Podcast #502

Confident Communication: How to Have More Connection and More Influence with Others 

Confident communication opens doors of opportunity and creates healthy relationships that thrive. Most people are too rushed or too timid to tap fully into the wealth that is available to them through confident communication. This is a must-listen for anyone who wants to improve their interpersonal communication, their professional communication, or their relational communication. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/502

REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

“Continuous Elevation”

I always find myself opening up this podcast every time I feel stuck in life. Every time a new obstacle gets in the way and makes me feel that because of where I’ve been, I can never get to where I want to go.

Well, this podcast remove those obstacles in a way that feels great.

Trish is relatable, credible, and inspiring. My life has forever been changed because of her words.”

-Monjoa

 

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RELATIONSHIPS RELY ON COMMUNICATION

Communication is the key to life.

The more present you are, the better your communication will be.

COMMUNICATION WITH OURSELVES

We have to start here.

You can’t communicate with others unless you actually know yourself first.

-Journal

-Ask questions

-Get curious and open

-Be coached

-Spend time with yourself

-Explore your hobbies

-Talk to yourself

You’ve got to figure out your own wants and needs – and you do that through inner communication; learning to listen to your inner voice and your inner wiring.

 

COMMUNICATION MISTAKES

Mistakes We Often Make:

We assume people know what we are thinking

We assume we know what people want.

Not truly listening

Interrupting the speaker

Letting your emotions dictate your responses

Failing to account for cultural differences

Judging someone’s poor communication skills

Personalizing poorly delivered communication

Avoiding communication 

Not having an open mind

Speaking more than you listen

Not asking enough questions – not being interested

Looking beyond the speaker

Hoping something is forgotten

Avoiding conflict or difficult conversations 

Not knowing how to speak up about your own wants or needs

Having negative or apathetic body language

Not paraphrasing or restating

Trying to be “right”” 

Perspective to Consider:

Communication is an artform

There’s always room for improvement

Separate how you’ve always done this (1.0) and think about the type of person you want to become (2.0) who does this.

Ask for direct feedback 

Marriage Communication:

How have I loved you well this month?

How can I love you better or more intentionally to your needs next month?

What am I doing well as a mom?

What do you think I can do better?

SNEAK PEEK TO NEXT WEEK

My top confidence tips for kids – don’t miss this episode!

 

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• How to Stop Giving up On Your Goals
• How to Stop Yo-Yo Dieting
• Business & Money Mindset Coaching Workshop

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CONFIDENT COMMUNICATION:

Don’t play small or undersell yourself.

Don’t over-explain.

Know that you have something worthwhile to say – always.

Believe that your voice, your ideas and your opinions matter.

Be specific and use specific language

Be ready to feel uncomfortable being direct

Know what you want or what you want to express

Maintain a positive attitude

Listen with respect and curiosity

Ask questions

Establish a stable and clear voice tone

Make eye contact

Speak from the heart and seek to understand

Look for win-win solutions

Express gratitude

Apologize when in the wrong – take ownership

3 SIMPLE EASY COMMUNICATION BOOSTS

1. Be Present. (Think about the other person, not yourself)
2. Be Open. (Communication is a dance – there’s no such thing as mis-stepping).
3. Be Yourself. (Know your personality, and embrace it, while also asking yourself “what’s the next, more mature expression of my personality?

 

LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:

Thank you so much for your podcasts and encouragement. Your words have inspired such confidence. I appreciate you very much. Cheers.

No but I sure will! Maybe I’ll hear it on your podcast! 😄. I attribute a recent promotion/huge new job to your coaching.

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