Podcast #587

WANTING PEOPLE TO LIKE YOU: HOW TO FEEL CONFIDENT IN ANY SOCIAL SITUATION

You want to be liked, and at the core, you know people like you, but you still wonder if you fit in and if people really like you. You’ve accepted that there will be people who don’t like you, but you still wish that you could be cooler or feel like you belong more than you do, and you wonder why you still struggle with some of the same social insecurities that plagued your mind when you were in middle school. This episode on social confidence, and knowing how to belong and feel confident in any social situation is for you. 

In this episode, you’re going to learn:

  • How to like yourself so that you will be unconcerned if people like you or not
  • Power phrases to remind yourself to stand in being who you are
  • Common mistakes you might be making that are keeping you from being as confident in any social situation, personal or professional

 

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COACHING ON WANTING PEOPLE TO LIKE YOU:

  • “Wanting to be someone else is a waste of the person you are.” – Marilyn Monroe
  • “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” – Dita Von Teese
  • “Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” – Lao Tzu

 

We have a natural human inclination to seek validation.

There are societal advantages to having “approval”, but did you know that you can learn to give yourself approval too? 

People will like you if you like you

Mistakes: 

Not knowing yourself

Not spending time with yourself

Not reflecting on your unique giftings

Overgeneralizing yourself

Minimizing the miracle of your existence

Downplaying your strengths

Trying to portray a perfect image

You have to know yourself to like yourself

Mistakes:

Staying too busy

Not trying enough new things

Doing what other people do instead of what you want to do

People pleasing

Not allowing free thinking or boredom

You have to be willing to be disliked

Embrace rejection as part of life. 

Practice self-compassion.

Celebrate emotional bravery.

Decide to stand for and speak for something.

See yourself as a leader instead of a follower. 

Mistakes:

Trying to have everyone approve of you

Being afraid to offend anyone with your opinions

Not practicing asking for what you want

Not even knowing what you want

You need a plan.

A social confidence plan for work situations.

An intentional interaction plan for social engagements.

A practice of intentional emotion creation on a daily basis, and then when it matters most

A daily commitment of self-approval and self-validation

A grounded practice of gratitude and praise to the Creator who designed you as you are

POWER PHRASES TO APPRECIATE YOURSELF:

  1. God designed me magnificently, and He doesn’t make mistakes.
  2. I am who God designed me to be.
  3. I was created on purpose and with purpose.
  4. The world needs my unique personality, passions and potential.
  5. I like being me and I like this life I’m creating.
  6. I’m a world-changer and difference-maker: the way I show up today matters. 

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You want to be liked, and other core, you know people like you. But you still wonder if you fit in how you fit in. And if people really like you, or they're just being nice to you, or they just have to like you or they just tolerate you. So you've accepted that there will be people in life who don't like you. But you still wish that you could be cooler or feel like you belong more than you do or wish that you could change their opinion about you. You are frustrated when you know that someone doesn't like you that you can't change their opinion. And then also at the same time, perhaps you wonder why you still struggle with some of the same social insecurities that plagued your mind. When you were in middle school and you might be in your 20s you might be in your 30s, your 40s or 50s, or your 60s Right now I'm going why do I care so much look, this episode is for you. If anything that I just said resonated with you, this is an episode on social competence and knowing how to belong and feel competent in any social situation is for you. We're gonna dive in. Welcome to the competence podcasts. Let's go I'm going to be teaching you how to like yourself, so you can stop being worried. And be totally unconcerned. If other people don't like you. We're going to give you some power phrases, to remind yourself to stand in being who you are. And we're going to cover some common mistakes that you might be making that might be making you appear or feel more socially insecure than you actually are. Are you ready? Let's go. You're listening to the confidence podcast, the go to coaching podcast, oozing with motivation, and easy to implement steps that help you to be bold, and confident in life. I'm your host, Trish Blackwell, internationally recognized confidence coach, best selling author, and founder of the College of confidence. I teach go getters in life, how to master their self talk, turn down the volume of self doubt, and get more results in life. So that you can be the difference maker and world changer. God created you to be you were made for more. And today's episode will help you tap into it. Let's go. Hey there, it's Trish Blackwell and you're listening to the confidence podcast. This is episode 587. wanting people to like you how to feel confident in any social situation. I'm gonna be covering as I've already mentioned, some of the mistakes that you might be making some ways to like yourself more so that you won't be bothered by people who don't like you. And then I'm going to give you some power phrases. Those are my term for I think deeper rooted affirmations, things that really give you power and a burst from within your soul, that you can start speaking out over yourself so that you feel as amazing as you actually are. What you say to yourself absolutely matters. And so we're going to be giving you all those some things to repeat some things to add to your journal, make sure you stick to the end. If you are new to the show. Welcome to the confidence podcast, I am so glad you are here. We are a community of people worldwide, who are driven and determined to do more with our lives to do more with the potential that God has given us to live life to the absolute fullest and inspire others to the to do the same. And you'll do that by having the confidence to believe that more is possible. It all starts there. Very briefly before we go into today's coaching one quick announcement that is timely if you listen to the show, every week that I drop a new episode on Tuesdays this coming Friday, which is Friday, February 25. At 1pm. Eastern, we're gonna be doing a training on how to stop having work anxiety, I have been talking to way too many people who are dreading Mondays, who are checking emails at all hours of the day, who are feeling pressure, who are under earning but are afraid to ask for a raise because they're not sure if they're doing good enough, even though they're highly qualified, highly capable, highly paid. You still aren't sure if you're doing good enough now. I decided it's time to put a whole training together on how to stop that work anxiety and we're talking how to detox impostor syndrome, how to trust that you're doing a good job so you don't dread or work anymore or find yourself thinking about it beyond the boundaries of work to create some confidence that sets you apart and makes your work feel easier whether you work for someone else or you're an entrepreneur, putting yourself out there growing your own business, and I'm gonna give you some better boundaries for work in life and some simple ways. I want to let you know this class is for you. One is absolutely free. This class is for you. If you feel anxious at night about the work you have waiting for you in the office, if you have a position of leadership or the ability to promote, but you don't feel qualified enough, if you struggle with impostor syndrome and fear that some of your success has been a fluke, if you feel like you're always working, always hustling, and yet always behind, if you aren't contributing at your fullest potential at work, or perhaps procrastinating in your business because you don't feel ready, or if you're under earning, and you want to make more money, but you don't know if you're capable at handling a larger workload, I want you to grab a free spot at Trish blackwell.com forward slash work anxiety that's Trish blackwell.com forward slash work anxiety. Even if you can't attend live, I'm going to make sure you get the replays of still grab your free spot. And it's a 30 minute work workshop. I'm going straight to it. I'm going to give you three strategies, five mistakes where you are going deep and very practical, easy to implement applicable way so I will see you this Friday or on the replay. Do you have to sign a sign up though? Trish blackwell.com forward slash work anxiety? Let's dive in to the coaching. I love I can't How can I Oh wait, I just before we dive in, you have to know my family and I've welcomed a new puppy. So if you're not an animal lover, you're like Okay, move on. But my for my animal lovers out there, and those of you who have been with me for years, you know that we recently lost our beloved dog. This past September, and just as of yesterday, got a new puppy into our lives and happens to be Finn's nephew from the same breeder. He's an Irish terrier. He is the shining light of my heart right now. He is the cutest thing I've ever seen. And his name is Sherlock he's Sherlock shamrock is his middle name. And we are calling him Sherlock. And I have started an Instagram page for him because I am that much of a fan. You can look him up at Sherlock a dot the dot Irish dot terrier. And if you'd like puppies, it's a fun, it's gonna be a fun feed to follow. So anyways, I'm in a good spot right now I'm in a place with gratitude where my heart is full. And I just appreciate the joy. Oh my gosh, I've little things the joy of life. And so let's coach let's coach I just need you to know why I'm in a good mood. So coaching on wanting people to like you, Marilyn, Marissa, this wanting to be someone else's a waste of the person you are. And often when we find ourselves when other people are not liking us, we this is something deep in us desires to be different than we are. I want to remind you that you were created on purpose and with purpose and the intricacies of who you are and how you were made are purposeful. Please don't water down who God made you to be. Please don't be anybody but who you are. Because it's a waste of the person that you are. And it's a watered down imitation of other people. Neither is good. Lao Tzu said this care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner. I'm standing right here raising my hand in front of row with you. I was people's prisoners. For years. If you don't know my story, I struggled with perfectionism and overachieving and pressuring myself and self criticism and eating disorders and all that to be said, all of that was because my deep drive to belong I thought I needed to earn my place. I wanted to impress people. I didn't know that I was accepted for who I was. I did. My mom told me that but I didn't believe it. And then, Dita Von Teese said this, you can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world. And there's still going to be somebody who doesn't like peaches. Not only that, there's still gonna be somebody who hates peaches. And it's just a reminder that no matter who you are, there are going to be people who don't like you. There is not one human in the world, in the history of the world, who has been liked by everyone.

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And I hope that brings you comfort today. I hope that frees you from whatever drama and story and narrative that you've told yourself about why you don't belong or what is wrong with you. Because that cool group didn't like you or your Boston like your somebody held something against you, for some reason, you weren't someone's cup of tea, but we have these childhood wounds that we hold on to. And today it's time to let those go. It's today it's time to give yourself perspective and pull back the lens and realize this is part of the human experience. And at the same time, we're going to let go of wanting people to like us and the same time still validate the natural human inclination, we have to want to seek validation, because there are societal advantages to having approval. It's part of our wiring to belong to a tribe it was part of its it's a protective mechanism of survival. But I wanted to offer to you that you Even though we seek validation and approval from other people liking us, did you know that you can shortcut it and learn to give it yourself to yourself? You see, I waited years of my life wanting other people to approve me I spent so much time trying to get people's favor, try to be the best try to be the teacher's pet, try to get the great grades, try to earn my way into people's approval and to get that the affirmation back from it. And I would get it sometimes, but I never got what I want. Because other people cannot validate you, if you have not yet validated yourself. And one of the greatest skills you can do is to learn how to start validating yourself how to trust the fact that God says He is you are his masterpiece, and that what he says is true. And then you validate that truth, you validate that you are, you are woven together by the God of the universe who created everything. As we're not validating how that just that we're validating the fact that you are a child of God that you are a masterpiece of His creation. And that you can learn instead of being self critical to be self encouraging. Instead of instead of seeing where you are always messing up, start filtering for where you are doing well and how you are learning and how it can be good. Stop waiting for other people to compliment you. And instead start the day by complimenting yourself. So in general, though, I wanted to start with the approach to be unconcerned if people will like you or not. And you will be unconcerned. If people like you, if you like you. And here's what's super cool about it. More people will like you, if you like you. There are some people who I haven't. Maybe I have the natural draw towards just because we had different interests or there was just a there is there is attraction to people, you are drawn to certain people, you like certain people, and you don't like other people. And it's not that you dislike them. I was coaching, actually in the College of competence recently. And I was we were coaching on validation and social confidence. And I pointed out the fact that there are things that I don't like, but I don't not like them. Does that make sense? I don't like olives, like, my husband loves them. And I just don't like them. But I don't not like them. I don't have a vendetta against them. I don't think they're horrible. I see value in them. They're just not valuable for me. They're just not my cup of tea. And so I will buy cans of olives. My husband loves them, as I said, and if at all, if touches anything of my food, ooh, it's in the trash. But just because I don't like it doesn't mean I don't value it, I value all of them enough to pay for them. They're just not for me. And think about this, too. There are certain people that maybe are not your ideal favorite coworker or favorite family member, but you you just go I don't know what it is. But I just don't like them. But I don't not like them. And you see, I think we get so butthurt when we think that someone doesn't like us, we dramatize it, we think oh, they really don't like us and they must have a thing against us. And I must I need to be do something different to to convince them to like, honestly, they're just you might be all of them. This doesn't, you just don't do it for them. And it has nothing to do with you. Because I think about the things I like and I don't like it's so random. And there's things in people that some personality traits, I'm like, Hmm, just that that part, that type of personality expression just isn't my cup of tea. But that one is and it's quirky, it's really, it's, there's no really rhyme or reason to what I'm drawn to. And the same for you. And I say this to you release yourself a little bit from the pressure of going, what we've tried to what's wrong with me? Why don't they like me, it's as simple as you just might not be. You might be the juiciest peach in the world. You're not just some people don't like peaches. Some people don't like olives, right? It's so freeing when you realize you don't have to change who you are to be more liked. In fact, I was trying to say here that there are people that maybe wouldn't be my initial cup of tea. But man, if they like themselves, I like them. So we might have nothing in common. But I see a person with high confidence and high self esteem and just enjoys their life and goes all in on their hobbies. And we have we could have nothing aligned. But I am drawn to a person who likes themselves. Because they're enjoyable, because they're open because there's this there's this confidence that draws you in and you can feel at peace around them. And so it's really true people will like you, if you like you. Now what are some mistakes that we make in the quest of liking ourselves one first and foremost. You can't like yourself if you don't know yourself so not knowing yourself, not spending time with yourself because in order to know yourself, you need to spend time with yourself. Think about your spouse or your boyfriend And, or your best friend. In order to love those people like those people, you had to spend time with them. Often we live lives that are so, so busy, so, so scheduled, you like the version of you that the world sees. But that's not the real you. That's the human doing, not the human being, you got to spend time with yourself, the human being. The other thing that we make the mistake of doing is not reflecting enough on our own unique giftings. And this is done through coaching. It's done through therapy, it's done through journaling, but really understanding that you are fearfully and wonderfully made, that you are unique, that you do have something to offer that your unique personality, your unique giftings. They're a gift to the world. But you've got to know them. You've got to spend time you've got to reflect you've got to ask for feedback, you've got to do the work to understand them. Also, the mistake that was holding you back from liking yourself more is overgeneralizing yourself. What I mean by that is we often so focused on where we can improve or what's not right with us that we discount. What's great about us. And I see this all the time in my coaching, I see people with really, to me significant stand out qualities and they're like, well, everyone's nice like that. I'm like, oh, no, have you walked to the world? Or everyone's good at, you know, physics? I'm like, Well, I'm not like, for anything other off the off the cuff hand examples here. But there's this overgeneralization that everyone is like you just because maybe you see three friends who also have some of the same skills or giftings, or personalities, or humor. And you're like, Well, I mean, it's just humor. Please do not over generalize or discount. The person God made you. Don't minimize the miracle of your existence. don't downplay your strengths. There's this false humility, this fear of coming off as prideful that has, I think sabotage so many people's confidence. We we want to go Oh, everyone's good. It's Oh, no, it's not that it's not I'm not that talented here. It's just you know, um, sometimes I work hard at piano and oh, it's just you know, just like music. We you're discounting your passion. You're downplaying your God given strengths. It's not cute. It's not cute. It does not glorify God and it does not serve other people. don't downplay your strengths, love your strengths, love them, because they make you you explore them, maximize them, share them. And when you downplay, you're also minimizing who you are. You're minimizing what you like and what you're passionate about. One of the other examples I gave to the culture competence earlier was the fact that when we were to coaching on loving yourself and and liking spending time with yourself and liking being you, and when you like you, you don't care who doesn't? I, as you've heard, if you've listened to more than just one episode, I love snowboarding. I love snowboarding so much. It's often the first thing I look at in the morning after I journal and read my Bible. I look at the the weather at the mountains that I care about. It's brings it's it's my passion is what brings me joy. I absolutely know, there are a lot of people who don't like snowboarding, don't care about it. Think it's too cold skiers who think snowboarders are annoying, that you can have all of the thoughts about snowboarding.

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And I don't care because I like it. And this is an example I want you to think about something that you like so much that when someone's like, that's kind of dumb, you spend that much money on that, or why do you like that? And you're like, I don't need you to like it for me to like it. I like it. It doesn't matter what you think. I mean, I think everybody should like it. But it's okay. It literally bothers me zero when someone doesn't like it. I get super fired up. When someone does that. It's super find out for those of you who reach out on Instagram and say that, hey, you were also you know, it's also your thing. You're also passionate about it you do with your kids, I feel 100 times connected to you. But I don't care if you don't like it because I like it. That is the attitude I want you to embody was social confidence. I don't care if you don't like me, because I like me. Now. This is the self talk. You're saying to yourself in your head. We're not going in sitting on a soapbox and saying this. But I gotta tell you, it will free you. And so one of the power phrases you could start to say to yourself as I like me, and that's enough. I like me, they don't need to like me. The other mistake that we make the final mistake I wanted to share is that we try to pretend portray a perfect image. The perfect house the clean organized this the perfect body the perfect marriage, you guys it's so fake. It's exhausting. It's been so For many years of my life, trying to be a perfectionist, and trying to look a certain way trying to act as if nothing took effort, it was exhausting. And it was untrue. And it created anxiety. And it disconnected me from other people versus connecting me, which is ultimately what we're craving, we're craving connection. So, okay, so you have to know yourself, you have to like yourself, to be free. People will like you if you like you, but you have to know yourself to like yourself, and what some of the core mistakes that we are making, in the pursuit of knowing ourselves or staying too busy. Not trying enough new things. Sometimes you go, I don't know how to spend time with myself. Great. How exciting. Well, you are now on an adventure with yourself, you are now on your way to exploring all the things, doing what other people do instead of what you want to do. That's a mistake, people pleasing. And then also not allowing enough free thinking, or boredom. And two of the ways I do free thinking or in a crate intentional boredom, is through driving without my phone on taking walks without my phone. And I often I would say 85% of the time I snowboard without music. And I used to always snowboard with music. And I do I do more now. But I like the quiet. of allowing my thoughts to wander. You can do that with journaling as well. But you have to you have to have quiet you have to be silent, you have to do reflection in order to know yourself. The other thing we need to do is to be willing to be disliked. We already started hinting at this earlier at the beginning of the episode. But you've got to be willing to dislike, be disliked. And if once that will we've established that everyone will be disliked. There's nothing wrong with you. If people dislike you then you can be free here. And so one of the things I'm teaching my children, as I really deep in the roots of this in my own life is to embrace rejection as part of life. To embrace rejection, to embrace being different than other people to accept being different. Being different can feel weird. Being different can make you feel misunderstood. It can make you feel hurt and make you feel out on the outside. But when you when you can remind yourself that everyone is sometimes rejected sometimes different. It just means there are other people to connect with. And in order to practice being disliked being willing, just it's a willingness to be disliked. I'm not saying go be the person go be a jerk. So people don't like you. I'm saying let's open our willingness to be disliked and our willingness to be misunderstood. Because people don't need to understand you if you understand you. And you can be fully loved without being fully understood. And so we do this by practicing self compassion, celebrating emotional bravery. Anytime you are emotionally brave. I need you to give yourself an atta girl, give yourself an attaboy acknowledge it self validate that and also to decide to stand for and speak for something the the people who are often disliked are the ones who are brave. They are the ones who are doing something with their lives. They're the ones who are standing up and advocating for change. They're the ones who are, who are true and bold in their faith are the ones who are saying it's okay if not everyone agrees. But I think this is really important here. I want you to see yourself as a leader, instead of a follower. That's a paradigm shift. The fact that you're listening to a podcast like this tells me you're a leader. And the world needs more leaders. We've almost 8 billion people in the world. And a lot of people are just going through the motions following the path that they're told, but they don't really know feeling very unfulfilled. They need leadership. They need somebody who's on fire for life. They need you as an example. But when you step up when you start doing big things for your life, you'll have some naysayers. You're gonna have some people who go what are you doing? Okay, you don't need them to like you. Remember, we don't need everyone to approve of you. You get stuck often. I think when we go we don't even we don't even know what do we want to advocate for we don't even know what we want. If we don't practice asking for what we want. Then we we won't ever know what we want and without knowing what you want and exploring and asking and and being brave with your desire. You'll never step into leadership you'll never step into the life and in the leadership of your own life even of creating a path stuff that you feel is this God given passionate path of purpose. But here's the deal we know, not everyone needs to like you. Not everyone needs to prove a view. But you need to need to self validate, which just simply means self encourage along the way, you need a plan, you need a plan, you need a social confidence plan for work situations, you need an intentional interaction plan. For social engagements, you need a practice of intentional emotion creation, we call it in the COC we call it intentional emotion creation on a daily basis. And then figuring out what matters when it matters. Most you really implement it, you need to do a daily commitment of self approval and self validation, and grow grounded practice of gratitude and praise to the Creator, who designed you as you are. And when I say this, you need to plan a lot of this can be done through journaling, a lot can be done, through the guidance that I offer in my coaching program, the College of competence, if you've never yet checked us out, go to college or competence.com, you can join us for 14 days. And if it's not for you just let us know we literally no questions asked give you your money back. Because I'm that confident that this is the resource that takes what you hear on the podcast, to the next level. And I heard this recently actually on a in a church sermon from social Dallas, that was so incredible. And it was like gratitude that is not expressed is an is in gratitude.

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And to express gratitude, in the little things of your day in the little areas of your life and all the elements of of your growth of gratitude for the gift of life, the more you ground yourself in gratitude, I believe the more you will grow, the more you'll grow and your confidence, the more you will grow in your emotional intelligence then, and your emotional maturity, the more you will grow in your ability to to be socially confident and socially comfortable being who God created you to be in your social engagements in your work situations in any any situation you find yourself. So I want to give you some power phrases to appreciate yourself. I have 123 I have six here. And I like you know, I think I've gone a little overboard of giving you 1020 And my sweet husband, if you're listening. I love you. He recently was listening to the podcast, to be honest, I never thought he listened. And I walked in the kitchen and he had an old speaker and as like, why am I talking? And he said, Hey, I really liked this, whatever the specific episode is. But he said, some feedback. I'm overwhelmed, you gave me too many things. I went okay, this is what I need to hear. So I love your feedback, especially love my husband's and I am giving instead of giving you like a 25 power phrases, I'm going to give you six that is my that is my adjustment. And here they are. And they are written in the show notes. If you are walking on the treadmill driving your car and you can't write these down, do you go to Trish blackwell.com Ford slash 587, you'll get all of the shownotes we have the transcript of the episodes there as well. But what I like to do with power phrases, is if you want them to give you power, you've got to use them, you've got to write them down, you've got to speak them out loud, you I would recommend texting them to yourself, the more you repeat, the more you will master, the more they will create new neural pathways, and speaking new neural pathways. Next episode next week, we're going to be talking about believing in what you want. And we're going to talk about a little bit of the science of neuroplasticity, and how to actually stay in a place of belief in yourself and in what you believe is possible and what are the goals that you're setting. So that was also some listener feedback that I am honoring, and I'm excited to be able to offer you guys alright, here they are. Number one power phrase number one, God designed me magnificently. And he doesn't make mistakes. So these are power phrases that will help you appreciate yourself, they will help you like being you. Because again, you can be really social confident if you like if you just like being you. If you like you, it doesn't matter who doesn't. God designed me magnificently and he doesn't make mistakes. Number two, I am who God designed me to be. Number three, I was created on purpose and with purpose. Number four, the world needs my unique personality, passions, and potential. Number five, I like the simplicity of this one listen to this. I like being me. And I like this life I'm creating. That one gives me so much peace. Because as a naturally highly, highly anxious person. I'm wired for doing and I'm wired for big dreams and pressure and all the past story that you've heard I'm always feeling like I should be doing more, right. That's why I'm so excited about this work confidence workshop that we're going to do this week. Again, your free spot for that is Trish blackwell.com forward slash work anxiety. But I like the confidence that comes up, I can feel it wash over me when I say it. I like this life I'm creating means it's not perfect means my business isn't the things in my business that I want to go certain places aren't, it doesn't matter how they're going. There could have been created things or in in process. I like being me. And I like this life I'm creating. Number six, I'm a world changer. And difference maker, the way I show up today matters. And I cannot reiterate that enough, the way you show up today matters. There might be one thing that you say to somebody today that changes their life, I really believe a sentence can change your life. I've had my life completely transformed from things that people have said to me. And they probably don't remember when they said it that they said it. But they need to know that how they showed up that day, truly, genuinely mattered for me. So don't underestimate the power that you have in the world with how you show up, you matter. I don't know if that gives you power. But that sure makes me feel powerful. When I think about social competence and letting go of letting people wanting people to like me, if you know that you're a world changer in difference maker in the way you show up matters. Even if you show up and you're just there, you show up and you listen, you show up and you're the person who encourages, I need you to know when you know that you belong. And you know that you matter. You can have confidence, any situation any social situation. So before we close out today, I want to remind you actually, if you have heard recently, we've had a lot of really great reviews on our, our new two offers, we have a self validation challenge. And so that's what I'm going to recommend if you're if you're jamming out on this concept of being stopped waiting for other people to approve you stop waiting for the social group to build you up. But start to learn to start building yourself up to learn to start giving you your own self encouragement, your own internal validation for for the growth you're making for the things you say to yourself. That is all in a seven day challenge that I have, you can get access to it for $7. And it's the self validation challenge. You can get it at Trish blackwell.com, forward slash validate. So you can check that out and check out see if it's right for you. And then of course in the College of confidence. this coming month we've been working on confident conflict. And so when you join this month, you get access to all of that all the replays and everything that's coming up in the next month. We are spending in the month of March coaching on how to create your own luck, how to create your own luck, more results, how to win more in life. We want we want you to I want you to have that confidence that you are the luckiest person there is. It's all mindset. It's all confidence is all in the approach and I'm going to teach you every step of the way. Our review of the week was Todd art Peterson I gotta say we've had some incredible reviews. Thank you guys so much. It makes me feel so encouraged. And thank you for sharing the reviews because your reviews help the show get found by more people. It is a beautiful way to pay for it. Here's what Todd R Peterson said best podcast I've ever listened to to top. Like I just want to stop right there. Thank you. Here's the review. I've recently started to binge this podcast. I'm not exaggerating. When I say it has changed my life. I finally found the competence to not care what people think of me. It has helped me to slow down when I'm overwhelmed and busy and helped me to manage my life and time better. Don't hesitate to listen. Trish goes over so many different places in life where we struggle and it will seriously help you find the confidence to take action in your life to create your best life. Brother thank you guys I will see you next week. Next week we're talking about success confidence, believing in yourself believing in what you're creating even though you haven't yet seen the result. Cannot wait make sure you're hitting subscribe following the show. And if this episode resonated with you share it with a friend. 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