Podcast #556

 

REFRAMING – MASTERING THE ART OF POSITIVE INNER SELF-TALK

Learn the art of positive self-talk and how to change your inner voice by learning the skill of “Reframing.” Discover practical strategies to reframe your mindset, even on days when nothing is going right and the world feels like is against you. Master the skill of establishing mental standards aligned with the life you desire. This episode will help you master the most powerful tool available to our brains — reframing.

In this episode, we’re coaching on:

• When complaining and inconvenience are real, and how to make the brain positive when life feels negative or frustrating (How to reframe when you don’t “feel like it”…)
• How to reframe, why it matters, and how to master it
• Establishing mental standards for yourself that align with the life you want

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QUOTES ON REFRAMES

• “Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.” – Wayne Dyer
• “It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.” – Epictetus
• “Your mind is a powerful thing. When you fill it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change.” – Unknown
• “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” – William James
• “In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you.” – Deepak Chopra

HOW TO REFRAME

What is it?

-The most powerful process or skill you could possess to live a positive life

A mental reframe refers to the process of shifting or changing one’s perspective, beliefs, or interpretation of a situation, in order to view it in a more positive or empowering light. It involves consciously altering the way you think about something in order to cultivate a more constructive or beneficial mindset.

A mental reframe can help individuals reframe challenges as opportunities, setbacks as learning experiences, and negative thoughts as positive affirmations. It allows for a shift from a limited or negative mindset to one that is more optimistic, empowering, and conducive to growth and well-being.

By consciously reframing our thoughts, we can reshape our perception of situations, change our emotional responses, and ultimately enhance our overall outlook on life. Mental reframing can be a powerful tool for personal development, resilience, and finding meaning in difficult circumstances.

WHY REFRAMING MATTERS

Reframing your thoughts is important because it has a significant impact on your overall well-being, mindset, and how you navigate through life’s challenges. Here are a few reasons why reframing your thoughts matters:

1. Positive mindset: Reframing helps cultivate a positive mindset by shifting your focus from negative or limiting beliefs to more empowering and optimistic perspectives. This positive outlook enables you to approach situations with resilience, creativity, and a greater sense of possibility.

1. Stress reduction: Reframing your thoughts can reduce stress levels. By reframing negative thoughts or stressful situations, you can alter your emotional response and perceive challenges as opportunities for growth. This change in perception can lead to decreased stress and improved emotional well-being.

1. Problem-solving and resilience: Reframing encourages a solution-oriented mindset. It helps you view obstacles as learning experiences and find creative solutions. By reframing setbacks as opportunities for growth, you can enhance your resilience and bounce back from adversity more effectively.

1. Improved relationships: Reframing your thoughts can enhance your relationships with others. It allows you to see situations from different perspectives, be more empathetic, and communicate more effectively. This can lead to better understanding, reduced conflicts, and stronger connections with those around you.

1. Self-empowerment: Reframing your thoughts empowers you to take control of your own narrative. It helps you recognize your strengths, acknowledge your progress, and develop a more positive self-image. By reframing self-doubt or limiting beliefs, you can unlock your true potential and pursue your goals with confidence.

Overall, reframing your thoughts is a powerful tool for personal growth, resilience, and cultivating a positive and fulfilling life. It enables you to see possibilities where you once saw obstacles, find meaning in challenging situations, and approach life with a greater sense of optimism and empowerment.

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HOW TO MASTER THE REFRAME 

To get better at mental reframes, consider the following strategies:

Awareness: Start by becoming more aware of your thoughts and patterns. Notice when negative or limiting thoughts arise and consciously pause to evaluate them. Mindfulness practices can help cultivate this awareness.

Question your thoughts: Challenge negative or unhelpful thoughts by questioning their validity. Ask yourself if there is evidence to support them or if there might be alternative explanations or perspectives.

Perspective-taking: Practice seeing situations from different angles. Put yourself in other people’s shoes or imagine how a neutral observer might interpret the situation. This can broaden your perspective and help reframe your thoughts.

Find alternative explanations: Look for alternative explanations or interpretations that are more positive or empowering. Consider how the situation might contribute to personal growth, learning, or new opportunities.

Positive affirmations: Use positive affirmations or mantras to reframe your thoughts. Replace negative self-talk with affirmations that reinforce self-belief, resilience, and optimism. Repeat these affirmations regularly to reinforce the positive reframing.

Seek support: Discuss your thoughts and challenges with trusted friends, family, or a therapist. They can provide fresh perspectives and support you in reframing your thoughts more effectively.

Practice gratitude: Cultivate a practice of gratitude by focusing on the positive aspects of your life. This helps shift your attention away from negative thoughts and encourages a more optimistic mindset.

Continuous learning: Engage in personal development activities such as reading books, attending workshops, or listening to podcasts that promote positive thinking, cognitive reframing, and emotional well-being.

Remember that improving mental reframing is a skill that takes practice and patience. Be kind to yourself throughout the process and celebrate even small victories along the way. Over time, with consistent effort, you can develop a more positive and empowering mindset through effective mental reframing.

WHAT ARE YOUR MENTAL STANDARDS

-You decide what you will allow, what will be the finest

-What will the standards the 2.0 version of you has

What is your vision of an ideal life. How do you think that version of you operates and thinks? What bothers you and what doesn’t?

LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:

Trish, if I end up writing that children’s book to explore and coach kids giving them the tools to let go self doubt  and believe in themselves, know you are one wick that ignited the flame of following my purpose. Keep coaching ! Nick 

Your 40 minute video about stop thinking about what other people are thinking of you- triggered my brain to create a visual explanation of how we waste 70% of mental energy on unnecessary thoughts! 

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Nick Corsi

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OTHER EPISODES MENTIONED IN TODAY’S SHOW:

#547: Self-Talk that Changed My Life

#497: How to Appear More Confident