Podcast #595

MAKING DECISIONS AND DELEGATING WITH CONFIDENCE

Do you find yourself feeling frozen when making decisions? Maybe you are the type of person who likes to field the opinions of everyone you know before making a decision…or are you the type of person who internalizes the decision and delays it from the pressure to make “the right decision”? If you struggle with decision-making and want to have more confidence in your decision making process, this episode is for you. You’ll learn how to make good decisions with confidence, how to avoid the purgatory of indecision, and how to see yourself / and trust yourself as someone who makes good decisions. In the episode we’re also exploring the relationship between confident decision making and confident (and effective delegating), because let’s be honest, weak delegating is making your life harder than it needs to be. If you’re craving more confidence in your decisions and in your delegating, this episode of The Confidence Podcast is for you. 

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we’re covering:

How to have confidence in your decisions
How to delegate with more confidence
The negative effects of indecisiveness and weak delegation
5 power phrases you’re gonna want to write down for decision confidence 

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MAKING DECISIONS WITH CONFIDENCE:

When we don’t make decisions with confidence we waffle.
-We waffle
-We delay
-We give up
-We change course
-We get 1000 opinions
-We lose trust in ourselves
-We distract and procrastinate

Become someone who trusts themselves and their grit / pivot power.
Become someone who practices making clean, quick decisions
Have a decision process and deadline
Have your own back on your decisions / catch your brain when it wastes energy with “what if”

DELEGATING WITH CONFIDENCE 

What are you thinking that is making delegating hard?
Are you inserting yourself into other people’s emotions and thoughts? 
Is your weak delegation an act of people-pleasing / an effort to be likeable or liked?

What do I need to delegate more?
Why do I need the help?
Why is the person I am asking qualified or the person?
What do I need to release to delegate with confidence?

Delegation mistakes
-Overexplaining the delegation
-Underexplaining the task
-Attaching too much emotional weight to the process 
-Not inspecting what you expect
-Authoritative versus collaborative communication

UNBLOCKING OVERTHINKING CAUSED BY UNCONFIDENT DECISIONS

Clean Decisions 
-What matters the most here for me?
-What will I say back to my doubting / what if voice?

Clear Decisions
-What am I actually deciding between?

Decide there is no perfect decision. 

Overthinking creates confusion and breaks self-trust.

What are you complicating?
What if your life wasn’t as complicated as you made it feel?

1. “Overthinking is the art of creating problems that weren’t even there.” – Unknown
2. “Overthinking is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.” – Unknown
3. “Overthinking will not empower you over things that are beyond your control. So, let it be if it is meant to be and cherish the moment.” – Unknown

“The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity.” – Amelia Earhart

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” – Theodore Roosevelt

“Decide what you want, decide what you are willing to exchange for it. Establish your priorities and go to work.” – H.L. Hunt

“It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.” – Roy E. Disney

Indecision is a decision.

Most people don’t think they’re good at making decisions.
Make a decision.
Make your decisions the right decisions.

Decisiveness creates a bias for action.
People with a bias for action will always be successful. 

The Law of Decision

Every great leap forward in life is preceded by a clear decision and a commitment to action.
All high-achieving men and women are decisive in their thinking and in their action

NEGATIVE EFFECTS OF INDECISIVENESS

Core mental space clutter.
Creates mental overwhelm.
Contributes to misdirection.

DECISIVENESS POWER PHRASES:

1.”Decisiveness is my superpower; I embrace it wholeheartedly.”
2.”Each decision I make propels me closer to my goals and dreams.”
3.”I am unafraid of failure because I learn and grow from every decision.”
4.”I make decisions swiftly and trust my ability to adapt to any outcome.”
5.”Decisions are the stepping stones to my success, and I choose them wisely.”
Bonus: “Decisiveness is my secret weapon, fueling my journey to greatness.”

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

#512: Trusting Yourself and Trusting Your Decisions

#351: 5 Mindset Decisions You Must Make to Be Confident

Speaker 1 0:00

Do you find yourself feeling frozen when making decisions? Maybe you're the type of person who likes to feel the opinions of everyone you know, before making a decision? Or are you the type of person who internalizes the decision and delays it? Because you feel that pressure to quote unquote, make the right decision? Listen, if you struggle with decision making and want to have more confidence in your decision making process, this episode is for you. You will learn how to make good decisions with confidence how to avoid the Purgatory of in decision, and how to see yourself and trust yourself as someone who makes good decisions. In this episode, we're also exploring the relationship between confident decision making and confidence and effective delegating. Because let's be honest, week, delegating is a weak decision and it's making your life harder than it needs to be. So if you're craving more confidence in your decisions, and in your delegating this episode of The confidence podcast is for you. You're listening to the confidence podcast, the go to coaching podcast, oozing with motivation, and easy to implement steps that helps you to be bold, and confident in life. I'm your host, Trish Blackwell, internationally recognized confidence coach, best selling author, and founder of the College of competence. I teach go getters in life, how to master their self talk, turn down the volume of self doubt, and get more results in life. So that you can be the difference maker and world changer. God created you to be you were made for more. And today's episode will help you tap into it. Let's go. Hey, guys, it's Trish Blackwell, your confidence coach and host of the competence podcast. Welcome to the show. I'm so glad you're here. We're in Episode 595. And today, as you already heard, we're talking about confidence in your decision making and in your delegating. Now if you're new to the show, I just want to say I am so happy you are here. You can trust this show to be your go to every Tuesday to give you action pacts and actionable tools for you to use in your life right away. That will truly change the way you see yourself. The way you show up in the world with confidence. I really believe that confidence opens the doors of our calling. It gives us the courage to go Live Bold lives that make a difference. I really believe that you're here for a reason. If you're new to the show, I am so happy you are here you have millions of podcasts literally that you could listen to. And you gave this one a chance. Listen, I promise we won't disappoint I promise every Tuesday, you will come back for more. And it will always be something that you can implement into your life right a way. And if you're a longtime faithful listener, I'm so happy you're here. Thank you for hanging this week. Thank you for sharing the show with your friends for forwarding this episode to somebody that you care about for leaving your reviews for all of the things you guys it is my my absolute passion to share these tools that have changed my life with others. And it's a free, it's a free thing I actually pay and put time money effort into creating the show producing it, editing it, putting it out there, I pay marketing money to reach more people, truly to, to offer an act of service. So thank you in advance for helping me share. If the show has ever helped you in any way. Please help me reach more people with it. So this week, we are covering how to have confidence in your decisions, how to make confident decisions, how to delegate with more confidence, and then the negative effects in decisiveness and weak delegation are having on you and I'm going to close out with five power phrases. Like I tell you, you're going to want to write down to help you with decisiveness or decision competence. I want you to start identifying as a decisive person, even if this is farther from your truth. We start stepping into being the person we want to be by first deciding who we want to be describe that person. Be decisive decisiveness is confidence. It's attractive, it's powerful. And you're gonna walk away with the ability to tap more into that today. Now before we dive in, I do have one brief announcement next Thursday, April 25. At 7pm Eastern time, so if you're listening live, this is going to be relevant. If you're not, and you're on an old episode. Well, that's okay. I'm glad you're still listening. But you can fast forward 20 seconds here. But I have a new free training called Stop wondering if you're good enough. If you're tired of constantly questioning your abilities or you have feelings of impostor syndrome and self doubt that you know are holding you back from reaching your full potential it's time to say goodbye to those those thoughts, those doubts those habits, and step into feeling good enough and worthy. And so I want to invite you to join me for this free training workshop. It's designed to help you finally break free from the shackles of self doubt and impostor syndrome, I'm going to share three actionable strategies and mindset shifts that are going to help you empower your self worth. Because you're going to be able to win at the end of this 30 minute training, stop wondering if you're good enough. Register now, it's absolutely free. And let's kick impostor syndrome to the curb once and for all go to Trish blackwell.com forward slash good enough to grab your free spot. Now, the reason we are training today on competent decisions is I had an Instagram follower who reached out send me a message and she said this, Hey, Trish talking to you like a friend here. I've been listening to your podcast since I was 20 years old, it's been five years. And I always come back to them because they've been helpful for every stage of my life for the past five years. I'm convinced that it's how I became a marketing manager. So Young, I just thought of a podcast topic for you. And really, it's for me, but it could be for other people too, making decisions and delegating with confidence. And I don't know if you guys noticed, that literally is today's episode title. She continues and says, I'm a young manager. And I feel like I have so much to prove. And I'm having trouble delegating tasks, because I always feel like I could do it better. Since I'm a perfectionist. The problem now is that I have bigger projects to handle. And I really need to start having confidence in my decisions. And my delegating. So friend, first off, thank you for reaching out, thank you for being a loyal listener and putting everything you learn here into practice in your life. And you're right your confidence. When you scale your competence, you scale, your potential, you scale your opportunities. And so congratulations on doing the work, and on reaping the benefits of becoming a marketing manager so young. So let's dive into why we're how we're going to start making shifts, and delegating especially because there's really there are reasons we don't there. When we know that we can do things well, and you clearly are a doer. It's hard to let other people have that control. So we want to empower people to have the confidence to rise up to their fullest capacity as we delegate, and we outsource. But let's start with the beginning. Let's start with making decisions with confidence. Because the truth is when we don't make decisions with confidence, we waffle, we delay we give up we change course, we get 1000 opinions, we lose trust in ourselves, we distract and procrastinate often our delay, loses opportunities. It breaks trust with other people, people don't take us as seriously in our own self concept also starts questioning. If we're going to actually make a decision and follow through. Sometimes we think I just need to wait and then I'm going to know. But I want you to know that Indecision is a decision, I want you to decide today to become someone who trusts themselves, I want you to start just speaking over yourself that you are a person who makes good decisions. Because even if you make a decision, and it doesn't go the way you want, if you have confidence and you've got grit, then you've got pivot power, what I like to call pivot power, which means that you can always change the sale of your sailboat and change course, that you whatever your route and journey is, there's no perfect path. You know, there's no such thing as a perfect decision or a perfect path. But rather the decision is a decision to be a competent person who can pivot no matter what comes. And so we can be someone you can trust yourself. And you can trust that whatever decision you make is a good decision. Because you've decided to have grit, you decided that you've got pivot power.

Speaker 1 8:36

Another way to improve your decisions is to become someone who makes clean, quick decisions. A clean decision is one where you have clarity, one where you know what you're deciding between and I think often we are so overwhelmed, we have so much extra information that we just we we overwhelm our brain and make it confusing, and a confused mind always loses. And so we need and what I mean by clean is not it's not messy. I think sometimes we think well if I do this, and this and this, and then we follow all these rabbit holes, but we don't write it down on paper. You guys there's so much power in paper. There's power in a pros and cons list. There's power in simple simply stating something. But often we're so overwhelmed with our decision that we don't even slow down to think about what we're thinking about. And so it's really critical that you have a decision process and a decision deadline even if the deadline is an arbitrary deadline. Make a decision to have a date or time when you do make a decision down to maybe you get overwhelmed with what you're shopping for actually currently have a tab open on my my computer. My son's lacrosse team has a shop for gear right and T shirts and sweatshirts and things and I could let that tabs open and keep my decision open indefinitely for another four days but I made a decision today say that I will make a decision on what I'm buying, whether I'm buying want this t shirt or that sweatshirt by five o'clock today, because an open decision is going to lead to overwhelming amount of open decisions. And so one of the ways we can improve our decision making, even if you're thinking in the workplace is to reduce the decision making that you're making, in your personal life as well. So too many open decisions, even if they're small, arbitrary decisions, whether should I buy this t shirt or that T shirt for my son can make your brain feel tired. And when you are tired, and there's the decision fatigue, decision, fatigue will will lead to decision delay, which will lead to missed opportunities, which will lead to you kicking yourself in the butt and being disappointed that you missed out because you delayed on your decision. And honestly, a delayed decision creates doubt. When you make quick decisions. And it's clean. And you know what you're choosing between, it's black and white, you can make clean, simple decisions. We my point in this is we overcomplicate things by putting them off by giving ourselves too large, long of a deadline to decide. So I really believe in deciding what am I deciding. And when am I going to decide by the problem is that we can indulge in our decisiveness. But you've got to give yourself a deadline. And then have a process. And what I do and I teach my students in the college competence is to write down your process, write the pros and cons. And ask yourself what do I value the most here? You want to ask yourself what will make this a good decision? And you can also ask yourself, when I think ahead about the decision that I've made now, how important is this decision? And what do I want the final outcome to be? Let's go back to those lacrosse t shirt. I'm currently deciding whether he needs a size small or extra small in this Nike dry fit t shirt. What am I actually deciding here? How long is he gonna wear the t shirt? Right? Both are gonna fit him. And the end of the day, what is important to me about this decision that we have team spirit, and I'm able to break it down and go. So the size truly does not matter. It can be an E any meenie miney moe kind of decision. Or you could say, well, if I'm going to pay $40 for this t shirt, I might as well get the larger size decision made. Even if he's swimming in a little bit decision made. I need you to say when you make a decision, repeat that that small power phrase that you caught afterwards, decision made is a way that we can parent our brain I don't know if you ever, if you grew up with parents who just said hate you, maybe you were negotiating for something and they said I'm so sorry, like, I've already decided decision is made, we're not going or you're going into bed at this time. Or we're not doing that. And you're like but but but and and I know that my parents would simply say, Hey, babe, the decisions made, you can do that to your own brain. Because your brain is going to make a decision. And then you're gonna go oh, I don't know, should I haven't gotten that. And what happens is when we indulge in overthinking or correcting the decisions that we've already made, and we don't remind ourselves a decision is made, this is what we're doing. And it's going to be good. When we don't do that, then we indulge in overthinking which is distracted thinking which by the way, distracts and waters down the power of your mind and your focus on anything else that actually matters in life. And so you might be wasting time and your emotional and mental energy. Thinking about what size shirt you should get, or what new rug you should get for your bathroom or which trip you should take to here or there. Or what job you should put your your application in for when honestly just make a decision. Because it's it's it's watering down your ability to live your life in other ways. The other thing that you can do to become better at making decisions with competence is to have your own back on your decisions. So we're gonna say this, we're gonna say Decision is made. And then you're gonna say, and I have my own back where you could say, and this was a good decision. And what it means to have your own back means that when you make a decision, maybe you're investing in a program, maybe you're picking a lacrosse t shirt, maybe you're making a decision of whether you're going to continue a relationship with someone or not. Maybe you're making the decision to go to be sober or decision to how many of the how many times per week you should run versus do strength training. Once you decide what you're going to do, tell yourself decision made. Tell yourself you make good decisions, tell yourself this is a good decision. And when your brain then starts to question Oh, should I have gotten that color instead? Maybe I should have gotten a different size. I don't know should I do an extra day of running? Or should I add in that bar class or that yoga class and you start doing the what ifs when your brain starts wasting energy and wasting attention by second guessing in the decision and it is your job to go no pay brain decisions made. We're gonna go with this decision. This is a good decision. The way you have your own back with your decision, is they No, no, like I support you. In the same way I have my husband's back when he makes decisions or my friends backs when they make their decisions. When when they start going, oh, gosh, I'm not sure. Are you sure you think this was good? You were gonna say to yourself, yes, this is good. Yes, we're going the right way. So it's your job to catch your brain. That's what it means to have your own back on your decisions. So the one thing I wanted to talk a little bit more about, is to unblock overthinking that are caused by unconfident decisions. When you delay your decisions and you overthink your decision, you are showing up with mediocre confidence. I'm not here for anybody to me to be mediocre. And when you make to make a clean and clear and confident decision, you've got to remind yourself there's no such thing as a perfect decision. And I'm not going to make you're gonna make the decision that you will not indulge in overthinking because overthinking, it creates confusion and breaks, self trust and over complicates a decision that can actually be clean and simple. And how do you make a clean decision? How do you take a decision that feels complex and heavy and really important? And make it clean? Well, first, we never say this is really important. Like when you put pressure on your decision. It's going to make it really dirty. We want to clean decision we need to say whatever decision to make I can make a good one. We're going to ask ourselves what matters the most for me here? What matters the most for me here? Maybe you're overthinking you're you're you want to support a charity or somebody who's going through a hard time and you're overthinking Should I give them $100 or $200. So they don't need $1,000 or 500. You guys at the end of the day, what matters most here? That's the question you have to answer. And then the next way to keep your decisions clean and confident is to ask yourself, we need to get ahead of our brain, we need to know that our brain is going to go or you're sure your brain is going to second guess. So let's decide ahead of time. What we're going to say to the what if voice when it comes. What are you going to say back to that doubting? What if voice? But then the most simple way to make a clean decision is to know what am I actually deciding between? What am I deciding between? And if it's a lacrosse t shirt and size extra small versus small. I'm not actually deciding between anything Goodness gracious Trish, enter your credit card, fill in the card, press Enter no big deal. What am I deciding between sometimes we indulge and delay simply because we don't want to make a decision. We've decided we want to donate, but we don't decide to do it. And we actually make the act of donating a bigger deal than it needs to be. So I will just say rather than decide it. Let's go with I'm going through example, should I donate $100 to this neighbor or $200? Maybe they have a GoFundMe page, right? And you're deciding what to donate. And then because of that you delay and then you overthink and then you worry and then you forget, you're not deciding between $100 versus $200, you need to be clear about what you're actually deciding between? Are you going to be a person who helps? Or you're going to be a person who watches? Are you going to be a bystander? Or are you going to be a helper? When you look at it as that kind of decision. It doesn't actually matter if you make if you donate $100 or $200. You're deciding what kind of person you want to be you're deciding what kind of neighbor you want to be you're deciding what kind of human you want to be in this world.

Speaker 1 18:39

And so to pull back the lens a little bit and go, What am I actually deciding. And like when I go back to the sort of arbitrary example of lacrosse t shirt, I'm not actually deciding anything that matters. I'm just deciding to be a parent who's involved and engaged in the sport my son's signed up on, I've decided to be a mom who wears whose kids wear the team T shirts. Now it doesn't actually matter. Now I can close my heart. Maybe you're thinking about coaching, maybe you're thinking about investing in yourself and in furthering your education either through some of my courses or through my membership, the college or competence or something else, and you're delaying that decision. You're not deciding which programs right for you. You need to realize that your decision is about Are you worthy of investing. You've decided when you make a decision one way or the other, which course you're going to start which which coach, you're going to coach under which thing you're going to purchase. You're saying I'm a good bet I'm deciding to invest in myself. That's the decision and you're deciding to believe that investing in yourself pays the highest return on investment because by the way it does. Amelia Earhart said this the most difficult thing is the decision to act. The rest is merely tenacity. You see we get wrapped up in our decisions and indecision and Should I move here? Or should I move to this city? Honestly, it doesn't matter. Make a decision to act, I'm moving and I will pick the date in which city I'm moving to by this date. The decision to act is what separates you from the people who are just who go through and their lives feel messy, and they feel overwhelmed and unsure of themselves in decisions. Roy E. Disney said this, it's not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are. You notice how I pulled those decisions back bigger lens, I'm not deciding what size t shirt my son is getting. I'm deciding that I'm going to be a parent who's engaged, and who supports the team efforts to have team the team camaraderie. I'm not deciding if I'm going to give $100 or $200 to that GoFundMe. I'm deciding that I'm a person who gives to those in need. Those are the values when it's not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are. And I want to I want to encourage you, I think I think it's important that you know that most people don't think that they're good at making decisions. And and most people don't realize that Indecision is a decision. But you can decide to be a more competent person by being a person who is decisive. Because decisiveness creates a bias for action, you're able to move forward faster, and accelerate your path or your results and have more free time. Honestly, the amount of time that we spend wasting in thinking about a decision is taking away your opportunity to live life well. And people with a bias for action will always be successful. And if you continue to indulge in the in, in the decision of indecision, you will create mental clutter, mental overwhelm, and you'll feel misdirected. I want to go back to something I said previously, putting pressure on yourself to make a good decision or make a perfect decision or make the quote unquote, right decision will create in decisiveness. It's so much more critical that you start identifying as someone who is capable of making good decisions, who has who considers things from a clean perspective and who knows their values and therefore acts with decisiveness and moves things forward moves their decisions forward. And well, I think a really core question to ask yourself, is what are you deciding? What are you deciding about in your life? I don't, I don't really care what you're thinking about doing or not doing? Because if you're just thinking you're not actually doing people who decide to do things do things? Are you trying to lose weight? Or have you decided to lose weight? Are you trying to stop emotional eating or self sabotage or beating yourself up? Or have you decided to be a person who builds themself up and elevates their standards, your decision, the ability to make a good decision, a competent decision, from the things in your shopping cart, to the bigger picture things is going to elevate your your your ceiling and your floor, your ceiling will become your floor in your level of confidence. And when you have confidence in your ability to make decisions, you will be able to you will be able to be more of a natural leader people are going to be drawn to you because you're going to be significantly more decisive than most people. And decisiveness is attractive decisiveness. It will magnetize people to you. Let's talk about delegating. And I think when it comes to mistakes with delegation, is that sometimes we don't delegate, or we delay on delegating. Because it's easier to do things ourselves. But there's a certain point as our listener who requested this topic shared of, there's a certain point where you you kind of tap out where you can't do more, you can't scale, you can't scale beyond the time that you have. And when you're doing even if you can do things better than other people. It doesn't serve you to do it, because now you're exhausting yourself. And you're handicapping them because you're not training them or empowering them with the tools they can have to become better to have higher standards. So sometimes we, when it comes to mistakes with delegation, especially in the professional setting, and in the workplace, we either over explain the delegation meaning we it's almost like we're preemptively apologizing for needing to ask for help or for not doing it. And by the way, I work with a lot of high level individuals and exactly on this and one of the biggest things we tackle first off is their time management. And even these are very, very, very successful people C suite people who were over working there because they're afraid to delegate to the people whose jobs it is to do the work that they're supposed to delegate to, but they quote unquote, feel bad. We don't want them to, to think that we don't want to do it. But there's a system in place for a reason. And, and it is instead to over explain or to apologize for asking for somebody's help or asking for their partnership, or their collaboration is actually really, really insecure. Now, I'm going to talk about delegation in in the professional sense, but also you can you could, you could certainly talk about this in your personal life as far as what are you willing to outsource? Are there things that you could be outsourcing but you feel bad? Outsourcing, right, this was housekeeping was part of that, for me, getting my husband's help in helping with more dinner, I felt bad. And then I finally was like, Wait a second, where a team, I got it, I gotta let some of these over emotional, this emotional weight that I've added that's unnecessary, I gotta let it go. But other mistakes we make with delegation is over explaining it apologizing for it, or under explaining the task. Sometimes we empower people to do something, but we don't properly train them. And we also don't follow up, we don't inspect what we expect, you have to inspect what you expect. And so when somebody turns something in, and it's in subpar work, rather than say, I should have done this myself, I guess I'll take this over, we need to train, we need to, we need to show demonstrate, do walk through follow up on verify, and really empower that person to be excellent. The only thing that holds us back is we attach too much emotional weight to the process. We feel bad, we apologize, we, we are worried that they're going to not honestly here's what it comes down to, we are afraid that they're not going to like us. This is all a problematic expression of caring too much when people think we want them to be we want to be liked. So my question for you to ask yourself is your if you're struggling with delegation, is your weakness in delegation or your delay in delegation? is an act of people pleasing? Or an effort to be more likeable? Or like? Are you afraid to ask for help? Because you're afraid what that might mean about you. I really think empowered, delegating is humble. It's that confident humbleness that says, I'm willing to say I can't do this on my own, nor do I need to do I could do this on my own. But it's not wise to do it on my own. Together, we are better. I am humble enough to say, I work better with other people supporting me. Let's be a team. Let's work together. Let's Let's communicate and move the needle forward together. And I also think the final delegation mistake that I see happen is authoritative delegation, versus collaborative communication. And I think sometimes we we just do things that we could outsource to others because well, I'll just take care of it. Because I don't want to be like the boss. Even if you are in a position of being the boss, you're like, Well, I don't want to make them do it. If I have time to do it, that's not even about that. It's not an authoritative hand down here. Do what I don't want to do. It's collaborative communication. It's weird team. I have these bigger picture things I can work on if you could take over this section. And write I think that, as the listener mentioned, that sometimes there's this is hard when you're younger than the people that you're in authority over or that you have that you're delegating to. But honestly, can we just put this out there? Like, yes, age matters?

Speaker 1 28:26

I think we all go through different seasons of growth, based on different decades of our lives. So I'm not discounting that. But I do think there's a certain sense where age doesn't matter. Can we just acknowledge that her over the age of 21, age doesn't matter. We're adults, shoot, say, 18, say 16. I am interested in your brain. I'm interested in your drive. I'm interested in your mindset and your willingness to say, I'm going to lead with optimism in this world. Yes, maybe you don't maybe a 25 year old has less experience than the 45 year old but doesn't mean that there are things that the 25 year old can offer that the 45 year old can't and vice versa, we need each other. And so I want to hope I want to free somebody today, from overthinking about their age from being afraid to delegate from their age from honestly from being afraid to be too successful because of their age. And I'm going to be transparent with you. I held myself down a little bit professionally when I was in my 20s because I didn't want to I felt bad being too successful in my 20s, which is read a little bit, a little angry with myself there. But I just want to, I want you to know I get it. Whatever your thoughts are about your age, it's time to let them go. And so here's some questions to start reflecting on when it comes to delegating with competence. What are you thinking? That's making delegating hard? I can tell you for me personally. I was thinking well, I can do it. So I might as well not outsource it. That's not always we have to go back to the same thing we did with our decisions. Your values matter what do you value if you value your time, and you value collaboration, you need to outsource more. And the other thing to ask yourself, are you inserting yourself into other people's emotions and thoughts? We start inserting ourselves and asking and assuming that somebody's thinking something about it. I want to remind you, you cannot read people's minds. You have no idea what they're thinking. Lead them, collaborate with them. And so questions ask, What do I want you to really be honest with yourself? What do you need to outsource?

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What do you need to delegate more? Why do you need the help? It's important to be humble and honest with yourself, why do I need the help? Be truthful, maybe you're because you're exhausted. Because you're doing too much because you're running circles around everyone else. And, and it's not fair.

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I'm not interested in fairness in the workplace. I'm not interested. I mean, I am in general social speaking standards. I, if you're listening to this podcast, I see you as a high performer. And I think for a fact, you're always going to do more than the average person. So it's not going to be fair. But your results that you're going to get because of that won't be fair either. So you what you put in is what you will get out. But let's be honest and go Why do I need the help? Because the help is available, because I want that maybe you just need the help because you want it you want to not feel so alone or feel so burdened? Why is the person that you're asking qualified or the right person to outsource to and what do I need to release? What thoughts what hangups? What limitation what previous beliefs that maybe now that you we've poked some holes in here today? What do you need to release in order to delegate with confidence? All right, I promised you five decisiveness power phrases, these are written in the show notes for you. The link to the show notes is in the is in your show notes on your app that you're listening to, but you can also find it at Trish blackwell.com Ford slash 595. Here they are. decisiveness is my superpower. I practice it daily. decisiveness is my superpower, I practice it daily. Each decision I make propels me closer to my goals and dreams. Each decision I make propels me closer to my goals and dreams. I am unafraid of failure. You can put parentheses here or the wrong decision. Because I learn and grow from every decision. I am unafraid of failure because I learn and grow from every decision. I make decisions swiftly and trust my ability to adapt to any outcome. I make decisions swiftly and trust my ability to adapt to any outcome. And then number five decisions are the stepping stones to my success. And I choose them wisely. Decisions are the stepping stones to my success and I choose them wisely. I have one final bonus one for you decisiveness is my secret weapon. fueling my journey to greatness you could shorten that I really just like decisiveness is my forte decisiveness is my secret weapon. Even if you're not sure, like we can start speaking this into who we want to be. You become who you decide you can be. And it all starts with thinking and then doing and when you think and you do you will be. So first we start by saying thinking of ourselves as a person who is decisive. And now we're going to practice decisiveness. I want you to practice decisiveness in the small things. When you're choosing which size shirt to order for your child when you're choosing which restaurant to to order from which when you're choosing which Netflix episode to pick. When you find yourself going, Ah Gosh, I don't know. One minute you you you are in tune to the fact that your brain is indulging in a momentary pause of indecision I want you to say Oh, opportunity, this is an opportunity for me to practice being decisive. For me to be decisive and to tell the truth. Let me just pick this one. This is going to be a good one. I want to I want to mention before we close out for the day, we have a whole course and workshop within the College of competence on how to make confident decisions how to be decisive so of course you get instant access to that when you join our membership culture competence.com It is 100% money back guarantee it is month to month cancel at any time. It is my I believe the number one place the only place you can get every tool you need for competence in a very, very deep way. All in one spot in the difference between the podcast and the college competence is here you're getting information. In the COC we do implementation we implement we make it in actually act debate in your life, the big difference. And then if you're jamming out on this concept, there are two podcasts in our archives that you'll enjoy. One is episode 512 called trusting yourself and trusting your decisions. I'll have the link to those in the show notes. And then oh man, we went I went old school I went like a couple 100 episodes ago a couple years ago, there was episode 351 Five mindset decisions you must make to be confident so this is going to take the conversation of his decisions to the next level guys, I will see you on next week's episode. Make sure you hit subscribe share this episode with a friend. And if you are an Instagram come say hi to me. I am Trish underscore Blackwell on Instagram and I still hang out on Facebook too. I am Trish Blackwell coaching over there. Guys go out there today go be more of who God created you to be. Be you. Be free. Thanks for listening to the confidence podcast and allowing me to be your coach today in your life. If you love the show, please let us know by leaving a review in iTunes are encouraged by what you learned. share this episode with a friend and let us know that the show is changing your life by saying hi to us on social media Instagram, Trish_Blackwell are on Facebook Trish Blackwell coaching, ready to take what I teach and really take it to the next level. Join us today in the College of confidence It's my group coaching program that you can join risk free and cancel anytime in the COC your scale, your confidence, your courage, and the changes you make in your life. It's the coaching support and community you've been looking for. Go to www.collegeofconfidence.com to get started. If you love the podcast, you will love the College of confidence even more and see even more transformation in your life. Come and see for yourself. I'm cheering you on friend. See you soon

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