Podcast #537

 

THE VOICE IN YOUR HEAD – HOW TO MAKE IT POWERFUL AND POSITIVE

The voice in your head can be incredibly powerful and informative – it creates the results in your life. It’s your internal compass that guides you based on what you know, believe and feel. How we talk to ourselves matters because it affects how we show up in our lives. With a little work, we can learn to leverage the power of our inner voice for positive effect. Recognize when negative self-talk creeps in and replace it with more productive and supportive thinking. You’ll learn this all in this episode, and it will change everything about how you experience life.

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we’re coaching on:

• Translating and becoming fluent in your internal language
• Understanding the voice in your head and reclaiming dominion over it
• Making your voice powerful and positive, no matter how many years you have spent feeling helpless to the internal voice inside.

ANNOUNCEMENT:

CHANGING THE VOICE IN YOUR HEAD WEEK!
March 6th-10th, 2023
Interactive, 5-days challenge

IT’S NOT TOO LATE TO JOIN

By the end of the week you will:
-Reset the atmosphere of your brain
-Detox perfectionistic thinking
-Detox overwhelmed thinking
-Detox self-critical thinking
-Have a plan to manage your mindset masterfully 

You will feel and think differently on Friday than you did when you started the challenge on Monday, guaranteed. 

You will feel empowered and like you finally can take control of your thoughts.
You will feel unstoppable about what this means for your future. 

You can and should think even bigger. 

Sign up now at www.trishblackwell.com/voiceweek

REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

MY OLD THOUGHTS VERSUS MY NEW THOUGHTS

Old Thoughts:
Success is hard to come by, so is money.
The future could be bad.
God is disappointed in me.
I am loved for what I do.
It’s not safe for me to be too successful.
No one gets me, I feel alone and misunderstood.

New Thoughts:
I have joy and endless possibilities.
Money is easy to make.
My future is bigger than my past.
God delights in me.
I am loved for who I am.
It’s safe for me to shine – it’s unsafe / unwise for me to play small. 
There are so many people wired like me – I am surrounded by community.

UNDERSTANDING THE VOICE IN YOUR HEAD

Your thoughts matter – and there’s a constant stream of them – but the secret to breakthrough is that you have power to master the language of your mind.

Just like starting any foreign language, learning a new tongue and new way to talk and think can feel daunting. 

But learning and mastering new vocabulary, new grammar rules and new standards takes time, and repetition, repetition, repetition, just like any other foreign language.

At first it feels awkward and clunky, but with time, it gets easier. 

1. Listen to What You’re Thinking
2. Write Down Recurring Thoughts
3. Identify Fact from Fiction (What stories are you telling yourself?)
4. Choose What Language You Want

What Languages We Choose:
Language of Possibility
Language of Faith
Language of Victim
Language of Underdog
Language of Martyr 
Language of Negativity
Language of Criticism 

MAKING THE VOICE POWERFUL

Practice deep listening

Get curious

Develop boundaries

Learn how to talk back to yourself

Cultivate your parenting voice

Bookend your day with journaling

Identify and name the voice that is disempowering
-Such as “Trashy Trish”
-Eeyore Elaine
-Mean Matt

Notice and understand the impact of your voice
-Creates results in your life
-Might be negative and self-sabotaging right now, but powerful nonetheless

MAKING THE VOICE POSITIVE

Daily gratitude.

Praise and worship.

Thought leadership where you are planted.

Light in the darkness.

Be an encourager.

Reframe negative thoughts.

Persist until you like your perspective.

Tell multiple stories. 

Decide to be the most positive person you know (this is bold BTW) 

Pay attention to what is contributing to a negative voice in your life
-Negative people
-News overload
-Social media over-consumption
-Comparison despair
-Unrealistic expectations
-Pressure you put on yourself
-Poor habit hygiene or sleep deprivation

LISTENER OF THE EPISODE

Dear Trish, I hope you are well. I have been meaning to get in touch for a long time to say thank you for your podcast and for all the work that you do. 

I have recently returned to work full time after having a family in a really exciting but challenging job. I have also taken over the role of looking after my children’s school’s parents committee. There is no way I could have managed to take on these things without following the advice and techniques you teach on your podcast. I really wish I had known about much of what you advise 20 years ago! But better late than never. 

I would love to hear a podcast on some of the following themes: confidence for people returning to the workplace after a break – this is especially important for working mums – I can only see from my own experience that my profession changed hugely in the years that I was away and re-engaging with it was very daunting. This one might sound ridiculous, but having been ill this week and having to take a couple of days off work, how to rely on yourself time off when you really need it. Another one I was wondering about is how to prepare for difficult conversations: I have been involved in some really difficult conversations recently, one around reporting that something precious had been broken in someone else’s home. Thankfully, I was able to draw on your techniques for these, but I think it would be useful to examine a specific situation we might all face.

I hope you are having a good day. If there comes a moment in the next days or weeks, when you feel, perhaps, as though your effort is not paying off, please know that there is a girl on the other side of the world from where you live, who is managing to look after her children, her husband, to work full time and to have an important impact in the community thanks  to the work that you are doing with your podcast.

Many, many thanks. Sarah

REFERENCES MENTIONED:

Episode #195: Changing Your Set Points

Episode #505: The One Habit that Changes Everything

Trish’s Journals: www.trishblackwell.com/journals