Podcast #606

FEELING INSECURE AROUND OTHER WOMEN

If you ever feel insecure around other women – or find yourself comparing yourself when you’re in groups of other women, this podcast is for you.  Maybe you turn down social opportunities, or you just don’t get along with female coworkers or you just feel more comfortable around guys than you do girls … this episode is for you. The truth is, there are a lot of women who feel insecure around other women. From the pressure to impress and the culture of comparison and competition, to the pervasive thoughts of exclusion and inferiority, there’s pressure when women gather. The good news is that there is a way to break the pattern and to disrupt this limiting pattern of thinking that makes you play small, or show up awkward, when you don’t need to do anything but be the magnificent version of you that you are. 

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we are coaching on: 

  • Self-created insecurity around other groups of women
  • How to identify intimidation within yourself and what to do about it
  • 5 actionable things you can do to feel more confident right away 

REVIEW OF THE WEEK

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INSECURITY AROUND OTHER WOMEN

Comparison

Competition

Culture

Pressure to impress

Thoughts of exclusion

Inferiority consent 

5 ACTIONABLE THINGS TO DO:

  1. Compliment intentionally
  2. Preemptively build yourself up (know what you bring)
  3. Give yourself permission to “be different”
  4. Gratitude on the go (to short circuit the “why am I here”)
  5. Find the good – and find the connection

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

Episode #585: Self-Talk and Self-Validation

Narrative Intelligence Mastery Course 

www.trishblackwell.com/nq

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If you ever feel insecure, especially around other women, or you find yourself comparing or over analyzing when you're in groups of other people, this podcast episode is for you. Maybe you turn down social opportunities, or you're not yourself when you're in a big group where you just don't get along with female coworkers. Or maybe you feel more comfortable with the guys than you do the girls. This episode is for you. The truth is, there are a lot of women who feel insecure around other women. And it's from a pressure to impress, and this culture of comparison and competition, and pervasive thoughts of exclusion and inferiority, y'all, there's pressure when women gather. The good news is that there is a way that we can break this pattern. There's a way to disrupt this limiting pattern that you're thinking that I'm just not good around other women. That's just a thought. And we are going to help you change that thought and make it a more helpful narrative today, you no longer do you need to play small show up awkward feel like you don't belong. You don't need to do anything other than be the magnificent version of you. That you are. We're gonna talk about that in this episode. So buckle up. Let's dive in. You're listening to the confidence podcast, the go to coaching podcast, oozing with motivation, and easy to implement steps that help you to be bold, and confident in life. I'm your host, Trish Blackwell, internationally recognized confidence coach, best selling author, and founder of the College of confidence. I teach go getters in life, how to master their self talk, turn down the volume of self doubt, and get more results in life. So that you can be the difference maker and world changer. God created you to be you were made for more. And today's episode will help you tap into it. Let's go. Hey, guys, it's Trish Blackwell. Welcome to the confidence podcast.

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This is episode 606. And today's episode, we're talking about insecurity around other women. I can't wait to help you find some freedom here. And it might just be you might not pinpoint it as insecure. You might just say I overthink or I feel a little bit awkward, or there's certain types of women that make me feel intimidated. It all originates from a thought error in your head. And we're going to correct that thought error today. So that you can just be yourself and enjoy people. And know that if you are feeling awkward, you could just walk away. Or you could just allow the feeling to pass and realize that no one else is really thinking about you are analyzing you to the extent that your brain is probably offering that it is so hey, if you're new to the show, welcome. We are so happy you are here. We we gather every every week, new episodes drop every Tuesday. So if this is your first time listening, I'm so happy you're here. My goal every week is to make sure you get a powerful and applicable strategy to implement into your life. So you elevate your competence and your courage and your absolute radiance of who you are to go be the you that you are meant to be in this world. When people are fully alive. They are fully effective. We need good, passionate, effective, confident people in this world, the world needs you to rise up. And so that every week I equip you for new ways to do just that. If you're a returning listener, y'all your family. I'm so happy you're here. Thanks for all of you who are reaching out to me on Instagram. I'm Trish underscore Blackwell there. And I want to give a special shout out to our review of the week. It's actually the review of the month, y'all I'm going to call this out thank you so much Suwan for writing change to single life, she wrote a five star review and says I'm really enjoying your episodes in building my competence. I'm 58 years old and have been a homemaker for 30 years. Now I'm having the need to support myself by going back to school and being retrained. There's a lot of unknowns in my life. So I love listening to your episodes and positive energy and I just want to give you a word of encouragement. It is you are turning if a new season of your life you are fresh start I like to think about this as a restart. And now more than ever, you have more opportunity to learn to be trained, there's so much available. I want you to speak over yourself that the best is yet to come. I know a new season of life, especially if it's unexpected or was unplanned, creates anxiety. There's so much unknown there's so much like what if I can't and you are in the right place to build up your self concept your self esteem and your belief that you have the ability to really purposely design your life and that your future is better than your past. We teach five pillars of confidence in the College of confidence, my intimate group coaching experience. You can find out more about that at collegeofconfidence.com. But the five pillars of confidence are to know who you are, know that you matter. Know what you want, know how to think. And that's what we were we do a lot of that on the competence podcast know how to think. And then the fifth pillar, which is what I wanted to share is know that your future rocks your future can be greater than your past if you decide that it will be so oh that to be said, I'm really excited for you. And I'm grateful for you, you guys. If this show has positively impacted you in any way, my big ask is that you leave a review in iTunes folder, season one and keeps me massively encouraged. And two, it helps us reach more people. So thanks in advance for those you who will do that this week. This week in this coaching, we're going to talk about self created insecurity around other groups of women, how to identify the spirit of intimidation, I think there's this emotion that happens. The reason we feel insecure in other groups of women is we allow ourselves to be intimidated, and how to identify intimidation within yourself, but more importantly, to actually do about it. And then we're going to close out with five actionable things that you can do to feel more confident right away. Let's talk about though why is this intimidation happening? Why does? Do groups of women end up being really challenging places to be? And there's, I think, a couple of reasons. I think there's comparison, there's a there's competition this we live in a culture where we are, there's pressure to impress No, let's be honest, I don't know if those of you who watch bridgerton I am a mid season of virgin and loving it social comparison. And women being Catty, and manipulative and wanting to one up one another has always been a thing in society and culture. But I want to offer to you the confident women have in partaking in that if you are confident you don't need to impress other people you don't need to try to fit in, you're okay being different, because you have a fundamental belief that you are not. And so know that when there is pressure to impress, and there's one up someone went up and ship and we're comparing our children or where we're wanting to be on trend with what we drive, what vehicle we're spending, what vacations we take what we wear, all of that is this, ultimately a reflection of a of a complex that we give into that we are competing to be good enough, we are competing to be liked. We are competing for attention, and it is a fruitless effort. We are chasing the wind. And what we're doing is we're giving consent to inferiority, we're creating our own inferiority complex by trying harder to get other people to like us by things that are external and so fleeting, and so you end up feeling empty and awkward. Alright, you the the famous one of my favorite quotes by Eleanor Roosevelt is that no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. And if I were to paint the reason, reason I did this episode is I had so many people I was coaching on about the dynamics and how they felt awkward and just kind of didn't enjoy being around women. And when we broke it apart and peel back the onion layers, we realized there was a lot going on, about comparison. And there was a lot of self created insecurity. And often we pinpoint one or two people that intimate us that we for whatever reason think they're better than us. They're either smarter, prettier, wealthier, more successful, more connected, more put together. There's something that you've said, Ooh, she's ahead of me, which then you allow your brain because you're not correcting that thought to say, Ooh, she's better than me. And then we then create an inner narrative that she's probably judging me. I know, I'm not the only one because I've coached hundreds of people on this, that we then this is all happening, by the way, in a flash of a second, where you're, you're intimidating yourself. You're creating a narrative about somebody that you really don't know what they're thinking about. And then you're flipping that and saying, oh, man, she's judging me, she's picking me apart, she probably thinks I'm this. And all of that is made up. None of it's happening. It is a false narrative in your head. And so we are giving in to this, what I call a spirit and emotion, of intimidation, you're allowing yourself to be intimidated. You're allowing yourself to give consent to impute to being inferior. Because as as Roosevelt said, you can only feel inferior if you give someone consent, its meaning it's all in our heads. And one of the ways we overcome this is by simply deciding that we belong, that we have something to contribute. I also think it's this don't over overlook the simplicity of this statement. But this is a really, really powerful affirmation. People like me, say that to yourself a next social situation. I'm a friendly person. I'm an open person. I'm a good listener. I'm joyful. I'm funny, whatever it Insert your certainty about yourself, and then finish it with people like me, I'm likeable. It's so crazy that that's such a simple statement that will transform your belief about how you can operate in social situations. And rather than go, Oh no, another group of women or all these ladies, again, they're always gossiping or chatting or picking apart like, Guys, it's just those are people who are just bored. And just allow yourself to be different and say, Hey, I know I'm likeable. But the reason that this is happening is that, we're just assuming that this is what we have to deal with. We have a lot of women who want to feel like they fit in. And so there's over performance, there's over comparison. And I just want you to know, you can just choose not to buy into that, you can choose to do things different in the same way for those of you who have, who have children, if you're raising your family intentionally, right. And you and your spouse or your partner, say we want to raise our family, this is how our family will operate, we will do these things, we will do these things, we will not do these things. This is how we want to raise my kids, you get to decide how you operate as a family, how you operate as a parent, you also get to decide how you operate individually. And you can simply decide, I'm really great socially. And if people start picking people apart, and it turns into a negative experience, run around this group of people, I'm just gonna walk away. I'm okay being different. I'm okay, not participating. And the reason you can do that, and you can walk away and not say, something's wrong with me, is because you, you have to first fundamentally like you, I'm okay being different, because I like me. Now, that leads to a question that came up in the College of competence. Actually, this week, I was coaching one of our members on well, how do I actually learn to like myself? And the answer is, we have one, we have tons of courses and resources on that in the COC. But the quick answer is to like yourself, you spend time with yourself. And that sounds really simplistic, but the reality is that we live in a very, very, very, very busy world, where we are Oh, my gosh, squeezing, you know, three days into one day, and you're often so investing in other people that you aren't slowing down to invest in yourself. And that is why it's so critical. One to journal five minutes a day, can change how you see yourself, I think that we think oh, journaling has to be an hour, it can be something super simple, super short. But giving yourself time to self time to spend time with yourself is transformational. When you meet a new friend,

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they start as an acquaintance. And the more time you spend with them, the better friends you become, the more you get to know about them, the more you find out what they enjoy and what they don't enjoy. The more conversations you have with them, the more shared history you have. It's the same thing with spending time with yourself. You've got to spend time, give yourself little moments of margin to get to know yourself. And the other thing I wanted to highlight that I think that what comes up in inferiority around other women is that you haven't if you're feeling insecure, or you feel like you don't belong, there are probably some self critical thoughts that are going in your head that are telling you that you're not enough, I'm not skinny enough, I'm not fit enough. I'm not funny enough, I'm not clever enough, I'm not rich enough, I'm not socially skilled enough, I my kids aren't impressive enough. Like there's something that you you have decided that you fall short, because if you if you didn't feel like you were falling short, you probably wouldn't feel insecure, you're afraid that they might think less of you. And here's how we overcome that we work on the self critical thoughts. We work on the narrative. And if you are new to my show, one of the things you know there's there's two core types of intelligence that are common. It's it's your IQ, your intellectual intelligence and your EQ, which is your eat your emotional intelligence. And if you're new to the show, this is a new concept I introduced a few few months ago, and it's your n q, your narrative intelligence and your narrative intelligence is the ability to talk to yourself in a powerful way. It is learning how to be be aware of what your inner narrative is, and then how to change it. So it is life giving them it really is it's based on how to have positive self talk and positive self validation. And I actually, I'll make sure to link this in the show notes. Episode 585 of this podcast is self talk and self validation, how to be nicer to yourself, that is a really great start. And then I have a whole course we did a whole course on narrative intelligence, you can get access to that at Trish blackwell.com forward slash n q I will walk you through the exact process of how to assess where your n q is and how to scale up and improve your MQ, when you change your MQ, I really fleet feel like you change your confidence you change your life, you change your future. So, but the one of the toxic things that creates social anxiety, social insecurity, and feeling judged by other women, and feeling like on edge or that just like you can't really be yourself is that you're criticizing yourself in some way, and then assuming you're being judged. And so I would really encourage you to work on that self critical voice, and being really curious, which is why that episode 585 is going to help you get started. If you want to get accelerated results on criticism, and comparison, then I want to invite you into the college of competence. This month of July, we are actually doing all of our coaching and workshops and courses are going to be themed around the cancers to competence, which are criticism, comparison, and complaining, so you can go risk free contract free comm gives us dry at college incompetence.com. But let's get into the the really the intimidation emotion I want you to this may not be the emotion that's making you feel on edge or not quite yourself, or insecure when you're around other women. And by the way, let's define that insecure around other women, does it mean you're cowering in a corner? It just means that you know, you're not being yourself? You know, you're overthinking before you say something, you know, you think about saying something that might be funny, then you don't say it like you're just not yourself. So let's be clear, sometimes there are different levels and expressions of insecurity. And what we're talking about here could be any anywhere on that on that sliding scale. But anytime that you're not just even being you, I believe that's enough to say let's not, let's not do that. Because then the watered down version of you is not the you the world needs. But I think that's often there's something that we're intimidating ourselves, maybe we're intimidating ourselves and saying like that. I don't want to say the wrong things. If that means you're intimidating yourself saying I need to be like perfect socially, I don't want to say the wrong thing. I don't want to be dorky. I don't want to insult them. Or maybe you're intimidated by their social connections or the way that they seem put together or their hair is always on point. I'm gonna tell you something. Look, I'm always gonna be vulnerable here, you can count on me to tell you what's going on in my brain so that you feel less alone in the the wily, what we call toddler thoughts, this the stray thoughts that happened in your head. But my social intimidation often came from people who have what I perceive as perfect hair. Now a little context to that. My mom has very, very, very, very, like very, very curly hair. So much so that she's never grown it out. She kind of just keeps it in a bob. And she I love her hair. And her hair is just like her mom's hair and her sister's hair. And when she had me and she had my brother, apparently the first question she asked the doctor was, do they have straight hair, she so hates her curly hair that all she did was pray for our hair to not be curly. That said my mom was very, very curly hair did actually not know how to will teach me how to curl my hair usually so not. So anyways, as a as a little girl. Hair was just not a thing. We kept it short. And I don't blame my mom. It's just she didn't know how to teach me how to do my hair well. And at the time to all my friends were getting highlights. All my friends had the money to go to salons and we just simply didn't. And so not even through college, I really didn't have the income or the funds to have highlights to get a style to to know what to do to buy more expensive hair products. So I've always secretly harbored this hair insecurity. I'm intimidated by hairstylist, I overthink. And truly it's just because I'm like a little kid learning something in my 20s Right now I'm in my 40s. So I know more now, but I had to learn how to come into my own hair confidence, if you will. And I have and I love my hair and I know how to style it in the way that I like. And I've got lots of options now. So don't don't feel sorry for me. My point of telling you all of this is that in social situations, if I am in admiration of someone's hair, like wild big like I love like, like red curly, like but gorgeous curls. Like, I'm like, What are you doing? I don't know how you do this, like, I will be so distracted by my admiration of somebody's hair. That then I feel like really awkward insecure and like I start fixing my hair. And then I get in my head and I'm like, Oh no, like, oh, I should have washed my hair today. If she think I'm really I mean, y'all. It's crazy where the brain can go when we let it run wild. And all I'm giving this example for is that I need you to know and identify within yourself. What are my triggers? What are my intimidation triggers? They don't need to make sense. They don't need to be here's not that important to me. But apparently it is a very And I've done the work to reflect on why is it that I wasn't myself? Why did I allow? Why did I walk away from that situation feeling awkward and knowing that I wasn't truly Trish. And often I'll go, Oh, I was feeling intimidated, or I was judging myself. And I follow that rabbit trail and go, Why was I judging myself? Oh, because I was like, Oh, her hair is perfect. And mine's in a bun today. And she must think I'm sloppy or this, do that work for yourself. Think about the last time you felt you walked away from a social gathering. could be it could be social, it could be for pleasure. It could be for for for work for business, it could be a gathering at church, a meeting up meet up at the at the park with your kids, but that you walked away and you go, it wasn't a bad situation. It was not a bad exchange. But I wasn't myself. Why wasn't I myself? That's where we start getting power. Asking yourself, the quality of your questions really will create the quality of your life and the quality and acceleration of your growth. And so we just simply want to say versus beating yourself up and going, Oh, I shouldn't have I should have been like myself. No, like, why wasn't I myself? Why did I feel will awkward? Why did I cross my arms and like start to shut down? Why did I start bragging? I don't know how you respond. We there's so many people that respond. Why did I start bragging or talking about the weather? Or even just ask yourself like, what are your patterns when you start feeling awkward? And then get curious and go? What is it was it about that person? Because it's not that person's fault. It's your thoughts fault, right? We're not we are taking full ownership. But get curious with different examples where this has happened and go, I wonder what it is about her. I used to there were certain women architects of women that I would meet and I'm like, Oh, she's perfect. And then I would immediately let my see comparative thought she's perfect, therefore she's better. And my thoughts about myself would plummet. And I would go into a critical voice and then y'all Trish trashy Trish comes out, as far as like in my thoughts, and I just become a shell of a person. But I had to identify, oh, the thought error there is that she's perfect. What says like, and we know nobody's perfect. And compared to what Trish Come on. And so the there's a thought error, something is happening in your brain. If you're walking away from a social situation, and you go, Oh, I just feel kind of sick. Now, but let me actually add to that if you're walking away from a social situation, that was an achy situation, maybe a

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negative conversation, a conversation where people were gossiping or complaining and you walk away good, you walked away and you feel yucky, that's good, you did the right thing. I'm talking about a general kind of casual gathering or interaction where you're like, why wasn't I myself? Why did I overthink? Why? Why don't I let them see the real me or the part of me that I want them to see. So you want to find the thought error? What is the error that is creating the narrative in your brain. It's just a thought that we want to correct we want to identify that thought. And then we work it backwards to start to talk back to that thought, we start to rewire that thought and you start saying over yourself who you want to be and how you want to show up your, your job to remind yourself of how amazing you are. And I'm going to show up every Tuesday. And I'm showing up a lot on Instagram right now as well too. So come hang out with me there but and I show if you're on my email list, you do that if you're in the COC, you're live coaching with me multiple times a week, so I'm I am going to show up either if you're here every Tuesday, if you're in the College of competence multiple times a week. I'm gonna show up for you I'm gonna remind you of who you are. That's fine. I feel like it's my life's calling to look and remind you of your potential remind you of your magnificence. Remind you that you are an absolute masterpiece handcrafted by God like and that you have purpose. But how many times we're going to interact and week, I still need you to do the work. I still need you to learn to build yourself up to learn to self validate to learn the self talk to change your narrative intelligence and to identify your thought errors and talk back to them again, Episode 585 is going to be a really great start. And then you can get your hands on narrative intelligence. That course is available at Trish blackwell.com forward slash n Q. But let's finish out with talking about what are the five actionable things you can do to to really sort of shortcut some of this insecurity some of this overthinking some of this not being fully yourself in social situations or around other women. Five quick things that you can do. Goodin compliment intentionally did you know that you come off more confident and more attractive when you compliment other people. And the beautiful thing about compliments is that I consider them like a boomerang. A compliment is a boomerang you put it out towards someone. It eventually is going to come back to you people will build you up but also your inner narrative your inner self talk is also hearing it and the more that you speak positively and uplifting. We are If, with affirmations towards other people, you build others up, you are training subconsciously, that inner voice inside of you to say this is just how I talk. So the more you build others up, the more you are also subconsciously training yourself to be a person who builds yourself up to looks for the good, who finds the good, who says, Wow, I love that. You look amazing. You get great tasting clothes, your shoes are incredible. Wow, a year kids are just so polite. Well, like build others up compliment intentionally, you will appear more confident and you will feel more confident because people will be drawn to you. So number one, number two, preemptively build yourself up. Okay, so this is what we were talking about. It's your job to build yourself up, it's your job to remind yourself of who you are, I do this work with my students in the COC. And with my one on one clients, we literally go and we go, let me remind you of who you are, it's and then we make the list, we decide who that person is. And we review that list. Know what you bring to the table, know yourself well enough to know that you don't need to be this this expression and this type of personality. Because the the these four core personality traits that you do have, they're amazing. But we got to do the work to figure out what those are. And then you've got to be intentional about building yourself up and reminding you of what those are. And again, if this feels overwhelming, this is the work we do in the COC I will guide you along the way, you do not have to do this on your own. It's number three, actionable item number three, give yourself permission to be different. This is this this one simple phrase is life changing for me. I'm different. You see, I had some of this intimidation with about four years ago in a new social circle, lots of parents. And I kept walking away from these big gatherings of women going Why am I just like, I'm not me. I'm not this is not me. And like I couldn't be myself. And I felt like I finally realized I was trying to be like them. And it was a wonderful group of women are incredibly great moms. And the reality is that there were like, I'm an entrepreneur, I am a passionate entrepreneur, I have a unique obsession with snowboarding, and surfing and traveling and languages. And those were my people. And the minute I finally said, Oh, I'm just different. And I actually still interact with this group of larger group of people. And I enjoy them so much more simply because I've given myself permission. Just to be myself. I'm different. I'm different. I'm extreme. I wake up at 430 in the morning, sometimes just to get my run in this morning, I woke up at 430 to run nine miles before had to take my kids to a swim meet at six. And yeah, that's different. I'm not everyone's cup of tea, I am a little intense. I will drive three hours to snowboard for to like, yeah, I will read dictionaries for fun because I love words that much. I'm always studying language, I can help change your language in your brain more. And you know what, here's the thing, it's, and then once you give yourself permission to be different, you're not trying as hard anymore, you're just yourself. And then you can join other people for their differences, and the intimidation and the judgment and the competition and all the comparison it melts away. And then when you do find someone and you meet somebody who has some of the same differences as you, you nerd out, I recently met someone who's a linguist, and she's a neighbor. She was at a neighborhood party. And the minute I heard that she mentioned the dictionary, and it was like casual conversation. I was like, oh, oh, do you like you like words? And turns out she does. She lived in Spain. She loves languages and like, I just felt so understood. When I got to meet someone who's like, oh, let's talk about linguistics, or something I feel really understood when someone wants talk about psychology. And it's okay that I don't feel understood when I find myself in a conversation, maybe in a group of teachers. And I remind myself of that because I feel like oh man, I have nothing contribute. I've been to happy hours where I'm the only non teacher. But you know what I love about teachers. I love teachers. I love hearing about their lives I love having deeper appreciation for them because they're teaching my children and I had to give myself permission to say it's okay you don't have something to contribute to the conversation right now you're different and your differences good and their differences good. So allow that that I'm different statement to be really freeing for you. The fourth thing is gratitude on the go. If you've never heard this, this is one of my my tools that I teach my students and it's it's an a form of intentional gratitude. I believe in written gratitude every day but intentional gratitude is where gratitude only goes when you make a fist with your hands. And in this can be when you're frustrated when you're feeling awkward when you're feeling really like sad and anything when you're in a negative emotion. In and you want to exit quickly, I believe this is one of the fastest ways to do it. Because it forces you to ground yourself in gratitude. And shift your perspective. It doesn't always fix the situation. But it gives you a new way to see it, and your hands are closed, and then one at a time, you come up with 10 things that you're grateful for until your hands are wide open. I've done this while I'm driving. I've done this in a social situation, I just go to the bathroom and make a fist on my hands and do a couple of breaths and just think about like, I'm thankful for the AC. I'm thankful that I was invited to this social situation. Even though I feel awkward, I am thankful that I have people in my life that do deeply understand me, irritates you just whatever, I'm thankful for the smell of coffee, whatever comes to mind, really, you know, superficial or really deep? And it's a way to short to short circuit the Why am I here? I think sometimes when we're around people that make us feel ill, we're like, why even come? And you're like, No, no, if there's so much to be grateful for here. If you can tap into that there's so much to be grateful for here. You can then see things differently and be yourself. And the finally is find the good. Find an ability to connect with everyone find the good in everyone. And if that if that's your mission going into social interactions with us, in particular with other women, find the good, find a way to go, how can I create a connection with this person? That's a really easy way to not be socially awkward. If you're seeking connection, which means you're going to be initiating conversation, you're going to be asking questions, you're going to be expressing curiosity and interest. And that will build them up. They will think you're amazing. Because people feel when they feel seen and heard and like they matter, you become more likeable as a result. Because you've made them feel seen you've made them feel heard you've used their name. And then all sudden, you're the one that's confident. And so if you find the good and find the connection, you you it's an exit ramp to overthinking or insecurity in social situation. So, guys, go check out episode 585 and the narrative intelligence course. It's Trish blackwell.com forward slash n q. And then of course, you don't want to miss this month in the college competence where we're going to be doing workshops and coaching and courses on comparison, self criticism, and complaining. It's going to be game changing. So I will see you there go out there today. Go be more of who God created you to be. Be you.

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