Podcast #519

 

DEALING WITH NEGATIVITY AND NEGATIVE PEOPLE EFFECTIVELY

Beautiful things happen when you distance yourself from negativity. A negative mind will never give you a positive life. The less you respond to negativity, the more peaceful your life becomes. This episode will teach you how to distance yourself from negativity, how to create a positive mind (and a positive life), and how to stop reacting to negative people.

This week we’re coaching on how to overcome negativity:

• Your negativity, others’ negativity, and negative inputs in your life
• Toxic friends and toxic family – what to do about them
• Creating a more positive life for yourself

“Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power.” — Shirley MacLaine

 “There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.” — W. Clement Stone

“Negative people need drama like oxygen. Stay positive, it will take their breath away.” — Unknown

“Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.” — Helen Keller

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YOUR NEGATIVITY

Your thoughts.

Criticism, complaining, comparison, coveting.

Your actions.

Inaction, procrastination, over-exaggerating a task, self-pity, avoidance (lack of belief or too much importance on doing something right)

What to do?

Notice when it happens.

Resist judgment.

Brain dump to find out the initial thought.

Offer new thoughts to your brain to think.

Ways to be More Positive:

Journal daily

Affirmations and intentional thought work

Be generous

Compliment others

Be a helper

Gratitude Journal

Exercise

Moments of margin

Happiness pockets of peace

Good music 

NEGATIVE PEOPLE

Toxic friends, toxic family, toxic coworkers

1. Limit your time around them to the extent that you can.
2. Increase your time around positive people.
3. Speak back to the negativity – shed light. 

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NEGATIVE INPUTS 

1. Social Media
2. Screen Overage
3. News 
4. Trash TV 
5. Gossip

Garbage in, garbage out.

We misgive authority to the wrong people.

-I wouldn’t want my daughter to measure her worth or her coolness by likes from strangers

And yet we do.

-Think from the perspective of the most innocent person you know and then decide what you want your relationship with social media to be.

-be someone who isn’t always on their phone

-be different

-be diligent in your fight against negativity 

CREATE A MORE POSITIVE LIFE FOR YOURSELF

1. Know that you can.
2. Decide what a positive life looks like.
3. Dare to dream.
4. Identify as a creator.
5. Know that it’s never too late.
6. Lead the way. Be an example of what’s possible. 
7. Spend time visualizing your future. 

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LISTENER OF THE EPISODE

Hi Trish! I just want to let you know how much I enjoy your show! I love listening to your podcast, it always motivates me and lifts me up! I survived my first year as an RN with your help. 

I wanted to ask if there is a way to have an episode on toxic friendships/relationships and have the courage and confidence to step out and end them. 

I recently discovered that one of my friends is not as nice as I thought she was. I always worry about her ruining my other relationships and I just have a hard time listening to my guy and having the confidence to listen to my heart and do what’s best for me. Thank you so so much for everything you do for us, your followers.  

-Aleks

BE SURE TO CHECK OUT THESE EPISODES:

Episode #459: How to Be More Assertive 

Episode #423: What Will “They” Say

Episode #437: Friends, How Many Should You Have? 

Episode #461: How to Make People Like You More