Podcast #516




In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we’re talking about:

Being confident while being different – and correcting your mind to stay in your life and to live your own life well. Dealing with loneliness creates hope and purpose when you feel down.



A light in my day! 


I was introduced to your podcast through a friend, and over time it has helped me to catch and adjust the thoughts and beliefs that aren’t serving me. When I’m having a hard day, and feeling down, your podcast is my go-to, the episodes help provide an avenue for me to reframe my circumstances. Thank you, Trish! 



Maybe you feel like the black sheep in your family, maybe you feel like the only one with faith or certain opinions, or maybe you just feel like you’re not cool enough or that you don’t fit in.

Accept that this is normal.

Ask yourself if you want a normal life – or a different life.

Question if anyone is really “normal”

Make your difference your superpower. 

  • Appreciate Your Uniqueness
  • Take Pride in Being Different
  • Get Curious About How Your Difference Serves You and the World
  • Surround Yourself with Other People Who Are Different
  • Explore Your Passions
  • Focus on Individual Friendships
  • Understand that Your Brain is Creating Stories
  • Take Some Initiative
  • Have faith (intentionally reset this and choose this) to believe that you have purpose



Pay attention to your thoughts – your thoughts are creating your loneliness.

Be careful not to over-personalize loneliness – that you’re the only one. This is a human emotion and part of the human experience. 

An estimated 703,000 people a year take their life around the world. For every suicide, there are likely 20 other people making a suicide attempt and many more have serious thoughts of suicide

Be on to yourself – know your loneliness thought patterns.

  1. Identify why you feel lonely
  2. Journal your thoughts and feelings
  3. Learn how feeling your feelings
  4. Pray 
  5. Change your atmosphere
  6. Reach out to someone 
  7. Do something to help someone else



Your mess can become your message.

What was meant to harm you, God can use for your good.

Billions of people need hope – will you be light?

Create Hope:

Envision a future you want

Allow yourself to dream

Take action to create change in things that you have control over

Mindfully attack and eliminate self-pity

Create Purpose:

Do good in the world.

Use your voice in a way that matters.

Cultivate something beautiful in your life.

Activate your creative or curious brain (read, explore)



It’s time to get more done.

Learn how to:

Do more in less time

Master your focus and stop getting distracted

Organize your week with less and less overwhelm

Be consistent in your habits and goals, and actually follow through




I’ll start by saying that I’ve been listening to your podcast for the past couple of years, and I am incredibly grateful for your work. I know it’s designed more for women, but I am shamelessly along for the ride! I’ve found your words incredibly relevant in my life too; they helped pull me through the lowest point in my life when I started listening. You’ve inspired me so much that I’ve introduced your podcast to my wife and a near friend – they now follow along too. Thank you for your work! 

After mentioning that I’d love to read your book “Straighten Your Crown” someday, my lovely wife, Natalie, included it in the gift basket she gave me at the finish line of the race. I was excited to read it, but I shelved it until last night when I finished my last book. When I started reading, I was shocked at some of the similarities in the ways we’ve experienced/been spoken to by God. If you have the time to read the reflection, it may be interesting for you to give it a read before you continue reading my message. Unbeknownst to me what was coming, I found so much joy when some of the resemblances hit me like a brick; I read your words, then the page went to a blur as I was surrounded by an unmistakable feeling of God’s near presence. 

I find God’s planning so inspiring, and His humor so hilarious. What are the odds that Natalie gave me your book, the only book I’ve ever read that parallels my experiences with God so intimately, as a gift for accomplishing the very thing that led me to those experiences? He’s awesome!

-Matt Read


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