Podcast #605

GHOSTING: STAYING CONFIDENT IN SOCIAL TURMOIL

Getting ghosted hurts. When someone stops talking to you without saying why. When the texts are never returned or you get the cold shoulder in person. I’ve been hurt by it and I’m sure you have too. The more our culture becomes integrated into technology, the more normalized and easy ghosting has become. This episode of The Confidence Podcast will give you a better understanding of ghosting, why it happens and how not to personalize it, and more importantly, how to deal with it without letting it negatively impact your social confidence.

“Ghosting” refers to the sudden and unexplained cessation of all communication by one party in a relationship, whether it be romantic, platonic, or professional. This term is widely used in the context of dating but can apply to any situation where a person abruptly cuts off all contact without warning or explanation. Here are a few key aspects of ghosting:

  1. Sudden Disappearance: The person who ghosts disappears from the other person’s life without any prior indication. They stop responding to messages, calls, and any form of communication.
  2. No Explanation: The person being ghosted is left without an explanation or closure, often leading to confusion and emotional distress.
  3. Common in Digital Communication: Ghosting has become more prevalent with the rise of digital communication and online dating platforms, where it’s easier to cut off contact without facing the other person directly.
  4. Emotional Impact: Being ghosted can have significant emotional effects, including feelings of rejection, confusion, and a decrease in self-esteem.
  5. Reasons for Ghosting: People may ghost for various reasons, such as not wanting to confront the other person, feeling overwhelmed, losing interest, or finding it easier than having a difficult conversation.

Dealing with ghosting and not personalizing it can be challenging, but there are several strategies you can use to navigate this difficult experience:

How to Deal with Ghosting

Accept the Reality:

  • Acknowledge that you’ve been ghosted and that the other person has chosen to end the communication.
  • Understand that this behavior says more about them than it does about you.

Give Yourself Time:

  • Allow yourself to feel the emotions that come with being ghosted. It’s natural to feel hurt, confused, or rejected.
  • Don’t rush the healing process; give yourself the time you need to process your feelings.

Avoid Overanalyzing:

  • Resist the urge to overanalyze the situation or to seek closure from the person who ghosted you.
  • Understand that you may never get a satisfactory explanation, and that’s okay.

How to Not Personalize Ghosting

Remember It’s Not About You:

  • Recognize that ghosting is a reflection of the other person’s inability to communicate effectively or handle their own emotions.
  • Remind yourself that being ghosted does not diminish your worth or value.

Reflect on the Relationship:

  • Consider the overall quality of the relationship and whether it was truly fulfilling or healthy.
  • Acknowledge that someone who would ghost you may not have been a good match for you in the long run.

Set Boundaries:

  • Establish clear boundaries for yourself in future interactions to protect your emotional well-being.
  • Be mindful of red flags and trust your instincts when something doesn’t feel right.

People ghost others for various reasons, often related to their own discomfort, personal issues, or preferences. Here are some common reasons why people might choose to ghost:

Avoidance of Conflict

  • Fear of Confrontation: Some individuals find it challenging to engage in difficult conversations or confrontations, preferring to avoid the discomfort altogether.
  • Desire to Avoid Hurting Feelings: They might believe that ghosting is a kinder way to end things than explicitly stating their lack of interest or the reasons for ending the relationship.

Lack of Interest

  • Lost Interest: The person may have lost interest in the relationship and feels that disappearing is easier than explaining their change of heart.
  • Short-term Intentions: Sometimes, people engage in relationships with short-term intentions and ghost when they achieve what they were looking for or when the excitement fades.

Overwhelm and Stress

  • Emotional Overwhelm: They might be going through a difficult time emotionally or mentally and feel unable to handle communication or relationships.
  • Life Circumstances: Major life changes or stressors, such as a new job, moving, or personal crises, can lead someone to withdraw from relationships.

Personal Insecurity

  • Low Self-esteem: People with low self-esteem might find it hard to communicate their feelings or needs, leading them to ghost instead.
  • Fear of Rejection: Ironically, the fear of being rejected or criticized might drive someone to ghost to avoid potential negative feedback.

Convenience of Technology

  • Digital Communication: The impersonal nature of digital communication can make it easier for someone to disappear without feeling the immediate impact of their actions.
  • Anonymity and Ease: Dating apps and online interactions can create a sense of anonymity and make it simpler to cut ties without facing consequences.

Lack of Emotional Maturity

  • Immaturity: Some people might not have the emotional maturity or skills needed to communicate effectively and responsibly end relationships.
  • Avoidance of Responsibility: Ghosting can be a way to avoid taking responsibility for their actions or the emotional labor of explaining themselves.

Cultural and Social Norms

  • Normative Behavior: In some social or cultural contexts, ghosting might be more accepted or seen as a common practice, influencing individual behavior.

Understanding the Context

While these reasons can explain why people ghost, it doesn’t justify the behavior, especially given its often hurtful impact. Understanding these reasons can help those who have been ghosted to recognize that the act of ghosting is more about the person doing it than about those who experience it.

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Getting ghosted hurts when someone stops talking to you without saying why? When the texts are never returned, or you get the cold shoulder, shoulder in person, and you're just not sure why I've been hurt by it. And I'm sure you have to have coached dozens of clients on this. And I decided, thanks to some listener submitted questions, it was time to do an entire episode on it. Because the truth is that the more our culture becomes integrated with technology, the more normalized and easy ghosting has become and will continue to be. And this episode of The confidence podcast is going to give you a better understanding of ghosting, why it happens, how not to personalize it and more importantly, how to deal with it without letting it negatively impact your social confidence. Let's dive in. You're listening to the confidence podcast the go to coaching podcast, oozing with motivation, and easy to implement steps that help you to be bold and confident in life. I'm your host, Trish Blackwell internationally recognized confidence coach, best selling author, and founder of the College of competence. I teach go getters in life, how to master their self talk, turn down the volume of self doubt, and get more results in life. So that you can be the difference maker and world changer. God created you to be you were made for more. And today's episode will help you tap into it. Let's go. Hey there, it's Trish Blackwell and you're listening to the confidence podcast. This is episode number 605. And if you are new to the show, I'm so happy you picked this episode. I'm so happy you picked the show of all the at this point millions of shows you can listen to this is the one you chose. So I want you to know this. You belong here. You are welcome here. And my goal is that your time here is well spent that you finished listening to this podcast while you weren't on the treadmill or do your dishes or take your walk or drive in the car. And you feel on fire for life. You feel full and brimming with possibilities and potential. And you remember who you are that you have the confidence and the courage to go create crazy results with your life. And to remember that confidence is a daily choice is a skill that we can learn. And that you will always have a resource that you can turn to so we drop new episodes every Tuesday. And then this Tuesday's episode. Gosh, we're talking about ghosting and if you heard last week's q&a, we last two episodes of the communist podcast, we did two listener q&a sessions. And I had a really interesting question that came up and that was this one on ghosting on how to handle it and how to not get so dejected by it. And the reality is like, y'all, it's a problem. And there's a lot that we're going to go into the full scope of of angles here. But before we dive in and get started one brief announcement, I want to say thank you to everyone who has written reviews, please continue to share the show and write reviews. That is how we grow. I put a lot of heart and soul and passion and time into creating this as a free resource every single week. And the greatest favor you can pay me back is sharing it, making sure you're following the show. And making sure you or someone who has left a review it it is it is such great feedback for me and helps us reach more people with this incredible free resource. So the second thing I want to tell you if you are somebody who wants to really be more proactive in your life and in your thinking and in your habits. And you know, you've got the ambition and you got the know how but you're not consistently executing with confidence and you might be struggling with what we call the three cancers of confidence and that is comparison, complaining and criticizing. And in the month of July, that is what we are coaching on the entire month in the College of competence. So if you're not yet in the COC or if you have been a member but you've taken a pause, it is time to come back. This is a month you do not want to miss go to college confidence.com To get started. So let's talk about ghosting, ghosting and really my goal is that you you have tools after today's episode to stay confident in social turmoil because that is what ghosting feels like. It feels like social turmoil. It feels like you have done something wrong and you can't put your finger on it. I can tell you for me when I get ghosted and guys, let's be honest, sometimes it's completely unintentional. Sometimes we we are people who ghost other people simply because we are so inundated with the to do's that we forget to text somebody back. So there is a measure here to say let's give people the benefit of the doubt. But I know that that is true and yet it still hurts when I text someone and it could be an acquaintance. It could be someone close and if it if the text gets lost lost, and then it gets lost and then I send another text and then that gets lost and never responded to I start personalizing it. I actually start feeling a little stupid i That's my own, your pattern might be different. But I start going, Oh man, I'm such a nerd something I must have said or they're annoyed at me. i It triggers old thinking and social insecurity. And I have to remind myself very proactively, nothing has gone wrong here. That person simply forgot to text me back. This is not a personal attack on the not liking me, right. But it's really interesting. If you were to sit back and ask yourself, what is it that I am thinking? And so the reason I wanted to dive into this, we had a listener question, but I really want to dive into because I'm passionate about this topic, because I hate that this exists. I've been ghosted by professionals. I've been ghosted by clients, I've been ghosted. I've coached clients who who have been ghosted and hurt. And I've also coached clients who struggle with ghosting. Now, let's call it ghosting, or let's call it not following through. I have a couple of particular clients I've worked with very, very intimately. And these are incredible, upstanding, driven people. And then they know that they dropped the ball, they dropped the ball in an email communication, they dropped the ball in a text or social relationship conversation. And then what happens is they don't want to be a person who goes or who doesn't follow through or forgets to message back. And then they there's an extension of the time window that they felt was appropriate to say something back, so then they they think they've lost their chance. And then they feel guilt and shame. And then they don't say anything at all, which then makes them feel worse, and they feel embarrassed. And then they pretend if they think if I can just put my head in the sand, it will go away. And so look, I actually have a very from a coaching perspective, multifaceted approach to ghosting. And I want to give, let's acknowledge, I'm going to probably be a little firm in my, my statements here. Because when you get ghosted, it's really painful. But we have to give full spectrum and full perspective to understand that there are situations where ghosting and cutting relationship off because it's toxic, and you have to protect yourself. That's a completely different conversation. That is a psychology. That is a theory conversation. I'm not talking about that I'm talking about general human interaction, friendship, acquaintance messaging, back and forth. social groups, more coaching. So I want to be really clear, there is a time and place for cutting off relationships without explanation. Okay, so I want to be very, very clear in that. Let's first define ghosting. Ghosting refers to a sudden, and unexplained cessation of all communication by one party in a relationship, whether it be romantic, platonic, or professional, is a term that's widely used in the context of dating, but can apply to any commerce association or situation where a person abruptly cuts off all contact without warning or explanation. And by the way, the couple examples I've given of a friend forgetting to text me back or, or there's a certain service professional who I text and they're, they're just not responding to me, but I know it's because they're overwhelmed with life. But

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technically, those don't fall into ghosting, but it is because you go What are they just ignoring me? So there are more layers, layers of being ghosted is a very, like complete cessation of all communication. But then there's the trickling out and the fading out without being direct. Now, in last week's q&a, I had some strong words, and I stand by those words of often ghosting and an in an intentionally not telling people the truth of wanting to close a relationship or why you're not responding. I think that that there is some emotional cowardice to that there's avoidance that's happening. Right for there's everyone is reacting from their own pain point. But here's the reality we'll I want to coach less about why is ghosting happening. And more about what can you do the next time it happens to you and, and the full spectrum of ghosting being the complete cut off of the relationship into the maybe just delayed response, or you send four text messages and they send one, or maybe you're getting and I'm using texting as an example, it could be emailing as well. Or it could be somebody that simply is not responsive in a general timeframe of making phone calls back or emails back. Or it could be communication, and you find yourself getting cut out of a social circle. So this also happens if we just take it into like in real life, not being invited somewhere but everybody pretending that no one knew about it. They were all in on it. And so let's acknowledge that there's a lot of pain here. I'm way less interested in why people are doing it. And what their motivations are or what their lack of intention is or what how their avoidance is, and I'm more interested in how I can coach you for when it happens to you because they Social Impact of being ghosted can be significant feelings of deep feelings of rejection, confusion and a decrease in self esteem. For the people that I coach in confidence for relationships and dating this is especially especially prevalent because if you invest in people and you invest in, in creating connection with someone new, and you allow yourself to get excited, and then they just drop you and pretend you never existed, that can be devastating, because you think was I am I so insignificant? Am I so disposable? Am I so forgettable? And what it does is it makes you not want to make effort again. Now, clearly an online dating this is helping a lot but it happens in friendship circles that happens in, in, in professional situations. And in any sort of social situation with humans interacting, a lot of pain is possible. And so I want you to walk away with some a few strategies on how to deal with ghosting, or being cut out of people's lives or being pushed back a little bit without explanation. And the number one thing is to choose not to personalize it. And that can it's easier said than done. But I hope that by giving you this preamble that I have so far in today's episode, I want to I want to normal I'm not I'm not justifying, I'm not accepting that ghosting is a thing. I don't like that this is how our culture operates. I think it's it's sloppy and lazy communication. Again, there are scenarios and reasons where they could be acceptable in my opinion from a coach's perspective. But and those are more extreme scenarios. But often I think we're just avoidance, it's easier to pretend you don't have to have the conversation. Pretend you never got the text, pretend that that person's feelings aren't gonna get hurt in order then to have a difficult conversation. Often people just don't want to say, Hey, you're just not the right fit for me, hey, I really enjoyed meeting you. But maybe I'll see you around, like just tell people the truth. But we lead people on and then we drag them out or are afraid of conflict and telling somebody the truth. So if we have conflict with a friend, we just decide to disconnect with a friend and sever the relationship versus work on it. And maybe there's times to do that. But maybe there's times not to. But the reality is all of us are going to walk through this. Here's what I want you to do. I want you to accept the reality acknowledge that you've been ghosted or hurt or cut cut out, and that the other person has chosen to end the communication, whether for long term or short term, and understand that this behavior says more about them than it does about you. Give yourself time. Allow yourself to feel the emotions that come with that rejection that, like do something and use it as a time to be self reflective. How did I show up as a friend? How will I show up in the future? Like what has gone right here? And what has gone wrong here? And what will I do differently? And I really do think one of the best things that I have ever been told us by my swim coach Tim Kelly, communication is the key to life. And regardless of how other people communicate to me, I want to choose how I will show up in communicating with others in my life do I want to be a person of for me, I think of of communication integrity, who tells people the truth with love. And that doesn't mean I go and hurtful love just saying but just to be truthful and have integrity in my relationships that's going to require that sometimes I have uncomfortable conversations sometimes that i i I'm more forthcoming and, and direct and asked me for forgiveness and claiming ownership over where I've had a misstep in my friendships and taking responsibility. It's hard. But for me with communication as a top priority and value, I can say okay, when other someone else is not investing in communication, I can take control over my own communication. I'm gonna give myself the time. I want to I'm gonna acknowledge that it's natural to feel hurt, confused, rejected, curious, maybe they didn't see my text. Maybe they did. And not to rush that but also, by the way, give them the benefit of the doubt. We want to avoid overanalyzing resist the urge to over analyze the situation or, or seek closure from the person who ghosted you because sometimes, as we've already mentioned, it is unintentional. Sometimes someone truly is overwhelmed. And then they're so far gone. Maybe it's two weeks past the text, and then they go, Oh, it's too late, and they're embarrassed to text back or, or the or you were maybe excluded from that invite, but it was completely unintentional. And now they don't know how to bridge the gap to to create that connection again. Let's just let let's let humans be humans. We're going to make mistakes. And I can tell you, it's better for me. I've made the assumption there's one particular person In particular right now that I've texted three times with a question, I actually have a sincere question I need figured out I need the answer. And this is a business. It's a, you know, a personal person's business. And I gotta, I gotta give that person space, that person is going through a lot in their life right now. And I know that they're just not answering because they don't know the answer. They don't know what they want to tell me. It's not that they don't like me as a customer. They don't like me as person. But I have to fight my mind to correct my mind. Every time I'm thinking, Well, why didn't she? Why isn't she emailed me back or text me back or call me back? It's not about me. It's about She's got her own stuff going on. I'm just my, my place in her life is not a priority. And that is okay. But also, the number of people I've coached on the pain that they've had from somebody not including them or saying something to them, or asking them a question like, Hey, how are you? Oh, wait, that happened. What happened asking that next question has caused so much pain, what has been unsaid in relationships often causes so much deep pain because we think I thought this person cared. Why didn't they care more? Why weren't they more proactive, we have to give them the benefit of the doubt that they might be distracted in with their own mess in their own lives. Or they might just have forgotten to ask. I think one of the best things one of my best friends Angie has ever done is three years in a row, she missed my birthday. Now it's just a running joke. I miss her birthday all the time, by the way. But there was there was one day where she we out my gosh, it was like 12 years ago, we talked on the phone for like an hour on my birthday. And I had casually said like four times in the conversation will Today's my birthday. And she's super energetic, and she kept going. And then like the next day, I go, Hey, I just want you to know, yesterday was my birthday. And I said it four times, and you completely missed it. And she was hilarious. She just totally owned it. And then the next day, she called me the day before my birthday, and on my birthday and the next day, singing and like now it's like than two years in a row, she missed it. And then now she comes sometimes calls me like six months, knowingly outside of my birthday is like, hey, just putting my birthday message. And now. And my point is, we could have, we could have both hurt one another's feelings really, really deeply by not just identifying the elephant in the room and just going I love you too much to be hurt or offended by that I want to choose to not be easily offended. I want to choose to acknowledge that you were so enthusiastic at the time that you didn't hear what it was saying, girl, it's cool. It is not about me. It's about the fact that we enjoy one another and I want you in my life. And so it's very easy to overanalyze, it's very easy to jump jump to conclusions. And I have found that it's better to say, if someone's not responding, they're probably overwhelmed. Or they probably don't have the answer. And they have to have they have to make a decision. And you guys, I've done enough coaching on indecision and can be indecision and small things like shut up, get my hair done on the on the ninth, or should I get on the 13th? And like, what time of day, and you could spend an hour thinking about that. So we know that our brains are overloaded. If your life is like that, imagine who you're waiting to hear back from, it's okay. But what I want you to do is when you get ghosted, or if someone's not responding, dating world friendship world, don't let that be about you.

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Every relationship we are meant to be in connection people need people. The most tragic thing is big when we get hurt from relationships. And we feel like we can't keep up in them is that when is that when it's we go? What's the point? Why should I invest in other people? Why should I keep trying? You know why? Because people need people. So how do you not personalize it, remember this, it's not about you. It's a reflection of somebody else's inability to communicate effectively at that time, or handle their emotions at that time. And I want to be honest, we've probably all been there. And remind yourself that being ghosted does not diminish your worth or your value, or the effort you put into that relationship or that friendship or that potential relationship. And I think it is helpful to go, what is the overall relationship, consider the overall quality of it. And whether it was truly fulfilling or healthy, and acknowledged that someone who would ghost you may not have been a good match for you in the long run. And then set boundaries set, set clear boundaries for yourself in the future, to protect your emotional well being to say, hey, I want to I'm going to have acquaintances, and then I'm going to have intimate friendships. My expectations from friends who are in that inner circle are going to be this. And then be mindful the red flags trust her instincts when something doesn't feel right. But I think the biggest takeaway is it's not just you, I think we personalize we're like, I'm socially awkward. No one actually cares about me we start giving ourselves this pity sob story. That is so victim based and had been there too. I want you to parent your brain and call yourself out and again, have compassion for what is the reason it's not about you. People ghost people for so many reasons and often is related to their own discomfort to personal issues or preferences. Again, this is excluding extreme situations of trauma where you need to absolutely cut all communication. For Your Health. It's a very different conversation. But often, ghosting is happening happening because of avoidance of conflict, fear of confrontation. Sometimes it's actually out of a positive desire to not hurt someone's feelings. They think that ghosting might be a kinder way to end things than to explicitly state their lack of interest or the reasons for ending the friendship. Now, that might be their opinion, I think it's always I think being truthful. And telling the truth with Love is always the right thing. But sometimes it's overwhelm and stress. Sometimes it's personal insecurity, low self esteem, or their own feelings of rejection. And then let's acknowledge that the way that can the convenience of technology of digital communication and non amenity and ease makes it so easy to cut ties with people without feeling like there are any consequences. I just want to remind you that the way you show up and the way you communicate will always come back to you. So I do feel like if you walk into all of your communication with a desire to have emotional maturity, and to take responsibility, you will benefit from that boomeranging back, that doesn't mean you're going to avoid hurtful conversations or hurtful relationships with ghosting happens. But there is a lot of lack of emotional maturity and avoidance of responsibility that happens for when people just don't want to explain themselves. And there is a normative behavior to that. So it's acceptable. But you can choose what you allow what you don't allow in your life. And then finally, I want to speak for just a few minutes on what to do if you find yourself being someone who doesn't reply quickly. That could be professionally, it could be personally. And then what did you to pick up the ball a little bit more to be more proactive in your communication. And I think it's simply to give yourself grace, to say, hey, responding sometime is better than not responding. Or even simply, I know that in some of the people I've helped coaching these improving the relationships with others, it's the small little things of acknowledgement are huge, because communication simply is acknowledgement. It's saying I see you, I heard hear you, and you matter to me. And so receiving a text from a friend, maybe you have a friend who over communicates, or just invite you all the time and you and you're always maybe you're you're an attorney, and you're working 70 hour weeks, and you're just struggling to keep your head above the water. So you don't have time to give a thoughtful response. But I can tell you, a double tap of the text will make them feel like they got responded to a quick GIF back that says hey, funny or like, or even just a Hey, thanks for thinking of me, we'll call you this weekend that will contain and read and keep these relationships that are important to you in your life without feeling like the communication gets severed. And so end of the day, my my big takeaway from for this whole episode for you is this. We all experience social awkwardness and confidence in your communication, whether it's written or oral, at dinner parties and networking, we just actually did a networking workshop confidence for networking in the College of confidence. Any type of communication is a skill. The more you practice it, the more skilled you will be. And I think there is a level of courage and confidence that comes from people who are willing to be honest, to speak up to lean into positive conflict. Conflict creates connection. One of my favorite ways to coach on creating deeper intimacy and in relationships and friendships is that that conflict, that conflict that we're all so avoidant of. It's not as bad as we think it is because conflict with two people who see conflict with a lens of neutrality, they see conflict as an opportunity for communication. And anytime two people are willing to communicate, that will create connection. So conflict leads to communication, communication leads to connection you need to willing parties. But conflict can be a really, really, really good thing. My final word on ghosting that is about the other person it is not about you, I want you to shine. I want you to believe that every effort you make towards connecting with other human beings matters. If you're out there dating and you're just just in the thick of it. It's a numbers game. And there are gonna be a lot of people who you put effort into that fall flat. But I'm going to tell you if there's 100 people who fall flat and then you meet your soulmate. Is it worth it? Yes. Which goes back to what we coach on all the time. Your effort always matters. There is no such thing as wasted effort. There's no such thing as wasted effort in your friendships, in your relationships. And in anything that you do. Little by Little Big Things get done. And so yes, other people are going to act, how other people are going to do but you get to choose, how will you show up? How will you communicate? How will you give grace to those who communicate potentially immaturely with you, or, or reactively to you? A lot of times ghosting is just reactive. It's reactive to the life that they're stressed by, or reactive to the anger that they're just they just go I'm just going to tap out for a minute. How can you give them grace? What I like is that this gives us an opportunity to become a better version of ourselves. Again, take it it's not a it's not an insult to you. Everyone gets ghosted. Everyone gets cast people who don't communicate with them well. So now that you know that now, that's not personal. How could you grow from it? How can you be more mature? How can you develop more grace? How can you manage reframe your thoughts and remind yourself that nothing has gone wrong? You you honor the space that that person wants, and you're going to move forward. It's a beautiful opportunity filled, we have so much opportunity to grow and fundamentally bottom line, your effort always matters, your effort and making reflections, your effort at showing up your effort and investing in people because I think that's where the heartbreak comes in. You think I've made all this effort and they don't care about me. Your effort always pays off. And there are people who will cut you out of their lives, that does not negate the impact you've had on their life, or the deep connection that they have with you or how important you are to them. You never know what someone's going through. They might come back full circle, they might have something really traumatic happening in their life, where they feel like they they have to kind of self insulate, and it can hurt you. But ultimately, they're also hurting. And so choose to not be hurt. Choose to believe that any connection you had with somebody does matter. And some connections will be short, some will be first season some will be for life, and some will be for a reason. But your effort, and the connections you make do always matter. Next week as make sure you are listening next week, we'll have another in depth episode on one of our listener q&a that we have from Episode 604 Hosea 604603. What to do about when you feel why you might feel uncomfortable or insecure around other women in particular, this is a a theme I see over and over and over. And it has to do with self critical mind and comparison and competition and the culture and the pressure to impress that happens and inferiority content. My gosh, I cannot wait to coach on this. Make sure you're following come say hi to me on Instagram. I am Trish underscore Blackwell on Instagram. I'll see you guys out there share this episode with a friend. And if you haven't yet written a review it would mean the world to me go out there today go be more of who God created you to be.

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