Podcast #564

 

MORNING ANXIETY VS. EVENING ANXIETY

Whether you’re an early riser grappling with dawn’s anxieties or a night owl navigating the challenges of evening unease, this episode offers practical strategies to help you find peace and balance throughout your day. Tune in to gain a better understanding of your anxiety patterns and learn techniques to enhance your mental well-being. Anxiety can express itself, and be triggered, differently depending upon the time of day and upon your core thought patterns. This is an episode you don’t want to miss if you want to decrease your overall anxiety in life … and when you decrease anxiety, you increase peace and confidence. 

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we’re coaching on:

  • The differences between morning anxiety and evening anxiety
  • 5 simple habits that reduce overall anxiety
  • Specific shifts you can make for morning anxiety vs. evening anxiety

ANNOUNCEMENT:

Life is short.

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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

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MORNING ANXIETY VS. EVENING ANXIETY

MORNING ANXIETY

What are your behaviors?

-Snooze

-Over-caffeination

EVENING ANXIETY

What are your behaviors?

-Avoidance

-Buffering

Triggers:

Morning Anxiety: Morning anxiety can sometimes be triggered by the anticipation of a stressful day ahead, worries about upcoming responsibilities, or a racing mind as you wake up and start thinking about your to-do list.

Evening Anxiety: Evening anxiety may be triggered by worries about the events of the day, concerns about the future, or fears related to bedtime or sleep.

Physical Symptoms:

Morning Anxiety: Physical symptoms of morning anxiety can include increased heart rate, rapid breathing, muscle tension, and gastrointestinal discomfort.

Evening Anxiety: Physical symptoms of evening anxiety may manifest similarly, but they can also include trouble falling asleep, restlessness, and nighttime awakenings.

Coping Strategies:

Morning Anxiety: Coping with morning anxiety may involve relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or light exercise to help reduce cortisol levels and calm the mind.

Evening Anxiety: Coping with evening anxiety may focus on stress management throughout the day, setting aside time for relaxation and winding down before bedtime, and creating a calming bedtime routine.

Causes:

Morning Anxiety: Morning anxiety may be more common among individuals who have a higher baseline level of anxiety or those who have a demanding and stressful daily schedule.

Evening Anxiety: Evening anxiety can result from unresolved worries, anticipation of events, or rumination on past events, which may become more pronounced as the day winds down.

5 SIMPLE HABITS THAT REDUCE ANXIETY

  1. Brushing your brain
  2. Breathing with purpose
  3. Bossing your brain
  4. Being intentionally grateful
  5. Be still 

MORNING ANXIETY REDUCTION ACTIONS

-Intentional music

-Ideal nighttime routine

-The 2-Minute Journal

-Breathing exercises

EVENING ANXIETY REDUCTION ACTIONS 

-Mood setting

-Enjoyable and inviting non-screen evening wind down 

-Reduction of alcohol consumption

-Live your own life (stop scrolling social media)

-Breathing exercises

-3-3-3 Method

OTHER EPISODES TO CHECK OUT:

#563: First Thought: The Easiest Hack for Confidence

#514: What to Do When You Wake up with Anxiety

#560: Negativity and Sadness: How to Not Let them Overwhelm You

LISTENER OF THE EPISODE

Hey Trish, I just wanted to share as encouragement to you. A little back story, my husband is a firefight and right now he is gone for two weeks on a fire in another state with minimal cell service. My two kids and I started out the first week strong. I for the first time ever didn’t let myself go into a victim mindset or self pity. This is huge for me because it’s been my inner voice for as long as I can remember. That being said. Yesterday was hard. I woke up, skipped my workout, skipped my journaling <img decoding=” src=”https://fonts.gstatic.com/s/e/notoemoji/15.0/1f62c/32.png”>, and was short/frustrated with the kids all day. I was sitting there last night scrolling through social media and I remembered your story from Paris after the apartment mix up. It took me a good 15 minutes, but I finally put my phone down and did some journaling, and WOW! Within minutes my spirit lifted. In years past when my husband has been gone I have been so down and constantly searching for people to feel sorry for me instead of being the strong woman I know I can be.

Thanks to your podcast this summer has been different. I know God has put you in my life this last year. Not only that, but this morning episode 560 was in my inbox and I do not think that was coincidence. God is definitely using you and I want to encourage you to keep up the amazing work! Thank you! Kala

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You're listening to the confidence podcast, your favorite coaching podcast oozing with motivation, inspiration, and confidence to help you boldly take action on your dreams. I'm your host, Trish Blackwell, internationally recognized Confidence Coach, Best Selling Author and founder of the College of Confidence, the most encouraging place on the internet. I teach go getters in life, how to take your thoughts captive, how to step out of the shadows of self doubt, and how to courageously step into their purpose. With competence. It's time to pump our competence muscles and train our thoughts, y'all. Let's get started. Hey, there, it's Trish Blackwell and you're listening to the confidence podcast. This is episode 564. We're talking today about anxiety, morning anxiety, specifically versus evening anxiety. Because whether you are struggling to get out of bed in the morning, and you're pressing the snooze button, or you wake up with dread and angst with Dawn's anxieties, or maybe you're tossing and turning at night and you're feeling dread about the day to calm, you're feeling overwhelmed, you're turning to alcohol, you're turning to scrolling social media, you're avoiding your own life by watching everyone else's. Whether it's Fact or Fiction, you're watching fictional series of Netflix on replay and hurting your sleep creating even more anxiety, like whatever pattern you're stuck in. If you're in a pattern of your life, your morning routine, or your evening routine that's just not serving you, this episode is going to help you because anxiety can express itself and be triggered differently. Depending upon the time of day and your core thought patterns at that specific time of day. I am a morning person and I think very differently in the beginning of the day than the end of the day. You're not gonna want to miss this whole episode if you really want to decrease your overall anxiety in life. Because when you do, you increase your peace and confidence. I want to tell you from personal experience, peace and confidence, opens all doors. It is the life you've been waiting to live and it's available to you right now you don't have to change. Actually, a lot of your circumstances. The peace and confidence you're after, can come from your soul. They come from a deeper relationship with God, and the ability to tap into the power of your mind. So if you're new to the to the show, welcome. We're so happy that you're here. If you're returning listener, I love you. You're part of the confidence family. And it means a lot to me. So hey, you might have noticed, we have a couple of new things you can see we have new cover artwork for the podcast. I hope you like it. Let me know what you think you could come say hi to me on Instagram Trish underscore Blackwell on Facebook. Yeah, I do still hang out on Facebook. I still like it there. I am Trish Blackwell coaching over there. In this episode of the competence podcast, we're going to be coaching on the differences between morning anxiety and evening anxiety, I'm going to give you five simple habits that will reduce your overall anxiety. And then we're going to talk about some specific shifts that you can make for your morning anxiety and to minimize it, and for your evening. So we're going to dive into a couple of core critical things that you can do in your morning routine and your evening routine. And it's really important before we go any further, these are one minute habits, you can change your life one minute at a time. That's what's extraordinary about the way we can do our life, how we design our days. These are not massive shifts. These are micro steps, but they make a massive, massive difference. Before we go any further. Hi, my announcement today is just a reminder to you that life is short and I know you

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know that. But do you know it?

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I recently lost a friend.

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She was 42 three young kids.

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And my brain is wrestling as all of our brains do with why? Why her not me? Why do her children have to experience the pain of losing a mother not mine. And in reflection in the last three years I've lost a handful of friends. And maybe that's part of turning 40 and aging. But it maybe it's the byproduct of walking a pandemic walking through one day. But I am grateful for the reminder because my brain can get very distracted I can get very focused on my goals on the things on the things I need to do on where I feel behind and and I lose sight that every day is a gift every breath is a gift every opportunity is a gift every time you get to touch your children is a gift every time you get to hold hands with the person you love is a gift. Every time you can still hear the your mom's voice on the phone is a gift. And I just honestly to honor my friend today I just wanted to put that reminder up because I love hearing the reminders we all need did.

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So are you living in a way?

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That is treating your life as a gift? Are you living in a way? That's truly believing that life is short? Or are you putting things off? Are you still procrastinating? Are you saying I'll do that tomorrow? Are you saying, maybe I'll eventually get there? Or are you really taking the life that God has given you? And saying, How can I maximize this? How can I live today to the absolute fullest? That's my question for you. If you don't yet have a, one of my most recent downloads that we put together, is 100 Power statements. These are 100 Confidence statements that you can speak over yourself. It's my list of just affirmations, positive, confident based affirmations that confident people say over themselves, this is something I give to many of my clients. And if you want to work on me feeling more confident, feeling more powerful, you want to get this list, it's absolutely free. Just go to Trish blackwell.com/ 100 statements. And that's 100 being the 100 statements, and that is in the show notes for you. So you can always find that link in the show notes. Our review of the week is from led 1980 She said Trish, and this podcasts have been extremely huge part of my self healing journey that I've been on after realizing how deeply my past has really skewed my perceptive perception of myself. From childhood on the hard parts of bullying led to extremely stuck way of living, and who I always thought I was not who I am and was created to be. She's the perfect missing piece that accompanies therapy, and functional medicine for the physical political part of gluing back the pieces together. Here's to a better second half as your references job 4212. LED Amen to that. I love this that you have recognized, I'm so privileged to have been a part of helping you see that you no longer have to be stuck in who you thought you were. We can remind ourselves of who God created us to be and start stepping into who we know we can be that we actually have had the capacity, capacity to be

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all along.

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Let's dive into the coaching. Let's dive into the coaching. So what is the difference morning anxiety, evening anxiety Well, triggers morning anxiety can sometimes be triggered by anticipation of a successful day. Too many things to do worries about upcoming responsibilities. A racing mind when you wake up and start thinking about your to do list. It can be triggered by pressing the snooze button and setting yourself up for failure to already start your day behind. Whereas evening anxiety can be triggered by worries about the events of the day, what people were thinking, you can be rehearsing and replaying conversations that you felt that you could have done better or navigated or said something different, you start overthinking what someone might think of you. You is also the time when you start having concerns about the future, your brain can get to a place where it starts questioning if you're really loved and doesn't really matter. These big kind of more existential giant issues tend to come on and be triggered at night, or even fears related to bedtime and sleep. And maybe you're listening to too many true crime podcast and now you are going to bed and then getting up and checking the doors three times. Right? Like we want to go what is it that's triggering it? Now physically speaking, the different the anxiety, one of the things I teach in the College of competence, which is my my my group coaching program, you can check that out at College of confidence.com. But one of the things I teach is to teach my students to acknowledge where an emotion is felt in the body. And how I feel anxiety might be very different than how you feel anxiety. And it's just a reminder that an emotion is a vibration that goes through our body. I used to think that my life was run by emotions, but it couldn't help how I felt. And it's not that I'm going to deny and resist how I feel. But I'm going to allow it and notice it and realize that as Lisa Turkers so eloquently said emotions are indicators, not dictators. I had that backwards for for much of my life. So, but it's a helpful thing to ask yourself when I feel anxious. Where do I feel it?

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What does it feel like?

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If I were to describe it to someone else, what would I say? Would there be colors attached to it what I describe it with colors what I describe it as a sensation. For me I can tell you, I feel it as a tightness in my chest on my left side. I feel tension on my shoulders just at the the kind of the connection point to where my shoulders and my neck. I feel a gut like a pit drop, churning sensation in my lower stomach, particularly over on the left side of my body more than the right side. It's very interesting, right? And all that is to say is now When I feel those things, I'm able to say, Oh,

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I feel anxious.

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You see, I used to be like, Oh, I feel terrible, something's wrong. I have this like angst. And now I recognize it as anxiety. Oh, hey, anxiety. And once you see it and feel it in your body, you're able to say and separate it and have a conversation with it. And notice it. And when I noticed that, I'm able to then say, okay, I wonder what the thought is that's creating it. What am I thinking? That's creating this feeling? And I allow myself to get curious. So I first want to say like, in general, if you've not yet done this type of work, or come to this work with us in the College of competence, of course, but also do it by just start being curious about your own emotions, where do you feel them? So in morning anxiety, people often report physical symptoms of an increased heart rate, tightness, a feeling on edge, rapid breathing, muscle tension, gastro intestinal discomfort, right. I, for me, I should have mentioned that, oh, some major GI issues for me when I'm feeling anxious, particularly in the morning versus the evening. Evening, anxiety symptoms can be similar, but they can also include a racing mind trouble falling asleep, or restlessness and then nighttime awakenings. Now, what is it that's causing them? For morning I, and it's going to depend on the person this is what I want you to ask yourself? Do I feel different in the morning than the evening? When if I am somebody who experiences high amounts of anxiety? When does my anxiety feel the most intense? You know, and I don't, I don't, didn't leave space to even say this. But there's a space for afternoon anxiety when my children were very young in the four and under category now that they're much, much past that at six and eight. But I remember feeling highly anxious at that four o'clock pm four o'clock to 6pm time window, I would start feeling very stressed I I'd want to use copings unhealthy coping strategies, whether it was turning the TV on of justifying an afternoon glass of wine, something like that, right? And so just be curious to when you do feel anxiety. What time of the day, does it usually rear its head? What time of day? Does your body start giving you the signals? And then let's get curious about what are the causes and the causes, we know that our thoughts create our emotions. So we know the anxiety is coming from a thought that we're thinking. But what is the thought that we're thinking it's often in triggered, so to speak, or sparked by something that's happening at that time in the day. And so morning could be a you have this, you have thoughts about whether it's judgment about maybe some overeating, or overdrinking or poor decisions, maybe there's some shame from decisions that you made the day prior. And that sets you up to immediately feel the start the day with self judgment. And self judgment creates anxiety, because criticism and judgment creating anxiety, or potentially you are waking up and going, I have so much to do and today is really important. I have this demanding and stressful daily schedule. Now even anxiety can come from unresolved worries, anticipation of events in the future, a rumination on past events. And that that the those visions and the the mind being put on overcharge becomes more pronounced As the day winds down. And so really, I want you to start with being curious. What are your behaviors in the morning when you feel anxious? Do you hit the snooze button a bunch of times do you avoid or do you get up and over caffeinated? An oak look raising my hand here. My anxiety I used to before I learned the power of the morning routine that I do. And journaling and my very simple routine that I teach my my college competence students. What I would do is I'd wake up and I drink like four cups of coffee. So I thought I can fix the anxiety by just being super caffeinated and not I mean, there's a certain band aid element to that. But you guys all band aids eventually fall off. So if you're tired of your band aid telling off this is why we're doing this episode. Evening anxiety can be avoidance, it can be buffering, and what is buffering buffering is doing anything that is as a net negative effect because you're avoiding an emotion and the emotion that you're avoiding. We often do because we feel like well, I just can't cope or I just don't want to think about this right now. And so you feel emotionally charged and you say I deserve a glass of wine. Or you say I have a really really really bad day and I'm supposed to I really need to read my book, go to bed prep for the next day but you know what, I deserve a Netflix show. So it's avoidance and the more you avoid and procrastinate or or engage in In habits that, that create a net negative effect in your health, then the more anxiety you actually create and self perpetuate, because then you're disappointed. And that disappointment makes you feel behind because then you start beating yourself up for not being a person who follows through on doing what they say they're going to do and have these amazing healthy habits. And you feel behind and then you judge yourself for not making progress on the goals that matter to you. And on your lack of sleep. And you see how the cycle self perpetuates. Now the thing is, is in the morning, in the evening is one of the few times depending on your life circumstances, what your family looks like, are you have some time to be quiet. The quiet mind when it's when it's not directed, can be afraid you might be creating anxiety, simply because you're not sure how to be still. And so if that's something you want, you want to start learning how to do, I just want to, I want to invite you to say it's okay to say, I'm going to be I'm going to practice stillness, and I'm going to feel very awkward while I do it. So but let's let me give you five simple habits that reduce anxiety. These are all starts with a B, because you know, I love, love, love alliteration, so anxiety reduction habits, number one, brushing your brain, I'm gonna read through them, and then I'll coach you just one minute on each one. So you can put it into practice right away. Number one, brush your brain. Number two, breathe with purpose. Number three, boss your brain. Number four, be intentionally grateful. And number five, be still brushing your brain. What does that mean? It means cleaning your brain every day, which is it's no different than oral hygiene. I really believe Mental Hygiene is just like oral hygiene. We live in a world where I think it's a pretty agreed upon statement that people a human being should brush their teeth twice a day as a minimum.

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Let's not even talk about flossing, minimum baseline, let's brush twice a day. That makes sense. We know that is a hat. Those are the standards of good oral hygiene. And good oral hygiene contributes to our overall health. The same thing is with our brain, you shouldn't expect your brain just to wake up and feel amazing every day and your attitude to be set without having to set it. And we are inundated with negativity and with with drama and with bad news. And we're over stimulated mentally. And I just want you to think about that's just a bunch of a bunch of stuff thrown onto your brain. And when you wake up in the morning, we journal that's what brushing your brain is, I really believe and there's so I teach so many different types of journaling methods within the college competence and many of them you've heard here on the podcast if you've been a listener for a while, but whatever your preferred method of journaling, and it can be as little of a commitment as two minutes, you will be cleaning out your brain and when it clean brain is a clear brain. A clear brain has clarity. When you have clarity, you can have confidence, okay, so that's brushing your brain breathing with purpose. And the set this is simply setting aside one minute or 15 seconds to use your intentional breath work to work to to give you peace. This is one of my favorite things to do before I get out of bed, I do a few 20 seconds worth of deep breaths. And it oxygenates me and it clears my brain and I wake up immediately in a better mood. My first thought and if you didn't get listened to the episode first thought which was last week, episode 563 is the easiest confidence hack to start your day. Breathing in combination with your first thought is gonna have a huge, super powerful supercharge to good attitude. And so breathing with purpose, I've got two simple ways you can do five, deep five to 10 very deep inhales very deep exhales I also like doing three sets of the following two patterns. So one is for count in, hold for four and a four count out. And the other one is a three count in. Seven count out. Just like in, in, in a sport or an exercise doing two or three rounds of that can be game changing. Now, intentional breathing is something I do in the mornings. And also right after I brush my teeth at night to very easy again, micro habits and incorporate. And it makes a crazy amount of difference. And please no I'm not just speaking from Oh, clinically speaking and in the books I read you guys, I have struggled with anxiety for most of my life. I spent 15 years with an eating disorder. And that massive disordered eating and massive massive struggle with with my body image. highly anxious and an eating disorder is an anxiety disorder. So you're when I'm talking to you about anxiety, I want you to know that most of my life has been spent with a clinically diagnosed anxiety disorder. And I say that so that you know that this this is how I manage my anxiety and it really really works. And on the days that I don't manage my my mind and I don't manage my anxiety. And I don't do the things that I that I'm talking about, I feel more anxious. And I don't judge that anxiety, I use it as a reminder to say, Oh, this is why I have these tools. This is why it's really critical for me remind myself every day that my peace comes from my faith and in Christ, my peace comes from reading scripture from putting good things into my mind from taking thoughts captive, I think from journaling from breathing from doing the right things that I know I have. Because those are my responsibility to remind myself to clean my brain and to choose faith over fear. Because fear is really anxiety is simply fear. repackage. Okay, so let's just quickly do this breath together, I want you to breathe, we're going to do a four count. And once you breathe in

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Now together, let's do the three in seven out of 30. Inhale in for three to three, now exhale out for

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You probably feel pretty good. Isn't that amazing? 10 seconds of breath. All right. Another simple habit to reduce anxiety is to boss your brain. We just did an entire hour workshop on this in the College of competence. And so I could go for an hour on this. What I want you to know, the one takeaway I want to give you is to be able to say I'm the boss of my brain. Because if you if you don't master your mind, your mind will master you. We have been given this amazing ability to choose our thoughts, this free will. And it's our responsibility to tell our brain what we're going to think on purpose or not. It's okay that you have all kinds of thoughts. Okay, not all thoughts are true. You're the boss, you're the parent, you decide. Number four, being intentionally grateful. I used to I've always been a thankful person. I've always been grateful. But my life transformed my confidence changed my brain, my anxiety reduced when I started doing intentional gratitude, the practice of intentional gratitude. And when you said the practice of something, it means the consistent repetition the daily showing up of this thing. And so the simple act of writing down five gratitudes everyday can change your life, or maybe at night at dinner, having that as part of your core dinner conversation. Hey, three gratitudes let's go around the table you will see it changes everything. And even if you're struggling or if you're having a fight with your spouse, if you're struggling with some body image thoughts, if you're discouraged their business, I really really believe

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that the quick fix

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for an attitude change for an attitude adjustment to feel better

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is gratitude.

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So whatever that thing that you're upset about I challenge you find three things, three things that you can be grateful for about it. And you will already feel more hopeful about whatever is happening in that situation. And then finally, be still we live in such a noisy world. click Notifications everywhere, everyone vying for our attentions. It's no wonder most of us don't know what we think. And we don't know what we think because we don't have time to be still and to be in silence. The more you practice stillness, even two minutes at a time or silence which just might be a that when you when you drive the car to go pick your kid up from the soccer field, keeping the radio off just being silent and not having to have inputs, it will open you up it will calm your heart. And that's what we're really looking at in calming the anxious mind. Some other quick things I wanted to give you before we close out today for morning anxiety reduction specific things for the morning. The breathing exercises is super crucial doing the two minute journal process that I teach in the College of confidence really, really critical and that's that has affirmations it has a reframe and has gratitude built in. Having an ideal nighttime routine is huge because your nighttime routine, your nighttime routine set you up for your morning routine. And then also intentional music, intention some some life giving music for me I put on worship music for you. It might be classical music. It might be some fun music, uplifting dance music, but intentional music to set the mood and the mood that you want your emotional state of the day. And then taking the time to read something that speaks to your soul. To remind you that you are not the center of all the things you are a child of God and you are not in control of all the things you do not have the whole world on your shoulders. It is so critical to feed your mind to focus on what is true

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to ground yourself, in truth every day,

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anxiety for the evening, here's some things you can do setting a mood which means having for me one of my evening, routine anxiety changed. When I got these electronic candles in my house that are set up on a timer, and it set the mood. It made my heart which is I'm very, as I said, anxiety prone high energy prone, it helped me go, oh, okay,

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it's time to calm down a little bit. And

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moods I think can be so with lighting, it can be with music, creating an enjoyable and inviting non screen, non electronic evening wind down routine. And if you're not sure how to customize an evening, routine morning routine, scroll back, we've got a lot of that content here in the podcast. We also have workshops that on the both things in the culture competence, we even have a five day challenge called the nighttime, the nighttime routine reset. That's a super helpful five day reset to teach you everything of how to set up an absolutely ideal nighttime routine that serves you well reduces your anxiety at night and sets you up for success the next day. Other things to do not snacking at night, reduction of alcohol consumption at night. live your own life, which I mean by that sometimes I tell myself that to stop scrolling on social media, breathing exercises, and then the 333 method. And I believe I've mentioned that on the podcast before, but the three three method is taking a three minutes to write down three, three gratitudes of the day, three ways that you won today, like in the day three wins you've had that day, so you can self encourage, you can see that you actually are making progress and whatever matters to you. And then three wins tomorrow. That's all it sounds like. Okay, cool idea, it will change your life. So those are the things you can do for evening. And if these this these concepts really resonated with you, I have two other episodes, some throwback episodes that I wanted to invite you to check out. One is episode 514. And this is specifically for those of you who struggle with morning anxiety. It's called What to do when you wake up with anxiety. So 514 What to do when you wake up with anxiety. And then of course, if you haven't yet listened to last week's episode first thought the easiest hack for confidence. It is it was it's super, super, super key. If you have noticed many of the podcasts apps limit up a show to having 300 episodes. Well, as you see, we're on episode 564 Did you know that I have all of the episodes available for you to listen on my website. So go to Trish blackwell.com. And you can either click the podcast tab or go to Trish blackwell.com/podcasts. And you can get access to all of them, all of them all 564 episodes. And then also there's a really key feature I want you to know about. If you scroll down halfway down my podcast page, there's a little search search bar. And if you say evening routine, you can type that in. And it will show you every episode that I've mentioned that or core episodes where that's highlighted and coached on so if you if you want to work on money competence, you can type in money mindset or money confidence. And it was my website's going to show you Oh, you need episode 555 You need episode, blink blink blink. And so it's an amazing tool. I don't think enough of you know about it. So that's why I wanted to share that. So we're gonna close out with our listening to episode. This is Kayla she said this Hey, Trish, I just wanted to share as an encouragement to you a little backup story. My husband is a firefighter and right now he's gone for two weeks on a fire in another state with minimal cell service by two kids and I started out the first week strong. I for the first time ever didn't let myself go into a victim mindset or self pity Kayla, I'm going to stop right there. That's amazing. I'm so proud and proud that you took took ownership of like we allow ourselves to go into that self pity. While done you and the example that you're showing your kids is huge. You continue to say this, this is huge for me because it's been my inner voice for as long as I can remember. That being said yesterday was hard. I woke up. I skip my workout, skip my journaling and was short and frustrated with my kids all day. I was sitting there last night scrolling through social media and I remembered your story from Paris after the apartment next up, it took a good 15 minutes but I finally put my phone down and did some journaling and all caps. Wow. Within minutes, my spirit lifted in years. In years past when my husband has been gone I've been so down and constantly searching for people to feel sorry for me. Instead of being the strong woman I know I can be. I'm gonna pause again. I'm literally getting chills down my leg as I read this. I'm so so proud of you doing this work. Thanks to your podcast. This summer has been different. I know God has put you in my life this last year. Not only that, but this morning episode 560 was in my inbox. And I do not think that was a coincidence. God is definitely using you and I want to encourage you To keep up doing the amazing work, Episode 560 That she referent references is a negativity and sadness how to not let them overwhelm you,

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sister friend your email

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brought my soul brings my soul deep deep encouragement you guys I, I thrive on hearing from you it is the greatest gift you can give me back. So hearing that you're doing the work and hearing that this show makes a difference knowing that this is the one show you listen to always hearing that you share it with friends seeing you share it on social, it's it. It keeps me going, y'all. I'm so proud. I'm so grateful. Have an amazing week. And I'll see you here. I'll see you on the next episode you listen to maybe it's episode 300 I don't know. Maybe it's episode 565 from next week. Next week, we're going to be talking about optional drama, knowing which thoughts to believe and which ones to ignore. Go out there today to be more of who God created you to be.

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He'll be free.

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