Podcast #527



Are you constantly pushing yourself to reach higher and accomplish more, only to feel disappointed when the results don’t match up to your expectations? Do you find that no matter how hard you work, it’s never enough? If so, then it’s time for a reality check—because while there is great power in challenging ourselves, many people simply make life harder than they need to be. From unrealistic goals and crushing perfectionism to burning out before getting where we want to go, let’s look at why this might be happening and what can be done about it.

If this sounds familiar, then it’s time to start thinking differently about how we set ourselves up for success. In this podcast, I’m going to explore how being kinder to yourself can help unlock your potential and give you the confidence boost necessary for achieving things more easily!

 In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we’re chatting about:

  • 12 things you’re doing that are over-complicating your life
  • How to stop making things harder than they need to be 
  • The power thoughts you can use to tap into the “ease of success”


Mindset Reset! 

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Stop Making Things Harder Than They Need to Be

It’s easier than you think it is.


The main thing getting in your way is your mind.

Master your mind or your mind will master you. 


1. You’re overthinking things

One of the ways you might be making things too hard on yourself is by overthinking things. When you overthink a situation, you tend to complicate it and make it more difficult than it needs to be. Instead of overthinking, try to take a step back and look at the situation objectively. This will help you to simplify things and make them easier to handle.

2. You’re trying to do too much

Another way you might be making things too hard on yourself is by trying to do too much. When you try to take on more than you can handle, you end up feeling overwhelmed and stressed out. Instead of trying to do everything, focus on doing one thing at a time and taking things one step at a time.

3. You’re not taking breaks

If you’re not taking breaks, you’re likely making things harder on yourself than necessary. When you work non-stop, you wear yourself out both mentally and physically. This can lead to burnout and make it difficult to get anything done. Instead of working non-stop, make sure to take breaks throughout the day to rest and rejuvenate yourself.

-Take Productive Pauses

4. You’re being too hard on yourself

One of the ways you might be making things too hard on yourself is by being too hard on yourself. If you’re constantly putting pressure on yourself to be perfect, you’re going to end up feeling stressed and frustrated. Instead of being so hard on yourself, try to cut yourself some slack and give yourself a break.

 We all make mistakes, but we should learn from them instead of beating ourselves up over them. Beating yourself up will only make you feel worse and it won’t change anything. Be kind to yourself, forgive yourself, and move on. 

5. You’re not asking for help

 You’re trying to do everything by yourself.

Trying to do everything by yourself is not only exhausting, it’s also unnecessary. There are people in your life who want to help you, so let them! Delegate tasks and accept help when it’s offered. This will help lighten your load and make things easier for you. 

Another way you might be making things too hard on yourself is by not asking for help when you need it. When you try to do everything on your own, you end up feeling overwhelmed and bogged down. Instead of struggling through on your own, reach out to others for help when you need it.

6. You’re procrastinating

If you’re putting off tasks until the last minute, you’re likely making things harder on yourself than necessary. When you procrastinate, you often end up feeling rushed and stressed out as the deadline approaches. Instead of procrastinating, try to get started on tasks as soon as possible so that you can avoid the stress of last-minute scrambling

7. You’re comparing yourself to others.

Comparing yourself to others is a surefire way to make yourself feel bad about yourself. Everyone is on their own journey in life and comparing your journey to someone else’s is pointless. Focus on your own journey and be proud of your accomplishments, no matter how small they may be.

8. You’re holding onto grudges.

Holding onto a grudge will only make you feel angry and resentful. Let go of the grudge and move on with your life. Forgiving someone does not mean that you condone their actions, it just means that you are ready to let go of the negativity and move on.

9. You’re living in the past.

Living in the past will only make you feel nostalgic and sad. The past is in the past for a reason, so focus on the present and the future. Make new memories and experiences that will make you happy.

10. You’re taking things too seriously.

Not everything in life needs to be taken so seriously all the time. Learn to relax and have fun once in a while. Don’t sweat the small stuff and just enjoy life!

11. You’re setting unrealistic expectations for yourself. 

If you set unrealistic expectations for yourself, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. It’s important to be realistic with yourself and set goals that are achievable. This way, you can actually accomplish something and feel good about it instead of feeling like a failure. 

-Friends – there’s a difference here between unrealistic expectations and unrealistic goals — unrealistic expectations are refusing to accept that you will be human. 

12 . You’re not taking care of yourself. 

 If you don’t take care of yourself, both physically and emotionally, then it will be very difficult to accomplish anything else in life. Make sure to take care of your body and mind by eating healthy, exercising, getting enough sleep, etc. Once you take care of yourself, everything else will fall into place


Identify what beliefs you’re ready to question?

This is supposed to always be hard.
I need to earn a break. 

Everyone else has this figured out. 

I’m just someone who is “hard” on themselves.

We just did an entire workshop in the COC on How to Stop Beating Yourself Up.  Join us to get instant access to the worksheet, the coaching and the process to break the cyclone of brutality that happens in your mind. 


New thoughts:

I achieve things with ease.

Confidence is my super-fuel.

Everything is working. I’m on my way.

I’m supposed to struggle and supposed to mess up – that’s how I learn and grow. 

New Question:
How can I make this easier?

How can I simplify this? 

What I tell the little me here? 

How can I choose a more powerful attitude?

What do I want to feel here – and what thought will create that feeling?

Reframe How You’re Thinking About …

The speed and rate of your progress

Your success compared to others

The discipline of doing the little things well, over and over


Explore what potential you have – expand the possibilities within you and what’s available to you this coming year. I’m ready to become a bolder me in 2023, how about you? 

Personal Potential – How to Know What’s Within You

Impact Potential – How to Know What Difference You Can Make

Free Time Potential – How to Create More Time Margin in Your Life

Change Potential – How to Believe in Transformation and Change

Income Potential – How to Expand Your Financial Possibilities

Adventure Potential – How to Live a Life that Fires You Up 


#520: Overthinking and Overwhelm – How to Create Mental Peace

#252: How to Be Nice To Yourself

#516: Being Different From Others

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