Podcast #488

SELF-PITY IS KEEPING YOU STUCK AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT

Feeling sorry for yourself, or over-personalizing how hard things are for you is a sure-fire way to sabotage your confidence. Not only that, self-pity will make things feel 10x harder than they need to be, and will mentally and emotionally exhaust you. This episode will teach you to know if you’re indulging in self-pity, and what to do about it. You’ll learn how to move from self-pity to self-compassion, and then activated momentum forward, all just in the small shift of a mindset.

 

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we’re talking about:

• The difference between self pity and self compassion

• The relationship between self pity and self criticism…and how they pal around with comparison to keep you absolutely stuck

• The antidote to self pity

ANNOUNCEMENT

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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

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I found Trish’s podcast was the “reset” button I needed in my life to change my way of thinking. I find myself stopping negative thoughts in their tracks, acknowledging that thought, and redirecting it into a positive way. Something I’ve never bn consciously aware of before. I can’t thank you enough, Trish.

 

LET’S COACH ON SELF-PITY AND VICTIM MINDSET

The relationship between self-pity and self-criticism. These intertwine toxically with comparison and you end up feeling overwhelmed by life and depressed even though at the same time you know that you like your life.

A self-pity is a form of living suicide.

Self-pity invites horrendous thoughts that drag you down the drain of poverty.

-Euginia Herlihy

Self-pity exaggerates personal suffering

Self-compassion allows one to acknowledge what’s happening without feelings of isolation, disconnection, and hopelessness/devastation

“Self-pity is a form of external validation that something bad has happened to us or that our circumstance is out of our control,”

Self-pity is self-victimhood — and every victim needs a villain.

Maybe that villain is you, maybe it is your life, maybe it’s the institution – but you’re fighting the wrong battle. You’re fighting the battle that is outward, and unnecessary instead of fighting the battle of your mind and your own thoughts.

 

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You must think big without any reservations and without any hesitation in order to contribute more, learn more, become more, and stretch yourself and your own abilities beyond their current psychological limitations.

 

SELF-PITY SAMPLES:

I don’t have that edge.

It’s not fair.

If that wouldn’t have happened….

It should be easier.

I shouldn’t have to work so hard.

Something is wrong with me.

Depression is unfocused self-pity.

I wish I didn’t have to struggle with this.

It’s awful that I have to battle my body image.

I can’t believe I’m still here.

I don’t want to have to do this again.

This is too hard.

One step forward, two steps back.

 

THE ANTIDOTE:

Self-compassion, self-awareness, and self-ownership for future

 Ask yourself if you’re overwhelming yourself with expectations

Assess your stories

Always stay In the present

Turn negative thoughts into behavioral experiments

Question your perspective

 

OTHER EPISODES TO ENJOY

How to Change that Habit that’s Keeping You Stuck

Podcast #435

 

ANNOUNCEMENTS:

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Learn to great your own luck.

Join at www.collegeofconfidence.com/join

 

LISTENER OF THE EPISODE

Hi Trish! I want to thank you for your service! I found your podcast last week for the first time, and the first episode I listened to was about body confidence. It is crazy how just through listening you have changed my perspective about my body, like a magic wand;)! 

Now I am binge listening to your episodes and you help me give confidence in my new business I just started a few months ago. 

Thanks so much again, keep your great job going, and I‘ll definitely recommend you to my friends:)

Sorry for any grammar mistakes, English is not my native language…

Lots of Love, Chava from Switzerland 💕