Podcast #501

FEELING BETTER ABOUT YOURSELF WHEN YOU’RE SELF-CRITICAL

Self-criticism can absolutely destroy the light inside of you, and your ability to live life to the fullest, and with full joy. But for many of us, the self-critical voice is our internal voice, and the voice that we’ve always had, so it feels like it will never go away. But it can. You can learn how to ditch self-criticism and become someone who self-encourages … no matter how much of a perfectionist you or how long your critical voice has been around. This podcast episode will teach you 10 ways to stop being critical, 5 ways to take pressure off yourself, and the core way to catch criticism when it comes back.

How to take the pressure off yourself  – 5 steps

10 ways to reduce self-criticism

The core way I teach my students to catch their critical voice 

REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

“New me”!

Thank you, Trish! Your podcasts are amazing!

-Soans115

 

QUOTES TO INSPIRE:

• Negative self-criticism is an iron chain that will never let you ascend to real greatness.
• -Jewel
• You’ve been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens. -Louise Hay
• Your inner critics re-affirm untruths about yourself that you have internalized to be true. – Athena Laz

 

10 WAYS TO REDUCE SELF-CRITICISM:

1. Keep a gratitude journal. (You can pick up my new journal from Amazon)
2. Track your wins and celebrate your wins
3. Know what success and happiness really mean and look like for you
4. Switch your desire – from wanting to be impressive to instead want to make an impression in your life
5. Take the pressure off of yourself
6. Identify as a learner
7. Stop comparing yourself
8. Forgive yourself – there’s always a purpose in the pain you create for yourself.
9. Release black & white thinking  – and yes, you can help it. 
10. Explore what it means to create a beautiful life

Watch out for limiting language…

“I’ll always be…”

“I never could …”

“I’m not ______”

“I’m behind…”

“I can’t figure this out…”

“I keep messing my life up…”

“They’re so much ahead of me…”

“I should have done … / been ….” 

 

HOW TO TAKE THE PRESSURE OFF YOURSELF

1. Write out the story you’re telling yourself.
2. De-dramatize the story.
3. Know where your worth comes from.
4. Rewrite a better story.
5. Pursue your dreams with lightness and openness. 

Watch out for pressure language…

“I just need to…”

” I have to do this right…”
“This is really important…”

“People are depending on me …”

 

CATCH THE CRITICAL VOICE

Recognize how it sneaks it – and what you allow and tolerate.

Get comfortable having conversations with yourself.

-Trish, we don’t do that anymore.

-Trish, we’re not mean anymore like that.

-Trish, there’s more to the story.

-Trish, look at the whole, you’re beautiful.

-Trish, there’s no timeline.

-Trish, you’re exactly where you need to be.

The more you do this, the more fluent you will become. 

 

SNEAK PEEK TO NEXT WEEK:

Confident Communication + Interpersonal Communication 

 

YOU SHOULD KNOW:

We have a Self-Esteem Basics Workshop happening Friday in the COC.

Sign up now and you’ll also get to join me for my upcoming 

• How to Stop Giving up On Your Goals
• How to Stop Yo-Yo Dieting
• Business & Money Mindset Coaching Workshop

Become a member at www.collegeofconfidence.com/join

 

LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:

Ally Beckner

I love your podcast. It really resonates with me and makes me feel seen in a season where I’m feeling extremely lonely. Spending intentional time with this podcast daily and apply the things I’ve learned has renewed my sense of purpose and helped me reconnect with my faith. You have a greater impact than you know. Thank you, Trish