dedicating this whole month to the cancers of confidence, which are complaining, criticism, and comparing. And so I found it fit to do an episode on complaining honestly and transparently because I engage in it a lot more than I care for you to know, I'm always going to tell the truth. But the reason I wanted to bring this up, I and I always have been a massively positive, upbeat, optimistic person. And I was raised around a lot of people who complain so I feel like I even have a sensitivity to people who complain and I've tried to always be the opposite. And yet, I still find myself falling into these micro complaints. Sometimes without noticing it. And it does change my mood. It does deteriorate my confidence. So that's what we're talking about. And in this episode, we're gonna talk about why do we do it? What is happening? What is What are the there are some potential positive effects that's why we do it, but really, what to do to stop doing it so that we stop hurting ourselves in the long run. Before we dive in, I want to give a shout out thank you, Anna for your review this week. It means a lot you guys, when I get reviews from you one I read every single one and they will they help us reach more people. And they really encouraged my soul. So thank you for those of you who say she's doesn't need to knows she doesn't need the compliment us may not need it, but I love it and it feeds my soul. So Anna says this inspiring, motivating and confidence making. I'm 18 years old, just graduated high school and soon off to my next adventure of college. I first started listening to this podcast in 2020 when I had just started high school in the middle of a pandemic. During that time I was struggling with finding purpose and I often felt dealt with a lack of self confidence, constantly being discouraged by my disconnection with the things I loved. That being said, Trisha in her podcast helped me see there was more to life at the edge of my fingertips. I learned through this podcast her growing my confidence has also helped grow the person I present to the world each day. And for that I am forever grateful. I truly believe this podcast has been one of the biggest resources into what has made me become a confident and overall joyful person. I definitely recommend it for anyone of all ages, but especially young women as they embark on Life Adventures. Thank you so much Trish are helping me become the person I am. Your your impact on this world is greater than you can imagine. Because you are inspiring people like me to make an impact to keep up the great work and I like, I have goosebumps, I'm so happy I what a privilege it is that I got to be your mentor as you started high school. And now your mentor as you started, you embark on a whole new season of your life. And I gotta tell you, the impact you're making to your peers, is probably going to change their lives in such a deep and profound way. So onward, I'm so happy you're part of this community. And thank you in advance for sharing the show. Thank you again for writing that review. And thank you for doing the work putting the work in yourself. So alright, let's talk about complaining. I got a couple great quotes. This one like knocks it out of the park. I don't know if I've had a better perfect quote ever. It's will Bowen. He says this. Complaining is like bad breath. You notice it when it comes out of someone else's mouth, but not when it comes out of your own. Like, I felt like I could stop the whole podcast episode. Now we're done. Because that's the truth. And that's what I wanted to use this time in our in our this week. And in your date today. Just simply slow down and go, you might not be a negative person, you might not even be proactively complaining. But you might be walking around with bad breath. Right? You might be walking around thinking you're not complaining. But actually, if you do an inventory of your thoughts of your small talk of even your self talk to yourself, are you complaining? Now the reason it matters, even in your self talk is when you complain about something in your own life to yourself. You start engaging the victim mindset, we start becoming self victimizing, we start feeling sorry for ourselves. And I gotta tell you from a person who plays that role, well, minute, I start feeling sorry for myself, life is harder. I immediately go into like, every version of the 1.0 meet possible. I get jealous. I feel bad for myself. I feel like a martyr. Everything's harder. And I want justification on what somebody didn't notice that I'm working hard. And honestly, it's just unnecessary. And so even if you're calling yourself out and going, like today, like maybe maybe even today, you said to yourself today's really hard, like this sucks, like they have too much to do. And they need me to do this. And they need me to do that. And do you notice my tone? That's what I that tone is what I know when I start complaining to myself, I might not be officially complaining but my tone is complaining. And what it does is it makes me feel like oh my goodness, my life is so hard. There's so much to do. Woe is me and you guys, what it does is it separates us from this absolutely extraordinary experience of life that we have, or from the privilege it is to get to do those things. Even saying like I have to go to work is a complaint because of the tone. And because the introductory like you know, exasperated statement. Working is a privilege you get to work. I am really just humbled by the privilege it is to be a woman and 2024 200 years ago I wouldn't be able to be an entrepreneur right 200 years ago wouldn't have even had the privilege of the freedom to choose my own husband. It you start taking into account how privileged we are to do the basic things that we sometimes complain about, and it gives you perspective. Maya Angelou said this what you're supposed to do when you don't like a thing is change it if you can't change it change the way you think about it. Don't complain. I tell my kids this might be an exaggeration, but it is what I remind myself. No one likes a complainer.

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It's true, like we because if you can't change it, why are we talking about it? If you can't change it change the way you think about it. Zig Ziglar said this be grateful for what you have and stop complaining. Okay, I love this. It bores everyone else and bores everyone else does you know good and doesn't solve any problems. Eckhart Tolle says this, see if you can catch yourself complaining I in either speech or thought about a situation that you find yourself in what other people do or say Your surroundings your life situation, even the weather to complain is always non acceptance of what is it invariably carries an unconscious negative charge. When you complain, you make yourself a victim, leave the situation, change the situation or accept it. All else is madness, leave the situation, change the situation or accept it. And so he highlights so much here that there's, there's a lot that we complain about ourselves, our surroundings, our neighbors, the way work is the coworker. The way the sports organization did something politicians, your government taxes, okay, like the week we could go on and on. But you either leave, change or accept it. Harvey Mackay says this, and I really like this, we'll go on to the coaching after this final quote here. When you wake up every day, you have two choices. You can either be positive or negative, an optimist or a pessimist. I choose to be an optimist. It's all a matter of perspective. I think that I would add to it, you can be a complainer or appraiser. You could complain or have gratitude. You could complain or be thankful. And here, when we're talking about micro complaints, in general, I'm referring to when you express minor, often trivial, like grievances or annoyances. So maybe it's weather complaints. You're you throw around so hot today. I can't believe it's raining again, right? Like, is that unnecessary way to say that? We really when it comes down to like, it's not that it's right or wrong to complain. I just want you to ask yourself, Is this helpful? Does it help for me to complain? Now there are scenarios by the way, I have been around a friend where I trust them and I say, Listen, you know, I'm intentionally positive. I need a listening ear for one minute. Can I just complain to you about this thing? That's overwhelming. And then I'm going to be done? I'm gonna purge it, and no more. And that's Yeah. Okay. So there's time in place. But we say these things. So off handedly, traffic, the traffic traffic, like took forever to change. Whereas there was some traffic on the street. Maybe food issues. My hot my coffee isn't hot enough. They didn't put enough salt on this. The sandwich has too much mail. Who Why did they put a tomato on it? I told him not to put it he may not want it. It seems like we're just stating facts. But it's a complaining spirit. And a complaining spirit is a negative spirit. It will sweep you into a sense of ungratefulness. And the minute we get shaky in our gratitude, so much competence gets thrown out the window. Maybe it's technology. I look raising my hand to some of these technology frustrations. The internet so slow today, the Wi Fi keeps disconnected. The phone is is frozen, workplace stuff. Printers always jammed office do is too cold. The coworkers are annoying. Or maybe inconveniences little personal ones like I left my headphones at home. Oh, I gotta get gas. These are two that I did recently. last 24 hours, those thoughts came up, and I corrected them. It's not a problem that you have a complaining thought. The problem is when you don't notice it. I want you to notice it and say does this hurt meat? Or does it help me? It's not very helpful when I think about it in a way. That's very self pitying and very negative. Is there a more neutral way? I can say the same thing. I'd rather not go get gas but I I'm really gonna go get gas because my my car needs gas. Or maybe even better of what a privilege it is that I have the money to pay for gas without stressing about it. Yeah, so I don't want to say what I don't feel like stuffing to fill up my tank. And like, sometimes I just say back to my complaints. So what it's been so helpful as a human for me to have children, which sounds odd but like as far as my own self thought correction, because we make my two kids who are at the time of this recording, almost seven and then nine. When my seven and nine year old complain. I'm like, okay, and it wouldn't when my son says I'm so bored. I'm like, okay, like it's so neutral to me their complaint has no it doesn't move me because I'm like Okay, so do something about it. And so it's interesting you can use that kind of voice that parenting voice to yourself to to neutralize some of the complaining voice to go look that's just helpful for you to complain about that. I'm not gonna we're not gonna change this right now. Maybe you're you have you're complaining about what you see on social media you're criticizing people or you you're irritated when someone sends you send you a long voice message or when people take pictures of their food or whatever pet peeve you might have a maybe you have complaints, micro complaints about your daily routines. I hate having to wake up early. I hate where they've put my kids soccer field I have to drive across town these had that one I kept I kept being really angry about the soccer field that we had to drive to. And I call myself out of like, okay, you can complain. But like it really just does nothing but put you in a bad mood. And then I show up at the field. And I'm not the Trish that I want to be around other parents I can be friends with. Or even just things. What's crazy about these micro complaints are often very small, everyday issues that don't significantly impact your life, but they can be really, really deteriorating to your overall energy, and your overall spirit. And so here are some of the impacts was why I wanted to do a whole whole session on it. Your well being when you focus constantly on negative aspects, it creates a sub current of negativity in your life leading to increased stress and dissatisfaction. It also perpetuates a negative mood, making it harder to enjoy positive aspects of life. Like when I was complaining about the soccer field that I had to drive to become, I have to take him to soccer practice. Whereas you guys, I want to let you know. I am living my dream life. I am literally every to every detail. I some living the life I designed 12 years ago and worked hard and just seem so delighted to be living. And I work for myself and I make my own hours. And I have the privilege to stop working the afternoon to drive my son to a sport that he loves and to enjoy it. But because I was complaining, I couldn't focus on the good things. I just got more irritated about the way they were running the organization. The coaching HCA Oh, now we got matched with the coach I didn't like, you guys it's complaining is contagious. So I just want to highlight what it does is it robs you of the joy that you're so deserving to have making it truly. And again, I preface this all by saying I am a person who generally massively enjoys her life. And when I allow micro complaining, it starts poking holes in my ability to enjoy the positive aspects of my life. It also then turns your whole perception and your into being more attuned to other negative things that are going on. The other thing it does, if you don't catch it is that it creates interpersonal strain. Because if you become a person who was making small, regular complaints, it wears down on your friendships, your family, it's draining, it's annoying, it's boring. It's it leads to tension or conflict, or people stop avoiding you. And again, this is why it's so critical. You might not realize you're doing it. It's that's why I really liked that quote, complaining is like bad breath, you only notice it when it's on someone else.

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And so it creates this. This also this cognitive bias, making it more natural for you to find other things that are negative to dwell on. And, and the reason though, I wanted to go Okay, so all this is bad, but why don't we do it. But here's why there is cultural bonding, that sometimes happens when sharing minor grievances, it's sometimes serves as a bonding experience helping you feel understood or connected. I gotta be honest, though, I think in some context, myself included, it is lazy, social content. I think in some contexts, we're just a little bit awkward socially. So we think, oh, you know, I should do I should complain about the weather or make a comment. And often we go to the negative. And this is, this is just normal. And we can correct it. Right. So sometimes we, we aren't aware of how negative it comes off. We don't know other ways to connect with others, if social complaining sometimes becomes acceptable, small talk, or we just start small talk or way to connect with somebody. But then also other reasons why it happens is, I think sometimes we just want to be acknowledged, we want to acknowledge the hard. And we end up feeling sorry for ourselves when we were doing doing doing doing. But here's the thing, there's a difference between acknowledging and complaining. And I have learned that when I find myself struggling with micro complaints, I need to do more work on self validation, I need to go back to my 333 method. If you don't know what the three through three method is, you can get my free training on it. So it's a quick download and a 10 minute training on a three minute. It's a three minute process that I do every night, that's honestly it's life changing for how my how I see myself how I talk to myself how I track my wins, and how I can I can really nurture the self validating voice. So when I find myself complaining more, I noticed that sometimes I've gotten a little lazy about not doing that the 333 at night, so but I find that I want to I want to acknowledge the heart and when I don't do the 333 I'm often not crediting myself for the wins. And so what's really important to help you break yourself of the habit of complaining in small ways is to continue to say Look at me go hey, this was hard. Look at that. I'm crushing it. Hey, that was hard. Look at how much just start reflecting back to yourself how much you are doing, how much is going well. And so when something does didn't go well or something doesn't isn't done is is inconvenient is annoying, you're just like, okay, so it's life, there's so many other good things, you've created a positive cognitive bias versus a negative one. Here are some things that you can do. I wanted to give you some takeaways of what you can do to start catching yourself and these micro complaints. Number one, I've already mentioned it, ground yourself and gratitude. That means intentional gratitude, I don't want you to say I'm a thankful person, I want you actually practicing gratitude on a consistent basis, this might be in conversation at dinner, it might be in prayer with God or with your children. It might be written, I really, really believe in writing five gratitudes down every day, it could be in the 333 method, which includes gratitude, it could be gratitude on the go that I teach, which is a as you're going in you and you make a fist and then come up with 10. As you're doing breath work, you come up with 10 things to that you're grateful for, it will shift your whole mental atmosphere and emotional state from negative to positive. So grounding yourself in gratitude, it's really hard to complain when you're grateful. Then the other thing we've already mentioned earlier was the get to versus have to, every time you catch yourself saying I have to do this, please know that you are almost like you're you're sowing the seeds for complaint down the road. I have to make my sandwich for my husband like I so I make my husband lunch, every breakfast and lunch every morning before he goes out to work. And often a little bit of a rush. And just yesterday, I was recording something doing something getting the kids ready for swim practice. And by the way, he's taking his time as you should he is having taking his time get himself ready for work. And I thought to myself, I have to do it all. I have to go make him lunch now. And I literally quickly I could feel my whole attitude go from a really positive productive morning to this like resentment and bitterness and like dread, because I said I have to it was the tone of complaining. And in between my office the kitchen, which is not very far. I caught that tone. And I went we talked about Trish, you have a husband you have a marriage you adore children who are amazing and healthy. And you get and you owe the ability to buy any food you want healthy food is flowing out of your refrigerator more than you need. I get to make my husband lunch. I get to make sure that he eats because sometimes you forget it. He gets busy and then he'll like I forgot to eat lunch today. I'm like what are you talking about? I get to love on my husband in this way. I get to work for myself. So I can take a four minute break. To go put together something that will make somebody else smile that I love. Let's be honest, when somebody else makes you a sandwich, it tastes better than when you make your own like or is that true? Right like so even if it's just I get to love on my husband and make his morning easier. It will take you right out so catching your when you notice when your brain is saying have to versus get too big, big difference. And to think about your brain in your if your brain is a garden and you're growing fruit and trees in this beautiful experience of life, you either have positive soil or negative soil and whatever is in your soil your thoughts are seeds and what will grow from the seeds depends on how good the quality of that soil is. And you want to grow good beautiful things make sure you have good beautiful soil which means that cannot have complaint in it negative soils made of complaining criticism and comparison. I think there's also we've we've already tipped our hat to this but there's a victim mode awareness being aware of yourself when you're falling into self victimizing talk or victim speak. This is really hard I can do all that. It's I have to is really that big trigger word. I have to do all this. I have to stay eight hours to do this. Do you are you get to be in you're in college, you get to have access to higher education. Like I think sometimes we complain about having to do something more than somebody else because of maybe different types of learning or different types of family background. It's still you have to go back to gratitude go I get to

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and this is a good thing. I acknowledge Hey, this could be a challenge tonight. But I get to do it. And this really comes to APR it's called absolute personal responsibility. This is a term I got from Robin Sharma and his book really fabulous book called What the wealth money can't buy. great read for any of you who really wants to live a wealthy life and he certainly talks about finances but he talks about a full fully rich life so incredible read, but he talks about a P our absolute personal responsibility taking absolute personal responsibility You have your thoughts and your emotions. And that's why I wanted to bring today's episode up of like, we're really weeding out the tiny weeds of the soil of our minds. Because when you're a person who's not who doesn't complain, you just take ownership, you take ownership, you take x, you X you, you're leaning into acceptance of what is, or the willingness to change, if you're able to change it. And that is absolute personal responsibility really goes with that. Maya Angelou quote, what your do what you're supposed to do when you don't like a thing is change it if you can't change it, change the way you think about it. Don't complain. Complaining doesn't solve problems. It just creates negativity. And it probably gives off a false expression of you that other people are receiving that is more negative than you actually are. The final method I wanted to give you final takeaway, before we close today's coaching, is the power of choice. I know that we often complain because we go well, I don't really have any good choices here. It's awful. Like when you find yourself cornered, or your rock bottom or everything's going wrong, it is absolutely critical. To remind yourself that you have a choice, you always have a choice. Now you might not like your two choices. But you always have a choice. No one can take away your choice. And I think that sometimes we're but I don't like my choices. And then we complain about that. But if we just say like I have to accept what this is, whatever my situation is, here it is. What is the choice I want, you have power in your choice, and that can give you confidence. And when you have power in a choosing proactive way, there's no need to complain because you're moving forward, you're creating change through your choice. Okay, here's the final thing I'm going to tell you guys today, I actually have an upcoming workshop in the college competence, which if you don't know, the College of competence is my intimate group coaching program. It is contract free or risk free, cancel at any time. And when you join, if it doesn't absolutely massively exceed your expectations, we give you your money back within the first 14 days period. So but in the COC, we are doing a live workshop on complaining and we also have an anti complaining challenge that is going to be happening. It's all starting next week, it's going to be paired up with this full coaching workshop and workbook on really how to how to scan your brain and pull up these micro complaints so that you live with more joy and more productivity. You can join the college confidence at College of confidence.com. And you'll get in on both of those things. I am making the challenge the 40. It's a 48 Anti complaining challenge and making that available for free to everyone. All you need to do is go follow me on Instagram. I'm Trish underscore Blackwell and find one of my posts and under any of my posts, just comment the word challenge. And then I'll DM you all the steps to the what you need to do. It's three we're doing it's three steps you take every day for 48 hours and there's a whole sequence. It's super simple. I just don't want you to miss out on this. So make sure you go Trish underscore Blackwell on Instagram. And then come join us in the College of competence. 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