Self-Validation, or the art of not needing other people to tell you “good job,” is a skill that the most confident people learn how to master. Even if you consider yourself a words of affirmation person, you can learn how to self-affirm and self-validate. Self-validation keeps you from the traps of people pleasing, of striving and of hamster wheel of external validation.
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How do you tell yourself good job?
Or do you even intentionally practice this?
I used to be addicted to affirmation.
The need for affirmation drives us into many unhelpful life patterns:
I have a constant dialogue going, continually affirming myself.
Self-validation frees you from
-the need for permission
-the external affirmation you crave
-the drama of overthinking
-the fear of not doing enough
-the unquenchable desire for approval
-the obsession with social confirmation
-the conflict you have with yourself
Things my mind says:
Good job, Trish.
Wow, nice effort, Trish.
Trish, that was kind, good work.
You didn’t give up, good job Trish.
I’m proud of you for putting yourself out there, Trish.
Way to show up today, that’s all that matters, Trish.
Trish, you look nice today.
Girl, your smile is magnetic today.
Yes, this is good work.
You have shown up with excellence, well done, now rest with excellence, Trish.
You were made for this.
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Hi Trish!!!! You are such an inspiration to me, I listen to your podcasts almost everyday. The way you help me get to know myself and my unconscious is incredible! I admire how vulnerable you are with your audience, too. We have the same exact enneagram, too, so it’s nice knowing that others struggle with the same things that I do.