Podcast #579

HOW TO BE CONSISTENT AND WHY YOU SHOULD EXPAND YOUR DISCOMFORT TOLERANCE

If you’re consistent, you can create any result you want. The truth is, most people give too soon. They stop right before the breakthrough. They tire of the uncomfortable feelings of boredom or disappointment and they become inconsistent in following through. The result? They don’t get the result they want, and then they’re discouraged. Too much discouragement deters you from your destiny and from remembering who you are and what you’re capable of. Anyone can be consistent, if you decide to be. This episode will teach you the secret to consistency, and how to leverage the discomfort of keeping your word to yourself to expand your discomfort capacity … because when you expand your discomfort capacity, you exponentially scale what’s possible for you in life.

In this episode of. The Confidence Podcast, we’re chatting about:

The secret to consistency 

Expanding your discomfort capacity – how to do it

How increasing your tolerance of discomfort fast-tracks you to next-level success.

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Your 2024 Habits

Your 2024 Thoughts

Your 2024 Results

Your 2024 Breakthroughs 

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CONSISTENCY

Success is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying basic fundamentals.” – Jim Rohn

“It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives. It’s what we do consistently.” – Tony Robbins

Everything you want is on the other side of what you don’t want to do

THE SECRET TO CONSISTENCY

Decide.

Commit.

Committing requires skin in the game.

-Accountability

-Consequences

-Vision

-Investment 

Consistency requires that you do things you don’t want to do.

It’s easy when there’s no choice.

Stop giving yourself a choice to have a choice. 

DISCOMFORT

“If you want something you’ve never had, you must be willing to do something you’ve never done.” – Thomas Jefferson

“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.” – Helen Keller

“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” – Jim Rohn

“A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.” – John A. Shedd

This is uncomfortable, good.

I’m becoming better at doing what I don’t want to do.

Notice the dread.

Pay attention to what you would have avoided 

EXPANDING YOUR DISCOMFORT CAPACITY 

Stop waiting for things to get easy; instead consider yourself someone who leans into things being hard.

The Hard Things Pyramid

Create intentional zones of discomfort you pre-identify

Identify as being someone capable of feeling the discomfort

-of handling the hard

-of navigating the internal dread

THE FAST-TRACK TO NEXT LEVEL SUCCESS

Expansion of discomfort tolerance creates accelerated success capacity. 

You expand, or level up, your capability. 

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If you're consistent, you can create any result you want. The truth is, most people give up too soon, they stop right before the breakthrough, they tire of the uncomfortable feelings of boredom and disappointment, and ambiguity. And they become inconsistent and following through, but it's not like in big ways at first, it's in little ways, but the result is always the same. They don't get the result they want. And then they're discouraged. Too much discouragement deters you from your destiny. And from remembering who you are and what you're capable of. What you know, today, anyone can be consistent. If you decide to be this episode will teach you the secrets to consistency and how to leverage the discomfort of keeping your word to yourself to expand your discomfort capacity, your discomfort tolerance, because when you expand your discomfort capacity, you exponentially scale what's possible in your life. If you want to make 2020 for the year where you become consistent, where you become committed to that thing that you want, and you make it happen, this episode is for you. You're listening to the confidence podcast, the go to coaching podcast, oozing with motivation, and easy to implement steps that help you to be bold, and confident in life. I'm your host, Trish Blackwell, internationally recognized confidence coach, best selling author, and founder of the College of confidence, I teach go getters in life, how to master their self talk, turn down the volume of self doubt, and get more results in life. So that you can be the difference maker and world changer. God created you to be you were made for more. And today's episode will help you tap into it. Let's go. Hey, guys, it's Trish Blackwell, and you're listening to the confidence podcast, hey, you're in a good place. Because you're listening to today's show. This is episode 579. We're talking about how to be consistent and why this is going to help you expand your discomfort tolerance. More specifically, we're going to talk about the secret to consistency, expanding your discomfort, capacity, how to do it and you might be going I don't want to do that. Like That sounds hard. I'm here to remind you, that you can do hard things. And not only can you do hard things, you're good at doing hard things and that our goal in life is going to have hard it's it's not going to get easier. We think it gets easier we we tell ourselves that once we surpass this next stage our kids get to a certain age we we get past this season of tests in school, then then it's going to be easy. Once we get up to the certain level in our corporation, then that the paycheck becomes this, then that life is still going to be hard. And so rather than wait for the easy to come, we need to lean into the hard that we're capable of handling. So we're gonna talk about that because you already look you're gonna handle discomfort, we might as well get real good at it, and have a real good attitude about it. Because when you have a good attitude about things, things are easier. I'm going to talk to you today also about how increasing your tolerance of discomfort can fast track you to the next level of success. I am super excited hate for anyone who is new. I'm so happy you're here. Look, I really try to jam pack each and every episode of The confidence podcast with actual strategic things you can implement in your life because there are millions of podcasts you can listen to, and you're busy. My goal is that this brings you value each and every week. If it does, please share it with a friend, please forward this episode to three or four people who you know are jamming out on personal growth or interested in creating change in their life or being excellent leaders. And also if you haven't yet write a review in iTunes for us. We were on a review drought y'all I'm trying to you I tell you the truth. So if you could help us grow the show, your reviews help other people who don't haven't yet given us listen, give us a listen. So that's my shout out please, if this has blessed you, I'd be so grateful if you took just two minutes of your day to write a review in iTunes. But I do want to highlight a listener of the episode it's a new listener to Nikki and she said this on a Facebook post that I made and if you're not following me on Facebook, I'm Trish Blackwell coaching over on Facebook on Instagram. It's at Trish underscore Blackwell she just said this Hey, I listened to your podcast on the five mistakes people make. I want to commend you for doing what you do. I'm learning a lot of suffocated my happiness, but I'm ready to work on my competence. I'm new in my podcast and I'm ready to grow Hey, you're in the right place. And if you are ready to grow if you're ready to make 2020 for the best year of your life, you're ready to grow for those of you who are coming off of the Christmas season. Merry Christmas Since I hope you had an amazing day, yesterday, if you're listening live when we released this, today is the day after Christmas. What a blessed time to sell it slow down and celebrate with people that we love. And one final announcement before we dive in to today's coaching,

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you have goals, you've got ideas

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of what you want to do, but you're not sure what to do and how to execute them. I want to invite you to join me for new you week. We do these every we do these actually twice a year where I do a week long coaching where I invite you in to experience five days of coaching for an hour with me. And the new we knew you week, we're going to be doing it January 8 through January 12. At noon, Eastern Standard Time, everything is gonna be recorded. We're gonna go over the 2020 for you, your 2024 habits, your 2024 thoughts, your 2024 results, your 2024 breakthroughs. This is the separation maker between you and last year you can get your spot at Trish blackwell.com forward slash New Year. Let's talk about what we're here today. For most talk about consistency. Jim Rohn said this success is neither magical or mysterious success is the natural consequence of consistency, consistently applying basic fundamentals. You've heard me say this before, little by little big things get done. Extraordinary Things are done by doing ordinary things with extraordinary commitment. Tony Robbins says this is not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives. It's what we do consistently. Y'all everything you want, is on the other side of what you don't want to do consistently. So I want you to pause for a moment today and say what is the habit? What is the thing? What is the thing I know that is hindering my growth, keeping me grounded from flying, making me tiptoe making me want to not be fully seen, where am I self sabotaging? Or watering down my potential? Where am I not stewarding everything God has given me? Where am I playing small. And often it's something we just don't want to do. You just don't want to commit to the workout, you just don't want to start tracking how much wine you're drinking at night. You just don't want to actually sign up for those language classes. So you can be fluent in the language that you're just passionate about. And you want to you talk about wanting to prioritize your hobbies and your and your dreams. But you don't make time for those. Like, what is that thing that you say that you want? But you're not actually stepping over the fence and saying I'm going to do what I don't want to do? How bad do you want it? How bad do you want a fabulous life, a life of your dreams.

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And I want to tell you today, no matter your background, no matter your education.

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No matter the trauma, or the magical perfect upbringing you had. You have control over what your future looks like. I believe we co author our future alongside our walk with God. And there's there's so much that we have control over. You can design your destiny, you can design your dream life, your dream day, your future, but we have to first decide what it is What is it that you want? And chances are, we don't actually go after what we want. Because we've been so discouraged because of what we thought we want what we thought we went all out for in the past when it didn't work out when it didn't pan out.

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Got bummed if we were really honest. And were

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you consistent, were you absolutely impeccably consistent and committed. And here's the deal. It's not an all or nothing approach, if you do it perfectly, doesn't mean it's the result is going to be what you want. But every result is a learning opportunity. Every result is a course correction to the pivot on the path that you want to go. And so there's no such thing as wasted effort. So let's talk about what is the secret to consistency, the number of people who have come to me and Citrix you're so consistent.

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I just wish I could be.

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I cannot count the number of times I've heard that. I need you to know I am not a special unicorn. I do love unicorns.

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But I'm not one.

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I'm just a girl who decided to do boring things over and over until they created fabulous results. Which means by consistency is simply a skill. It's simply a choice. It's a commitment to myself. I've made promises to myself that I then keep but know that there was a season in my life. I made promises to myself that I broke all the time. And I when I lived out of integrity with myself when I kept breaking promises to myself that I'm going to start Tomorrow, I'm gonna work on this now and I'm gonna get help on this. And then I would change my mind the next day was some of the lowest points of my life, I was just scrambling to get through the week, get through the day, had very low self esteem. But my self esteem increased when I realized that if I start practicing being a person who does what they say they're going to do, first and foremost, within my own mind, life will transform. So the secret to consistency is not that you're a super disciplined person, here's the problem, I think we go, Oh, I'm just not that disciplined, good for you for your discipline. Now, I hate when people say that, to me, it's not discipline, it's a choice, I have decided to be a person

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who is consistent,

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who is resilient, and who's willing to do what other people are not going to do, which is not that extraordinary, because most people just don't want to be consistent. They're not willing to do a five minute task every single day. So when you break it down, it's hard to do, but also very easy. You just have to keep doing what you say you're going to do. And here's what I heard somebody else say this, it's when you take the choice out of it, life becomes easy. And I, I believe we have so much choice in life. But when we give ourselves a choice on consistency, it becomes really hard to I want to do it, I gotta really, I need to white knuckle it and like double down, I gotta be good about this. And I'm gonna, I'm gonna stay the course this time. And, and I know you're about to go into the new year and say, This time, I'm staying committed, I'm gonna keep on I'm not gonna give up halfway through the year. It's not even that it's just what have you just decided, because it's part of who you are, that you don't have a choice not to be consistent anymore. I learned so much of this when I was an athlete, I still am an athlete. But when you are an athlete at a division one level, and you're a full scholarship

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athlete, you don't have a choice.

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I mean, I certainly could have dropped my sport, and lost my scholarship. But if I had done that, I would have had to find another way to pay for the school that I my family couldn't afford to pay for. And so with gratitude. I knew that I had to stay consistent. I had to stay committed, it was not hard. And so if you don't know my background, I'm come from the sport of swimming, which if you don't know the sport, swimming, it's a crazy sport. It's a sport, where at the age of 10, I started doing doubles, which means two practices a day, which is four hours with your head underwater every day. You wonder, my husband sometimes says, Why do you talk so much. I'm like, because I had so many years,

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where I spent four hours a day that couldn't talk to people.

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I mean, the funny thing, and if you're a summer, I know you're shaking your head, I have so many of you that reach out that tell me I was a swimmer, I get it. If you're a swimmer, reach out to me on Instagram, tell me say hi on Facebook. Here's, here's the thing, if you don't know the sport of swimming, the two hours that you're swimming in a practice are three hours, it's pretty intense, but you have intervals and you have these repeat sets that you do. And if you're lucky, if you're having a good practice, you might get 10 seconds rest. And so maybe you're doing a five minute thing, a 400 freestyle, a couple of repeats of 400 freestyles on a certain pace and time interval. And if you stay on pace at the certain heart rate zone, you might get wait for it, you might get 20 seconds, rest every four minutes. And I would spend four minutes thinking about what I wanted to tell my friend who by the way, your friend is swimming either next to you or behind you. So if they're typically in the same lane as you, they're behind you, which means they're five to 10 seconds behind you. And if you only have 20 seconds, where as you get to the wall, you're out of breath, you're catching your breath, you're trying to to rest and you're trying to also go Alright, when that my friend Melissa touches the wall, I need to tell her this because like we can't talk for the next four minutes because I gotta go and then she goes 10 seconds after me. I spent so many years of my life with my head underwater, planning what I was going to say, that is a huge, huge side track statement to say, I didn't have a choice to be consistent because I said this is paying for my school. This is a sport that I love. I want to pursue excellence in it. And so it doesn't matter if I feel like going to practice at 4am we often had practice at 4:30am So I'd have to wake up at four you'd be at the pool in cold water, cold water in winter, in a bathing suit. As for a no indoors but still when you walk through the snow in the dark while you're sleepy knowing you're gonna go put on a tiny piece of latex and then jump in cold water. Very easy to not be motivated, but you don't rely on motivated when you're committed athlete. You just know this is what my competitors are doing. This is what has to be done. I don't have a choice here. I I cannot like it all I want, I can have a bad attitude I want, I can be irresponsible, but staying up to one o'clock doing my homework instead of going to bed on time, so I can wake up at the right time. And I can do all those things all I want.

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But I still have to show up.

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And I got to tell you, that is the greatest gift athletics ever gave me is it taught me what commitment was.

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And so it's a choice. It's a choice, because you go, this is what I've decided to do.

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And it doesn't matter how I feel about it. It's what I've committed to. So the secret to consistency is not just hope you're really disciplined and stay focused, and keep your motivation up. The secret of consistency is commitment. You decide and then you commit. And committing requires skin in the game, I had skin in the game, in the sport of swimming. Because I had goals and objectives. And then I had scholarships, and I had expectations. And then when it came to building my business, I had skin in the game. Because I put money into mentorship, I got coaching for myself, I bought domains and technology and things that I was like, Oh, I don't have this money. But if I want to grow and have a location independent business, I need to figure this tech thing out, I need to buy a microphone I can't afford yet because I need skin in the game. And if I buy a microphone I can't afford, I'm going to show up behind the mic and start recording. And I'm going to get better at podcasting. And I'm going to make sure I can grow my audience and I'm going to do the things I don't feel like doing because I'm committed. You got to have skin in the game. If you figure out this year, how to put skin into the game of what you want, you'll change everything. Now skin in the game can be it can it can look a different couple of different ways it can be having an accountability partner, having accountability, it can be having consequences, negative consequences or positive consequences. It can be having vision of really committing to what you want to. Now I know I have a big vision. And if you participated in the do more in 2020. For you do two, three, we have this vision of what an extraordinary life is what your dream life is. And I'm so committed to that vision and that impact of the vision

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that

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when I don't feel like doing something, I'm still doing it. It's easy to stay committed when I know what I'm committed for. And then or investment is the thing that changed the game for me. When it comes to anything past my two, what like mid 20s was starting to spend money on myself, investing in myself investing in mentorship and coaching in my brain buying a book. It's interesting. Think about this, which book do you read with more precision and intention, a book from the library, or a book that you buy?

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The book that you buy, when you

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even put $5 into something $15 $20 $20,000 You care more,

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you can make more. And by the way, this is here's

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a public service announcement. If you don't have a library card, especially if you you live in the United States, and you don't have a public library called get one. Do you know I only look I spent goodness 15 years of my life without a library card. I just didn't think I don't know. Why do I need a library. But when you have kids and you go to library story hour and you realize how amazing local libraries are. And before you start going on all the time, I don't even know where my library is. Libraries have apps now. You can download audio books for free. This can change your life. I listened to at least one sometimes two books per week via my library. It's amazing. Amazing. Please go get a free library card your taxes, pay for this. It's an amazing way to stay consistent. Because if you're pouring good things, things that stretch you things that inspire you into your mind, you will stay committed, you will stay consistent. It's not the world's jobs to keep you motivated. It's not your goals job to keep you motivated. It's your job. It's your job to keep yourself committed everyday. And this is why I tell my clients and I have my college or competence students write their goals down every day. Consistency requires that you do things you don't want to do. There were so many times I did not want to swim. So many four AM's where the alarm clock went off and I was like no, no. Why am I good at this sport?

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Why did I pick this not soccer. I should have picked soccer. But there's ease it's easy

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to get out of bed when there's no choice because if I didn't show it to practice there would have been consequences. If I was team captain, I had

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to lead by example.

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If I didn't show up, because I overslept, I didn't feel like it or slips news, the coaches, I would have lost my spot on the team, you have to look at your goals with that level of commitment. Stop giving yourself a choice to have a choice to follow through, you don't have a choice, follow through. If you want an extraordinary life, if you're satisfied with an average life that most people have, which is a good life, I'm okay with that. I'm talking to the people who don't want good that they want. Great. I do have a free resource. By the way, I'm a free training on how to create consistency. It's how to stay motivated, no matter what you can get access to it at Trish blackwell.com forward slash consistency. So check that out. Again, that's Trish blackwell.com/consistency. Let's talk about this. The secret of consistency is that you don't it's just not a choice you you decided to do it and you stay committed. Another example is that you can think about other areas in your life where you are committed, if you're committed to your partner or your spouse, if you're committed to your sport. If you're committed to being the person who helps your grandparents out, you have something that you're really good at being committed. I think one of the most toxic things and the most distracting things is that we all tell ourselves a narrative of I'm not being good at being consistent. I hope I follow through this time, stop watering down how amazing you are. Instead, focus on where are you good at commitment. And if you can be good in one area, you can be great at doing it in other areas as well. So let's talk about discomfort. Thomas Jefferson said this If you want something you've ever had, you must be willing to do something you've never done. Jim Rohn said Your life does not get better by chance it gets better by change. Gianni shed said this a ship and harbor is safe. But that is not what ships are built for.

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We want certainty, we

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crave certainty. We want to know for sure before we put ourselves out there before we go live on Instagram. Before we do that thing that scares us before we throw our name in the hat for a promotion before we tell our boss that we want to be we want to fast track to the next level of the of the company.

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You have but what if I get laughed at? What if they think what do you what who you are. But you're a ship who says I'm not going to spend my life in a harbor. Looking pretty.

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I'm going to do what I was built for. I love this quote also by Helen Keller, she said life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all, is either a daring adventure or nothing at all. I am trying to as a parent teach my children that life is a daring adventure. And every single time they do something that's brave, we celebrate it every time we we snowboard together or we we have found ourselves in quite a few prickly situations in our travels, Margot y'all. This is the adventure. That's it. Let's just be in it for the adventure. We had some some interesting experiences in Monaco this past summer. My daughter just also tried out for a play and she didn't get a roll. But we we

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looked at it I

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put the parameters and I tell the story through the lens of adventure and how proud of I am of her for being somebody who leans into adventure. And I want you to do that the same for yourself to life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all. So the risks that you take putting yourself out there, the vulnerability, the discomfort, it's adventure, there's so much unknown, I'm actually planning a trip another trip, you guys know, I just went to Puerto Rico, I got obsessed. And I'm going to be going to Puerto Rico this coming month. And I've convinced my amazing mother to come with me. I cannot wait. I'm going to be going to a conference. And she's going to hang out on the beach while I'm at the conference. And then we're going to spend some days in San Juan and I'm going to read my book on the beach next to her. It's like it's an extraordinary experience that I'm really looking forward to. And there's a lot of unknowns. In my mind. I'm still thinking, gosh, we go here or here. What are we going to enjoy the most together this or that? And the uncertainty and ambiguity of how it's gonna go in the unknown makes it exciting to lean into that in your life. I think we want so much certainty that we never move forward at all. And I think there's some beauty in noticing the discomfort is some beauty and saying this is what it looks like. For me to practice being uncomfortable. This, this is uncomfortable, good. I'm becoming better at what I don't want to do. Or I'm becoming better at the at managing the the unknown of what to what to expect. But when it comes to this Comfort, there's so much that we do that we step back from, we go, oh, I would do that. But that seems like a lot of an emotion to manage, like, you maybe have goals of speaking on stage, but you think I would want to be nervous all day, or you want to write a book, but you don't want to deal with the naysayers who might say something negative about your book, you don't think you could handle the negative feedback, I'm just here to tell you today. You could handle the drag and move forward. And you can handle any negative emotion that would come your way. I think there's a lot of power and just saying I would be capable of handling, whatever came as a result. Because I can know and I know in my own past, gosh, in the last 12 years, there are certain things I have avoided because I've thought, well, I don't know if I can emotionally handle that pressure. I don't know if I want to feel nervous all day. And I realized I was waiting for it to become easy. And instead now the new me the one that we're going to be coaching on and the new you week is a version of me who's Okay? With ambiguity, who's Okay? With lots of emotions,

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who's not going to avoid something that's potentially uncomfortable, just to self protect.

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So one of the ways we expand our discomfort capacity is to stop waiting for things to get easy, and instead consider yourself to consider yourself someone who leans into things being hard. So how do you do that? How do you lean into being somebody who, who accepts the hard I think it starts with one knowing that no matter what hard is hard, whether you avoid something or you play small, but also hard because you're quasi disappointed, and unfulfilled and uninspired in your life, but to live a life that's inspiring is also hard because you, you get scared sometimes you stretching the comfort zone, you're being different than other people. There's this fear of, of what will people say there's a fear of failure, y'all. There's no such thing as failure unless you stop trying. But if you've never heard me introduce the concept of my hard things pyramid, I want to just take just a minute today to remind you of the hard things pyramid, that the base of the pyramid is the belief that I can do hard things like I know I can do hard things. You know, you can do hard things, you've done hard things, but step up from that. Next step up is I don't avoid doing hard things. Now this is where most people are, they avoid doing hard things they know they can handle a ton, but they don't understand that they're capable of so much more than they think. If I avoid the hard things in life will be easy. Life is not easy. Let's stop going for this fantasy instead, deal with reality. And instead, stop avoiding hard things. If you stop avoiding hard things. So much open steel, you already go and you start becoming massively successful, and you will stand out and you will be more consistent. It is hard to be consistent. But it's also easy because you don't have to give yourself a choice. Just do what you promised yourself you would do. And the way to do that is to not rely on your emotions, not rely on motivation. But rather rely on integrity. I've decided to be a person who is consistent that is who I am. That is who how I will act. The next thing up so you got I believe I can do hard things I don't avoid doing hard things. Next is the belief that I'm good at doing hard things. I hope that you hear that today. I hope you believe that. I'm good to do hard things. Maybe it's hard and your hard thing is is ordering groceries and getting the kids on the bus and and also getting to work on time and looking good and getting a squeezing in a you know 45 minute workout at CrossFit on the on the way home and and then being present for your spouse. That's how y'all that's a beautiful life, but also hard. But to know that you're good at doing hard things you have to acknowledge that your life there are certain things that you do the way you you execute that's hard or maybe a proposal you went through that you did that was hard, one of the most life giving things I have done. So start really self validating when I do something hard and sometimes that's has to do on my personal side of how I'm navigating, getting everything done and how I ordered all the Christmas presents and remembered everything and you know, check check some of the times it's wow that Ron was really hard. Good job you. Sometimes it was hate you stretched yourself in marketing and you tried something new and it feels scary. Good for you. That was hard. Well

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done.

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I'm good at doing hard things. Look at me go. You need to slow down and give yourself credit. And the final top of that pyramid is I go after I like doing hard things not only do I believe I'm good at doing hard things but I like doing hard things as I do, I love doing hard things. I don't always feel like doing hard things that's different. But I do love doing hard things. And so when I find myself in front of something hard, I remind myself, I'm good at doing hard things. Also, I like doing hard things. Because when I do hard things, with a good attitude, I get amazing results. And you know that that's why I like doing the hard thing. I like the person that makes me become, and one of the things you can do to expand your comfort capacity, your your tolerance for discomfort, I want you to think about your growth in over the last couple of years or last couple of months. And just consider how your tolerance for discomfort has increased, how your capacity for hard things has increased. And in my coaching, we recently just did this do more in 2024 workshop. And one of the things that we did was we set intentional zones of discomfort. And what I mean is we mapped out the year for 2024 based on pre identified areas of discomfort, zones of discomfort you wanted to step into on purpose, you know, we know that that that, quote, life begins outside of your comfort zone. But we sort of wait for that to happen. And instead, a doer, a high achiever a person who lives an extraordinary life says to themselves, Oh, what kind of discomfort can I put myself into? How can I strengthen myself? Where can I can I fortify my skills? So that's an amazing way to expand your discomfort. Where am I comfortable seeing stretching myself to limit just seeing what happens seeing what's possible. And then in order to do that, you have to identify as being semi capable of feeling the discomfort of handling the heart of navigating the internal dread that's associated with it. And for me, let me go back to swimming. You can insert whatever sport or hard thing, but I imagine being given that was a backstroker. And for those who don't know the sport of swimming, to me, the most dreadful stroke is butterfly, I'm good at it. I was not good. anymore, believe me 20 years ago, great butterfly wire. But only for Sprint. I imagined distance butterfly as like an In fact, there were certain practices that I still remember the argument I had with my coach where we were told to do something ridiculous. And what I would interpret as stupid as 882 100 Butterfly, eight repeats of 200, which is eight lanes of the pool butterfly. And to me that makes me want to throw up like I just but the me now versus me, then the me then was just like, I'm not doing that. That was like the only time as an athlete, that I had a bad attitude. The me now

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would look at this as, Hey, that sounds terrible. I wonder how far can make it? I don't think I can do a 200 fly. But I wonder what I can handle? I wonder

Speaker 1 33:04

what at what point I will break down? What if I just embrace seeing how far I can go

Unknown Speaker 33:09

and seeing what happens? That's the difference.

Speaker 1 33:14

When you identify as being somebody capable of handling the heart of of navigating the dread. But saying why don't I just see? And what if I don't have to do this perfectly? What if it doesn't have to be a straight line? What if it's just an exercise and seeing what I'm mentally made of what I'm physically made up what I'm mentally made of. And sometimes this is why I run sometimes I run just to see how long you can go at what pace just to see where I can surpass my desire to quit. Because I want to continue to re identify within myself that I'm somebody willing to handle heart. And once you decide that it's not a big deal, there doesn't have to be a bunch of drama to it. It doesn't have to be so dreadful. But the more I handle hard, the more I get better at handling hard, the easier hard becomes and then it's just a little uncomfortable. It's not as massively uncomfortable. When you just go neutralize it. The hardest part of life, I'm good at doing hard. And you'll find that you can be massively more consistent, and massively more successful. And so that's that's the final thing I want to say today is that the fast track to your next level of success, whatever that next level is, it's a next level of your weight loss next level of your business next level in your profession. Next level in your athletics is to expand your discomfort tolerance. It will accelerate your success capacity. When you expand or level up your ability and your willingness, your willingness to handle hard. You uplevel your capability and your potential. And that is a beautiful, beautiful, beautiful thing, and willingness, the willingness to try the willingness to do your best the willingness to say, I'm just going to be a person who goes after life.

Unknown Speaker 35:16

I don't need it

Speaker 1 35:18

to be perfect. I don't need to. It's a workout exactly how I want. But I want my legacy to be that people look at me and say, well, she's a girl who went for it. Wow, that's a girl, that's a woman who just said, I will make a difference. And I'm just gonna devote my life to that, where I'm gonna live.

Unknown Speaker 35:37

Well, what would that look like? I was so curious what

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that's going to look like for you in the coming year. But in order to make that happen, it's not about what exactly you do. It's about who you decide to become. So if you're ready to become somebody, the most extraordinary version of you come and join me for new you week. And that's happening, we start January 8, you have to reserve your spot, you have to sign up if you're part of the college of competence. By the way, if you're a member in the COC, you do not need to pre register you are already registered. If you are not a member of the COC, come join us. Trish blackwell.com, forward slash new you. This is where we're going to set up who you're going to be in 2024. And how you're going to show up and how you're going to execute and how you're going to be consistent and committed, which will be your superpower.

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It is what will create the success that you want it is what will shape your life

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is your consistency. And I'm such great news for you today. It's easier than you think it is. Alright, so Trish blackwell.com forward slash new you guys go out there today. Go be more of who God created you to be.

Unknown Speaker 36:58

Be you. Be free.

Speaker 1 37:02

Thanks for listening to the confidence podcast and allowing me to be your coach today in your life. If you love the show, please let us know by leaving a review in iTunes are encouraged by what you learned. share this episode with a friend and let us know that the show is changing your life by saying hi to us on social media Instagram, trish_blackwell are on Facebook Trish Blackwell coaching, ready to take what I teach and really take it to the next level. Join us today in the College of confidence. It's my group coaching program that you can join risk free and cancel anytime. In the COC you'll scale your confidence, your courage, and the changes you make in your life. It's the coaching support and community you've been looking for. Go to www.collegeofconfidence.com to get started. If you love the podcast, you will love the College of confidence even more and see even more transformation in your life. Come and see for yourself. I'm cheering you on friend. See you soon

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