Podcast #475

HOW TO STOP DREADING THINGS AND STOP PROCRASTINATING

When you dread things, those things become harder. Dread is just an emotion, resulting from a mismanaged thought that leads to procrastination and avoidance. This podcast episode will teach you how to identify what you are avoiding, when dread shows up, and how to start making those tasks and important things in your life easier to accomplish and more enjoyable to do. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/475

In this episode, we’re coaching on

• How to look forward to what you previously dreaded – and understanding how dread is making your life so much harder 
• What things you might be dreading / avoiding without knowing it 
• How to stop dreading things or putting them off – even it it’s goal setting for next year 🙂

REVIEW OF THE EPISODE:

I love Trish! She has helped me through so much! When I’m down I just put on her podcast!

 

HOW TO WRITE CUSTOM AFFIRMATIONS

Sign up at www.trishblackwell.com/affirmationsworkshop

Wednesday, December 29th at 6PM EST

I’ll be teaching you:

• Why affirmation work, and how to use them successfully in your life to have more joy, more peace and more confidence
• How to write your own custom affirmation; including how to incorporate your faith and scripture into them
• The top three mistakes people make when incorporating affirmations into their lives, nd what to do instead

 

THINGS THAT WE DREAD / PROCRASTINATE ON

Little Things:

Meetings

Doctors appointments

Chores

Grocery shopping

Making decisions

Big tests

Asking someone out 

Meaningful Things:

Setting Goals / Changing Habits

• We put too much pressure on them
• We want them to be perfect
• We over-emphasize our past failures and fear we can’t do it

Conversations that might have conflict

• We avoid them
• We make conflict mean that there’s a problem
• We play small and sabotage our real relationships

Thoughtful Ideas

• Random gifts to neighbors
• Hand-written cards
• Reviews for people who encourage us

Adulting Things:

IRS / Taxes
Organizing an area of our home that bothers us

Creating / improving our professional systems 

Menopause / aging 

Risk-taking

Emotional Things:

Loneliness

Change

Failure

Rejection

Uncertainty

Something bad happening

Getting hurt

Being judged

Inadequacy 

WHAT DOES DREAD TO WHEN IT DOES UNDETECTED AND UNADDRESSED? 

It creates a baseline of negativity in our cognitive atmosphere.

It makes things 10x harder than they actually are.

It makes us behind and drives us to overthinking / procrastination.

It creates mountains out of molehills.

It slows us down and incites buffering / self-sabotage

It causes us to second-guess ourselves and to pay too much attention to our emotions

HOW TO STOP DREADING THINGS – 10 THINGS YOU CAN DO

(Even if it’s goal setting)

1. Identify as an action-taker
2. Use the 5-Second Rule
3. Show up for your future-self as a friend today
4. Believe in a different future than what you’ve experienced in the past
5. Create better self-care reward systems
6. Get accountability
7. Calendar everything (don’t give yourself a choice)
8. Cultivate the emotions you want that will lead to easier and more confident action
9. Understand how long the task / thing really is – make it not a big deal
10. Be honest about the cost – and write down your real desire

 

OTHER RESOURCES YOU MIGHT LIKE

In the College of Confidence, we recently did a Holiday Overwhelm Workshop and Happiness Optimization Workshop. Go to www.collegeofconfidence.com/join to get instant access to both workshop replays and full workbooks.

We’re also doing a 2022 Goal Setting and Vision Casting Workshop soon; enroll with us today and you’ll get access to that deep coaching session – it will be worth the cost of membership in and of itself! 

 

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LISTENER OF THE EPISODE

A very big thank you to you for getting me through the last 6 months, Trish. Your podcast hTrish, I’m not sure you will see this message but as I’m writing it, I’m tearing up full of joy and freedom. I’ve been listening to your podcast for a while. But the on I heard today was about how you vulnerably shared about your healing journey and self-care practices after enduring an abuse story. You inspire and help heal so many souls, me included. Grateful for crossing paths with you. Sending you a big hug and positive energy your way! -Ale 

 

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How to be Happy About Aging, #443

www.trishblackwell.com/443

How to See Yourself Differently than You Do, Podcast #431

www.trishblackwell.com/431

Never Second-Guess Yourself Again, #426

www.trishblackwellcom/426

How to Know Exactly What You Want, Podcast #473

www.trishblackwell.com/473