Podcast #493

STOP DOWNPLAYING YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS AND YOUR POTENTIAL

If you’ve ever downplayed yourself or minimized an achievement, or perhaps feel like you’re playing small with the real potential that you know God has placed inside of you, then this podcast episode is for you. This coaching podcast explores how to break this self-sabotaging and self-critical habit that’s not only making you feel “not enough,” but is keeping you from showing up fully and shining brightly in your life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/493

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we’re coaching on:

• How to stop downplaying your achievements
• How to know if you’re playing small
• How to tap into your fullest potential with more confidence 

 

HOW TO STOP COMPARING YOURSELF

Comparing yourself is the fast track to self-doubt, spinning your wheels, and insecurity. 

Are you ready to feel alive?

I’ll teach you my proven 3-part strategy to break the pattern of comparing yourself to others.

This is a FREE CLASS that you’ll get INSTANT ACCESS to:

Go to www.trishblackwell.com/comparison

 

REVIEW OF THE WEEK: 

Fan for a few years –

Texas Fan and Grandmother

Trish, thank you for speaking the truth to counteract so many of the subtle lies I believe every day about myself and my self-worth.

 

WHY DO WE DOWNPLAY

Feel bad for making other people not be so good

Uncomfortable with attention on us

Someone said something to you once (like Brent .. Who are you to…) 

Self-protection from expectations or public failure 

False humility – we don’t want to make others “feel bad”

Is it wrong to be successful?

 

WHAT DOWNPLAYING AND PLAYING SMALL DOES

It leaves us with a smaller life. 

It creates a smaller world.

It limits us.  

It prevents us from living a big life.

A big life requires big thinking – and big self-concept – and big reasonability. 

 

HOW TO BREAK THE PATTERN

Practice acceptance

Present yourself with openness

Celebrate the potential in others

Determine that your greatness is an example, not a discouragement

Accept some of the awkwardness 

 

ARE YOU DOWNPLAYING YOURSELF?

Brush off compliments

Justify your success

Think you’re just lucky

Tell yourself it’s because other people helped you

Compare yourself to others as proof of diminishment

Maximizing what doesn’t go well, minimizing what does

A self-critical voice is your dominant voice

 

THOUGHTS TO DETER DOWNPLAYING

Me dismissing my greatness is an insult to the God who put my talent inside of me.

I am thankful for the effort I put in. 

I am an example of what is possible for others.

I am committed to a life of growth.

I will not insult who God made me be.

I am responsible for maximizing everything I have been given. 

I pursue excellence, not perfection. 

The world needs people to shine brightly. 

I have permission to live a big life. 

 

OTHER EPISODES YOU’LL ENJOY

#443: How to Be Happy About Aging

#483: Self-Validation: The Art of Not Needing Other People to Tell You “Good Job”

 

LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:

 First of all, I want to say that you are doing amazing things. You are an incredible individual and have been making such a difference in my life already. I have been listening to your podcast for two weeks now and I have started to go on the path of making positive thoughts and choices. I am exercising and displaying outward gratitude and I already see a difference. I would like to continue on this path and gain more knowledge from you on how to better myself.

xoxoxo,

Kelly Chavers