Podcast #473

How to Know Exactly What You Want

It takes confidence to know exactly what you want, and then courage to believe in yourself enough to create the result you want. This episode will teach you how to do both – how to know exactly what you want and how to really get it in your life. We’ll deconstruct the reasons why being bold and clear in knowing what you want it tough in the first place, and how to trust yourself enough to think big and believe big. This is coaching for anyone with big goals for 2022! Get the full show notes atwww.trishblackwell.com/473

In this episode, we’re coaching on

  • The reasons we don’t know what we want
  • How to figure out exactly what you want
  • A mental strategy to have the confidence that you will follow through


Your words have been extremely eye opening and provided such helpful, enlightening guidance that encourages me to learn to look at things from a different perspective and with true positivity. Thank you for your dedication, continuous drive to share your knowledge and sharing your personal growth to inspire others. -Meredith381



Sign up at www.trishblackwell.com/affirmationsworkshop

Wednesday, December 29th at 6PM EST

I’ll be teaching you:

  • Why affirmation work, and how to use them successfully in your life to have more joy, more peace and more confidence
  • How to write your own custom affirmation; including how to incorporate your faith and scripture into them
  • The top three mistakes people make when incorporating affirmations into their lives, nd what to do instead



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  1. We haven’t taken the time to ask ourselves.
  2. We are limiting ourselves from what we consider is available to us.
  3. We hold onto fictions that we tell ourselves from our past, limiting our future.
  4. We are afraid of what we might be able to get / do / achieve.
  5. We sabotage our own happiness and are comfortable in being disappointed
  6. We falsely think that vague ideas protect us from disappointment



  1. Know what you don’t want to help you figure out what you do.
  2. Ask yourself what would make your soul sing
  3. Do a vision board.
  4. Free think with the thought “What if….”
  5. Release the idea that your “exact” vision needs to be perfect – it just needs to be clear
  6. Think big, and then think bigger – make it big enough that it feels laughable.
  7. Release the “how” as you think about your “why” and your “what”.

Vision builds upon vision.
Often, we can’t get to the next vision until we first experience the growth that will take us to the first level.



  1. Decide firmly what you want.
  2. Sell yourself on the belief that it’s available.
  3. Collect evidence of its availability.
  4. Write it down daily.
  5. Visualize yourself already where you want to be.
  6. Commit to your thought work. (Belief ladders, daily toxic reframes, custom affirmations)
  7. Commit to feeling all your feelings.
  8. Commit to failing with confidence and gratitude
  9. Tell others about your want – and start normalizing it as something you’re already on your way to creating.
  10. Get a coach, a community and accountability.



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It’s back. Our most looked-forward-to coaching option that we offer 1x/year.
A one-time 75-Minute year-long planning session with me
No contract.
No long term obligation.
Just you and me and everything you want to plan for 2022.
The session is recorded so you can go back and relisten to it anytime in the year when you need a personalized reminder that I believe in you and that the goals and growth you have set out for yourself are absolutely feasible, achievable and meant for you!
I only have 10 spots. Only 5 are left.
They are first come, first serve.
The price is $997.
You’ll get pre-session reflection / goal setting work from me, so that we can jump right in and maximize our time together when we are live together.
Additionally, you’ll get a quarterly email check in from me throughout the year to touch base on how your progress is going and a reminder that I’m still in your corner.
Finally, we won’t just talk steps and strategy, we’re going to make sure you’re equipped with the mindset strategies and personalized affirmations / belief work that you’ll need as the fuel to really drive you to your goals in 2022.
After our session you’ll receive a robust email from me with the recording, your action-steps, your quarterly growth goals and the mindset, affirmation, or journaling directives that we coached on in our time together. It’s the step up for a year of extraordinary success.
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Trish – inspiration from one of your podcasts! I wanted a bow on my new car and asked for one! Now all my friends have said they wish they had have asked as well, I wouldn’t have asked if it wasn’t for listening to your podcast! A big step for this mumma getting my own pickup truck that I always wanted! Thanks for giving me the confidence to ask x
-Krystina F.


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