Podcast #598


If you’ve ever felt like you didn’t matter, or wondered what the point of it all really was, this episode is for you. If you’ve ever felt discouraged and like no matter what you did, you would never really stand out and never really matter, this episode is for you. If your brain has ever had the passing thought – I’m just a nobody – or I’m just average – even though you know that’s not true, the thought is sometimes had to shake, this episode is for you. In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we’re coaching on how to believe you matter, how to have confidence in the truth that you have significance and purpose in this world and how to talk back to the lies of insignificance and unworthiness when they whisper so convincingly to you.  

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, I’m coaching on:

  • How to fight the voice of insignificance
  • Why you sometimes feel like a nobody, and what to do about it
  • The key habit to create authority in your mind and win this mental battle


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If you've ever felt like you didn't matter, or wondered what the point of it all was, this episode is for you. If you felt discouraged or like no matter what you did, you would never really stand out or really matter. This episode is for you. If your brain has ever had that passing thought, I'm just a nobody. just average. Even though you know it's not true. That thought that sometimes hard to shake. This episode is for you. In this episode of The confidence podcast, we're coaching on how to believe you matter how to have confidence in the truth that you have significance and purpose in this world. And how to talk back to the lies of insignificance and unworthiness when they whisper so convincingly to you. Get ready for some coaching. Let's dive in. You're listening to the confidence podcast, the go to coaching podcast, oozing with motivation, and easy to implement steps that help you to be bold, and confident in life. I'm your host, Trish Blackwell, internationally recognized confidence coach, best selling author, and founder of the College of confidence I teach go getters in life, how to master their self talk, turn down the volume of self doubt, and get more results in life. So that you can be the difference maker and world changer. God created you to be you were made for more. And today's episode will help you tap into it. Let's go. Hey, guys, this is Trish Blackwell, your confidence coach, and you're listening to Episode 598 of the confidence podcast. If you're new to the show, you have picked an incredible episode. I'm so happy you're here. I pray that this episode blesses you and encourages you. If you are a loyal listener, I'm so privileged to be part of your week. Thank you for hanging out with me every Tuesday. Thank you. For those of you who are sharing the show with the friends who are leaving reviews who are writing to me on Instagram or Facebook, it means the world to me. And I love hearing for you, you guys, we are community we are a community of people who say, I'm going to rise up and be the most vibrant, alive version of myself in this world because that is who God created you to be. And to do that we need confidence. So I wanted to let you know this is an unusual episode. In the way I designed it only in that you wouldn't know this by my behind the scenes processes. I typically map out my content a few weeks ahead of time, I'm always generating curating new ideas and inspiration that comes in outlining new podcast episodes and really have this whole system. And then God put this on my heart this week. And so I bumped my other episodes back a week, simply because when something stirs in me that's this profound and deep, I felt compelled to prioritize it. And this came up because I was in a series of things that are happening in my life, and you're grieving some loss in our family and in our community. We are walking through I just see news articles and things in my heart is heavy, the heart is heavy with the brokenness of the world and the pain. And, and I was watching a show that made me feel even heavier. And it was a show it was incredibly well written. But it's talks and touches on human, the psychology of human pain. And that is where I felt so compelled to do this episode. Because what resonated with me when the show was this myriad of events and pain and sequences that were happening all resulted fundamentally from two different people really not believing that they mattered. And I did a lot of thinking about what is what is the effect of us not mattering. When we believe the lie that we don't matter when we believe that we are a nobody. And I need you to know you know, that I am. It is literally my profession to be competent. But I want to be really honest with you. This is us. This is a topic that is dear to my heart, I struggle often with the waves of feeling insignificant of questioning if I matter of, of not feeling like the work that I do is making a difference that I don't want to say share that not to alarm you, but to normalize that I really believe that part of the human experience and the journey that we are walking on is to learn how to identify a lie and stand in truth. And the truth is, you matter. The truth is you are a masterpiece created by the God who created everything. And the truth is that you have a deep purpose and that we can get inundated with lies and all the pressures of social media and the the population of the world. I mean, I'm actually fascinated. You've heard this before, especially if you've listened to the episodes, long term or if you've been in any of my coaching programs. I am obsessed with the world population I actually have theirs. I'll put this in the show notes. There's a really incredible website called World ometer dot info. And it has a current world population happening every all the time. It's a live population tracker. It's tracking how many births are today, how many deaths are today, and how much of the population of the world has grown today, as I'm speaking right now, there are 8,106,000 Wait 8,106,863,478 Nine is actually 486 people. And today alone 153,533 births up now it's 530 43. And almost 70,000 deaths today, total net population of the world growth today's 84,000 people. And then And I'm telling you, if you like numbers, if you're a data nerd like me, this is huge. Now what is why am I bringing this up? I'm bringing this up. Because when I was born in May 1983, the world population, according to Google, was 4 million, excuse me, I keep this 4,691,884,238 Let's just call 4.5 billion. So in my lifetime, I'm at a young 40. In my lifetime, the population of the world has almost doubled. And I say that because I want to I want to give you an opportunity to have compassion for yourself. When it's easy to feel like there's a lot of people there are a lot of people all the more opportunity for you to be needed in this world. All the more reason. Your kindness matters. Your confidence matters. You're alive. aliveness matters, your purpose matters. There are more people who need to read books, who need doctors who need lawyers who need kindness, who need leaders in the world, like anything, I think it's so easy just to dismiss because we're like, Well, I'm not famous, or I don't have this massive influence or, or there's so many people, what's the point there is a point. Now more than ever, for such a time as this you are needed, but also can't. Conversely, it's okay to go wow, I don't wonder I feel overwhelmed by the bigness of the world. It's a, there's a lot of people in the world. And that's a beautiful, brilliant thing. And there is a need for you in that the world needs you. And so today's episode is a little bit different. I really go into I got a I just wrote this down and I was like, Okay, I'm going to record this. And so I actually recorded what I'm about to share with you. And then it came back into my intro because again, I wasn't even planning on recording today. God stirred this in my heart. And this is what I want you to hear when you feel like you're on the struggle bus when you're struggling. You feel like you're disconnected. You're just feel like, I don't know everything feels hard. I want you to know, you are a somebody you matter. Let's dive in. You are a somebody. Yes. You listening right now. You are not a random collection of atoms or a speck in the universe. You are an intricate masterpiece, a symphony of Stardust and soul created and crafted with divine precision. You are not just another face in the crowd. You are a force of nature, a powerhouse of possibility, a walking testament to the infinite potential of the human spirit and the divine involvements of a creator. Who in the billions of people the world decided that there needed to be a you do you realize the sheer miracle it took? Three just to be here, the astronomical odds you beat just to take your first breath. It wasn't you against the world it is God deciding that the world needed a you. You're the result of generations of generations of triumphs and struggles and victories and you carry within you the resilience of your ancestors, and the dream of generations yet to come. You are living testament to the miracle of life itself. You're a testament to God's love in this world. But it's not just that that makes you special. It's the unique combination of your experiences of your passions, your quirks, your dreams, that set you apart. You are a kaleidoscope of talents waiting to be discovered a tapestry of stories waiting to be told there has never been and there will never be another you. You are irreplaceable, invaluable and utterly extraordinary. But I know I know what it feels like to question. I know what it feels like to be forgettable.

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I know there are moments when you doubt your worth When you feel lost in a sea of faces wondering if you truly matter, when the weight of the world threatens to dim your light and extinguish your flame and it feels pointless. But let me remind you, my dear friend, you are a beacon of hope in a world that craves your light. You are capable of greatness beyond your wildest imagination. And you have the power to inspire, to create, to encourage, to love, and to change the world in ways you can't even begin to fathom. So if you're feeling purposeless, uninspired, or like a nobody. I want you to take a deep breath and listen closely. You are not defined by your circumstances or your past mistakes. You are defined by your resilience, your courage, your unwavering belief in a better future, in the love that you carry. You have strength to rise from ashes to rewrite your story. I know sometimes feels like you're drifting aimlessly, like you've lost your way in the chaos of life. But let me remind you of something today, you are not stuck. You're not stuck. You're not stuck as long as you keep going. Because here's the thing. What happens when we start to believe the lie that we are nobody. I want to tell you, it's like a cancer to your spirit, it eats away at you from the inside out invisible to the eye. But so insidious that you yourself, start to believe that it's true. You start discounting yourself, you start disparaging your small steps that you're moving forward on, you start to believe that you're less than that you are behind that you're not enough, you are God's masterpiece, and you pick yourself apart. Because when you believe you're a nobody, something and you inside of you shifts, you start to pull back from life from opportunities, from connections that could nourish your, your soul. You shrink into yourself, you hesitate, as if trying to hide from the world, but let some of your out, but protect the rest. You compromise on what matters most to you, settling for less than you deserve. Because you've convinced yourself that you're not worthy of anything more. You seek meaning and unfulfilling ways chasing validation, success and all the wrong places only to find yourself feeling worse than before. It's a vicious cycle. And the more you believe you're a nobody, the more you distance yourself from the truth of your inherent God given worth. And before you know it, you're trapped in a prison of your own making, on able to see just how loved you are. I want you to know this. It doesn't have to be this way. You have the power to break free from these chains of self doubt and step into the fullness of who you are. It starts with a single decision, a decision to reject the lies, the lies that tell you that you're not good enough, not worthy enough, not somebody enough. This is a decision to fight for your purpose, fight to shine brightly. This is a decision to stand in the darkness of self doubt and say, I am not a nobody. I am a somebody. I am someone that God has created, chosen, loved. I am someone with purpose that cannot be denied. I am someone with the power to change the world. One courageous step at a time. Remember, this guy's life is not about finding yourself. It's about creating yourself. It's about expressing yourself to the fullest expression that God has put inside of you. You are worthy of love, and belonging. Fundamentally because God loves you. Here's what I want you to know. The world we live in is hurting. It's broken. It's crying out for healing and restoration and you you in many ways are the answer to that crowd. You are the ray of hope in a world that's covered in darkness. So think about the hurting world needs people like you people who are vibrant and alive people who are willing to stand up and fight for what's right to talk back to their own lies in their mind so that they can go and be of service to others. I want to I want to normalize this. It's okay that your brain offers you thoughts that are negative. But it's not okay that you camp out around them. Just because you think a thought does not make it true. Let it pass on by and decide to talk back to it. Decide to say I am somebody I am somebody even in my kindness. Can we talk for a moment about the pure power of your kindness It's a, it's like a pebble that gets thrown into a pond, it creates ripples that go far, far farther than, than you can imagine. Every act of kindness no matter how small, has the potential to touch countless lives. Imagine what would happen if we all believed our kindness mattered, where we start becoming people who lift each other up instead of tearing each other down through gossip and criticizing and, and comparing. This starts with you. You are a world changer. And a difference maker. And I know it's not always easy. I know it's not always easy to believe that believe me, I make this decision daily myself. My brain always offers me Trish, you're no one. Trish, it doesn't matter. Trish. No one cares. Trish, you're forgettable. Here's what I do. And what I invite you to do as well. I just talked back to it. That is a lie. That is not true. I am a somebody. I matter. I have purpose. God has placed me here in this body, in this location in this year for a absolutely sovereign reason I dressed in God's plan. I don't have to understand it all. But I do believe it's good. So we have to identify the voices that are lying to you. They're holding you back from being the person God created you to be. And here's the bottom line. Don't let those voices win. Don't let them corner you and beat you in a fight that you were born to win. Because, listen, it's a daily fight. It's a daily decision to show up, to rise up and to fight for what matters. The most your decision to show up fully alive, believing that you are someone believing you are God's masterpiece that you are so deeply loved. That matters. And when you when you believe that in yourself, your self worth your self esteem, your self confidence is grounded in something bigger than you. And you will get out of the messiness that's distracting you and your own brain and be able to go fight for good in the world. Just show up and advocate for those to make a difference. I want you with every fiber of your being to declare I matter. I am somebody, I am somebody and I can do something in this world. You are as somebody start being that somebody start acting like it, start owning it within yourself. Don't let that doubt. Don't let the fear hold you back. You are a somebody because God made you. He loves you. You are here for a reason. You are loved, you are unique. And you matter. You need to remind yourself of this daily. Because we we need a world of people who are ready to rise up who are ready to step out who are saying yes, I'm struggling with a little self doubt today and got these fleeting thoughts of insignificance. But those are not true. I know those are lies from the pit of hell. And I will rise up and I will go take action and do good in the world today. I will love others today will be the hands and feet of love in the world today. Because I believe I matter. You guys didn't one of my favorite favorite power phrases that I speak over myself, I speak it over my children, and I speak it over you. I am a world changer and difference maker. And look, let's give ourselves some grace here. It's so easy to get overwhelmed with the bigness of the world and the depth of pain. And then the the social media filtered comparison that we think well. I'm who am I? I gotta tell you that when you allow yourself to start to believe the lie that you are not as worthy as anyone else that you are not as good as somebody else that you are a No buddy in comparison to whatever it is that your brain is offering you is a slippery slope into disconnection. self doubt, and a half lived life. And so fight this fight. Even today, just if the truth you can hang on today is that I am a somebody. I am a somebody. That's enough to start I am a somebody I am a world changer. I am a difference maker. My, the way I show up today matters. I am loved. I have purpose. I don't need you to have all the answers and the reasons and explanations yet.

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We start with a core belief. I am somebody I matter the way I show up in the world. It matters. And so you listening to a show like this. It matters. It's helping you remind yourself Hold on This is how I'm going to show up. And please be kind to yourself. It's okay if you need to listen to this message four times. Because you have to think in context. How many more Millions of messages that you have are thrown at you because this is how marketing is based to tell you you're not enough, you will finally be happy when you buy this product. When you lose 10 pounds when you get this lip filler, insert whichever thing is being marketed to you when you drink Diet Pepsi instead of Diet Coke, it doesn't even matter. But we are we are inundated with messaging. And in a world where we always feel like we should do more in order to be enough, then when we finally are enough, then we are happy. And the reason that we're struggling with not feeling enough is that that we don't understand at the core of who we are. We are fearfully and wonderfully made by God by a Creator. Not by accident, not by random chance, on purpose. And when you realize that, even if you don't know why or what the purpose is, let the fact that you have purpose and that you are loved and that you are a masterpiece, give you confidence that you are somebody, we're going to keep the short and sweet today, as what was on my heart to tell you, you matter. You were loved. Your presence in this world makes a difference. Please don't discount it. Please don't sell yourself short. Please fight your thoughts. There's one takeaway I hope you have courage and and you feel encouraged by is that the brain is going to have thoughts. And not all of those thoughts are true. And so when your thought that comes up says I can't make that much of a difference. Who am I to? Who am I to make a difference in the world? Who am I to believe I could be a leader? Who am I to write that book? Who am I to have big dreams or think we could break the cycle of poverty or this generational curse in my family? Who am I you know who you are, you are a child of the creator of God, you are so so much more capable, and have so much more in you than you give yourself credit. You're divinely timed now to be living in this world when you are. I think that gives me for me, that gives me so much hope. I mean, there are many things about this, our current world where I'm like I would have loved to live like I don't know, 500 years ago. seems simpler. Except I know that God placed me here to parent heat now to meet my husband now to live now there's a reason that this is the time of history I'm living and I believe the same for you. It's a my takeaways for you are this fight your thoughts? talk back to your brain. Tell yourself everyday today, the way I show up in the world matters today. I matter today. My kindness matters today. My growth matters. Today, the $5 I'm putting towards my emergency fund to try to create financial freedom matters. Today, tracking my food matters because I'm going to create a healthy body today. My effort matters. This is one of the core thoughts I talk about all the time in my coaching, you've got to believe that your effort matters. And when you believe that your effort matters, and you pair that with believing that you matter, you become unstoppable. The things that you do start really creating impact. So what what to do look, if you don't yet know how to journal effectively, please, please, please go grab my journal mastery bundle, it's $7. I have, I think seven hours of coaching. And by the way that don't let that overwhelm you. I walk you through step by step all the different methods of how to journal effectively, until you can choose one that works best for you. I also teach my very simple basic journaling method that I do every day it is game changing. In fact, my client and I just the other day, we nerded out for like 20 minutes, just talking about how this five minute process is life changing. And so you can get that in the show notes or at Trish blackwell.com forward slash journal mastery bundle because when you learn how to journal effectively, you can learn how to talk back to your thoughts effectively, you then have the ability and the training to identify all is that a truth? Or is that a lie? Just because I put the thought doesn't meet the thought true. I can start realizing and identifying that thought of not feeling like I mattered or that today matters or the my effort matters. That's the lie. You can see it as clean as day is very much actually. You know we have this new puppy and He's precious Sherlock. And my son has this beautiful white baby rug in his room. He's He's almost seven but it's uh, you know, it was a rug that I had that was by his crib and it's beautiful and fluffy. And in the dark or like even just in daylight, the rug is white. Well I turned the lights on in his room because I was vacuuming the other day. This dog has peed all over that rock, but you couldn't see in the right light. And so when you turn light and you know what clean is. You can look at that those pee stains on the white thing and go, This has got to go in the trash. So in the same way in your brain, you'll notice this is a, this is a clean thought this is a true thought, or this is a dirty thought this is a lie. But you don't get that the skill of identifying a lie, the lies will feel very convincing. They feel very true. So you've got to learn how to identify the light and they'll if you are thinking the lie that you don't matter, or that your effort doesn't matter, excuse me, if you're thinking of thought, your you don't matter, your effort doesn't matter. I just want to tell you right now, I will help you out lies. Those are lies. So we're gonna start identifying them as allies. And then if you are feeling encouraged by today, and you really want to walk in purpose, you want your daily life to be filled with purpose. I want to invite you to come check us out in the College of competence. This month, we're dedicating our entire month to purpose. So we have workshops on how to create fulfilling purpose how to create a personal purpose statement, what to do when life feels unfulfilling and you feel stuck. We have oh my gosh, eight different we have water other topics we have creating, battling pointlessness making your life exciting. We have an open q&a coaching on purpose and how to have your purpose, how to re define and reinspire your own purpose. So it is an incredible month. You don't want to miss it. You can join this risk free 1414 day money back guarantee. If you don't love it, just let us know no harm no foul, send you your money back. So check it out College of confidence.com Go out there today. He'll be more of who God created you can be be you. Be free. Thanks for listening to the confidence podcast and allowing me to be your coach today in your life. If you love the show, please let us know by leaving a review in iTunes are encouraged by what you learned. share this episode with a friend and let us know that the show is changing your life by saying hi to us on social media Instagram, trish_blackwell are on Facebook Trish Blackwell coaching, ready to take what I teach and really take it to the next level. Join us today in the College of confidence. It's my group coaching program that you can join risk free and cancel anytime. In the COC you'll scale your confidence, your courage, and the changes you make in your life. It's the coaching support and community you've been looking for. Go to www.collegeofconfidence.com to get started. If you love the podcast, you will love the College of confidence even more and see even more transformation in your life. Come and see for yourself. I'm cheering you on friend. See you soon

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