Podcast #559



Self-love is the ability to have unconditional positive regard towards oneself, and no matter your personal background or current level of self-esteem, everyone can strengthen their foundation of self-love. A solid concept of self-love creates the base of confidence, self-trust and the ability to achieve anything you set your mind to. 

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we’re coaching on:

  • What is keeping you back from self-love
  • What self-love is and what self-love isn’t
  • New power phrases to practice to increase your internal dialogue of self-love and to rewire the core base of your self-perception 


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Belief that you aren’t deserving of love unless you reach….
Misunderstanding self-love
Negative Self Talk
Feelings that you shouldn’t focus on self

Chronic Stress and Burnout: Constantly pushing oneself to the point of exhaustion or neglecting self-care can hinder self-love as it undermines physical and emotional well-being.

Comparisons: Constantly comparing oneself to others can lead to feelings of inadequacy and unworthiness. This habit of measuring self-worth based on external achievements or appearances can hinder self-love.

Negative Self-Talk: When individuals constantly criticize themselves, focus on their flaws, or engage in self-deprecating thoughts, it erodes their self-esteem and makes it difficult to cultivate self-love.


“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” – Lucille Ball

The more you love yourself, the less nonsense you’ll tolerate.” – Unknown

“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.” – Brené Brown


What Self-Love Is:

-Self-kindness and self-respect

-Unconditional high regard for oneself

-Believing and understanding that you are God’s masterpiece

What Self-Love Isn’t:

-It’s not selfish or self-focuses

-It’s not lazy or indulgent 


  1. I am deeply loved and cherished, just as I am.
  2. I believe in myself and my ability to overcome any challenges that come my way.
  3. I am a unique individual with valuable qualities that the world needs.
  4. I am worthy of all the love, joy, and abundance life has to offer.
  5. I am proud of my progress and the person I am becoming.
  6. I deserve to treat myself with kindness, respect, and utmost care.
  7. I trust my instincts and make choices that align with my true desires.
  8. I am constantly growing and evolving, and that’s something to celebrate.
  9. My self-love radiates, positively influencing the people around me.
  10. I am resilient and can handle whatever life throws at me.
  11. I give myself permission to prioritize my needs and well-being without guilt.
  12. I am capable of achieving my dreams, and I take steps every day to get closer to them.
  13. I honor and appreciate myself for all the progress I’ve made, no matter how small.
  14. I am a beautiful soul, deserving of love, compassion, and inner peace.
  15. Today, I choose to love myself unconditionally, and that empowers me to embrace life fully.
  16. I am worthy of love and respect exactly as I am.
  17. I am enough, just as I am, and I don’t need to prove myself to anyone.
  18. I embrace my imperfections and see them as part of my unique beauty.
  19. I choose to let go of self-doubt and believe in my abilities.
  20. My self-worth is not determined by external opinions or judgments.
  21. I deserve happiness and will not settle for anything less.
  22. I am in control of my thoughts, and I choose positivity and self-compassion.
  23. I release the need to compare myself to others; I am on my own unique journey.
  24. My past does not define me, and I am free to create a bright future for myself.
  25. I love and care for myself unconditionally, just as I would for a dear friend.
  26. I forgive myself for any mistakes I’ve made and use them as opportunities to learn and grow.
  27. I attract positive energy and surround myself with people who uplift and support me.
  28. I honor my needs and make self-care a priority in my life.
  29. I am deserving of love, abundance, and all the good things life has to offer.
  30. Today, I choose self-love, and I commit to nurturing a strong and loving relationship with myself.


What would self-love and self-kindness look like here?

How would I treat my best friend right here?

If I believed I were a daughter of the King, how would I ask?


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