Having the courage to be disliked gives you personal power. It gives you the freedom to be yourself. It elevates your emotional maturity and it frees you from the cycle of overthinking from worrying what other people think. If you want to learn how to stop caring what people think, stop people pleasing, or stop overthinking about your social life, this coaching episode is for you. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/477
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This podcast came at the perfect time for me personally. I cannot recommend it enough and continue to tell all my friends (and counselor – had to give that a plug because I know you read these and are pro therapy!) about it as well, Trish, I’m your biggest cheerleader right now!
Having grown up in the church and worked in ministry for several years alongside my husband (before pursuing alternative careers) I am realizing how ill equipped and uniformed I was on what it meant to “take my thoughts captive.” That verse just always felt like a nice suggestion, certainly not something that was ever possible.
Trish takes this verse and concept and through er podcast equips us with the tools and practies necessary to TRULY take our thoughts captive. Whether you consider yourself faith-based or not this is the most practical podcast I have ever listened to when it comes to training our brains. I believe for me personally it’s the faith aspect that’s helped it click in a whole new level for me spiritually.
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So often we don’t pursue our real possibilities in life because we are trying to self-protect from the potential of other people not liking us.
Let’s get some things straight.
No matter who you are.
People will like you.
People will not like you.
Famous, forgettable, fat, skinny, rich, poor.
Resisting reality makes us spin our wheels and miss out on life.
The reality is that people will not like you.
Decide to have the courage to be disliked.
It’s what you make it mean when you are disliked that really matters.
What most people make it mean:
Something is wrong with me.
I can change something about how they are thinking about me.
I don’t belong.
I don’t matter.
What you can choose to make it mean:
Nothing is wrong with me, I’m just not for them.
I don’t need them to love me.
We’re just not a great fit together but we can do life together.
Just because they don’t like mean doesn’t mean they don’t respect me.
They might not know me / might be prejudging me.
Remember: people who are liked by everyone, often don’t stand for anything.
They are vanilla- malleable – unremarkable.
To do remarkable things in your life, you must risk being disliked.
To be okay being disliked, you have to have some foundational elements established.
Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga
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“The courage to be happy also includes the courage to be disliked. When you have gained that courage, your interpersonal relationships will all at once change into things of lightness.”
Here are 3 lessons this book teaches:
Know your worth.
Know other people’s expectations of you.
Know what real freedom is.
Quit running after fame.
Reframe competition and collaboration.
Be okay being different.
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I first discovered Trisha‘s podcast a few years ago as I began my journey into personal development. To give a little background into my life- I grew up with a severely mentally ill mother and alcoholic father and life was difficult. I had picked up on some very unhealthy coping mechanisms to make it through which included emotional and binge eating. By the time I was 20, I had had several 50 pound plus weight losses. I was severely codependent and hated myself. About the time I graduated college I met somebody and we were married. After five years of marriage and a three-month-old daughter – my then husband left for a woman he had met at work.
I spent several years feeling lost and alone. I was in my early 30’s, a single mom, and struggling big time when God began to heal me. He used faith to open doors in my life I didn’t think were possible. I met an amazing Christian man at church and we were married and had another daughter.
Even with all of that, I found that many old behavior/ thought patterns still haunted me. I still struggled with emotional eating, numbing, and codependency. I prayed for guidance and help to change the unhealthy patterns in my life. It was then that l discovered Trish’s podcast.
I soon joined the COC after discovering her podcast and God used Trish’s teaching to help reshape and reframe my dysfunctional thinking. Courses like How to Feel your Feelings and How To Stop People Pleasing along with her Monday mindset mantras in the COC were just what I needed to transform and show up in life with joy and purpose. With Trish‘s encouragement, I got into therapy to heal old wounds and past trauma. I found a fantastic therapist and have been working with her for over a year now.
The COC has been a pivotal transformational healing tool God has used in my life. I adore Trish’s positive energy and the faith perspective she brings to her students. About a year ago by made the mistake of letting my membership lapse. I then joined a different coaching group and did not find the same level of support as positivity that the COC has. I have since re-join the COC and am continuing my transformational work. It is so good to be back! The work I am doing in the COC has had a positive impact not only for myself but my transformation has caused a ripple affect for good in all areas of my life including my marriage, parenting, family relationships, friendships, work, my relationship with God, my self-esteem, and so much more. With the help of COC I show up every day fully alive and embracing the life God has given me.
Thanks for all you do Trish, God is using you in big ways.