Podcast #510

 

SILENCING THE SELF-CRITICAL VOICE

 

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we’re talking about:

  • The mean voice that lurks inside of you and spirals you into defeat, discouragement and discontent
  • Self-criticism as intentional self-sabotage 
  • Believing in the neuroplasticity of your brain – and your ability to change how you think

 

REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

My dentist recommended me to this podcast. the kindness he shared so I could find and listen to a podcast that was able to start directing me. With always asking how and where even to start, this was an answer. 

Thank you both for providing hope.

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QUOTES ON SELF-CRITICISM

One should never criticize his own work except in a fresh and hopeful mood. The self-criticism of a tired mind is suicide. -Charles Horton Cooley

You have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens. -Louise Hay

Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain – and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. -Dale Carnegie

If babies held the same tendency toward self-criticism as adults, they might never walk or talk. Can you imagine infants stomping, “Aargh! Screwed up again!” Fortunately, babies are free of self-criticism. They just keep practicing.  – Dan Millman

We all have the tendency to believe in self-doubt and self-criticism, but listening to this voice never gets us closer to our goals. Instead, try on the point of view of a mentor or good friend who believes in you, wants the best for you, and will encourage you when you feel discouraged. -Kelly McGonigal

 

DEFEAT, DISCOURAGEMENT, AND DISCONTENT

The inner mean voice.

We all have one.

What does yours say?

  1. Acknowledge that you’re the critic.
  2. Decide that criticism isn’t necessary.
  3. Dare to try a new way – to try on kindness.
  4. Know what thought tracks you typically revert to (so you know the bully when you hear it)
  5. Understand what happens when you believe the voice
  6. Talk back to the bully
  7. Give birth to a baby believe that your brain is transforming

 

SELF-CRITICISM AS SELF-SABOTAGE

It keeps you stuck. It makes you tip-toe. It creates stagnancy. It makes your world smaller. 

The voice, especially if you’ve practiced it a lot in your past, will still be audible, but it can be placed on mute, or have the volume turned down significantly. 

Understand why self-criticism served you (or you thought it did)

Did it bring you to action

Did it make you feel shame

Did it motivate you to be better

Did it repeat a pattern you were taught?

 

BELIEVING IN THE NEUROPLASTICITY OF YOUR BRAIN, AND YOUR ABILITY TO CHANGE

Focused Attention

-grow new neurons by connecting them with stronger neurons that already exist; engage your brain in planning, complex concepts, self-reflection, and emotional self-regulation awareness

Deliberate Repetition and Practice

-structured mindset growth habits, journaling; new connections are fragile, massive repetition matters 

Maximize your physical health

-there’s a brain and body connection – hydration, nutrients, movement, sleep, and stress matter.

Spiritual Expansion

-growth doesn’t just happen on your own; pray, seek wisdom, ask the Lord to transform your eyes, change your sight, to create a new baseline of your thoughts

Romans 12:2 NLT

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.

 

PRACTICE THE OPPOSITE OF CRITICISM IN YOUR LIFE

Acceptance

Curiosity

Openness

Gratitude

Grace

Forgiveness 

Kindness 

 

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