Podcast #463

How to Do Conflict with Confidence

 

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we have a special guest, couples coach Marie Anderson, and we’re talking about….

• How to understand how to navigate conflict and communicate in a marriage.
• What does it mean to fight fair?
• The 4 things that trip up conflict dials

This woman is fundamentally one of the reasons my marriage is what it is. She raised her son to be interested in what it means to be a man of excellence, what it means to fight fair, how to love someone through deep hurt and with profound patience, and what it means to love well.

 

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MARIE ANDERSON BIO

Marie works with couples who want to have a better relationship
If this (communication and conflict) are where you are getting tripped up, she can help you.
 
Contact Marie directly at:
ktamta88@comcast.net

 

QUESTIONS FOR MARIE:

• How did you get interested in conflict and relationships in the first place?
• In your work with couples, how do you recommend that people learn to navigate conflict and communicate in a marriage?
• What types of conflict are most common in relationships?
• Where do you see communication most often break down, and why? What are the communication mistakes most commonly made and why?
• What does it mean to fight fair?
• How do you keep a short list of offenses when you’re frustrated, hurt and angry?
• What are the 4 things that trip up the conflict dials?

 

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QUESTIONS ON CONFLICT FROM MY COMMUNITY

But how do you encourage your partner to be motivated without seeming “naggy” or triggering conflict?
 
Question: what do we do when our spouse spills the details of our conflicts with friends and family? I feel a betrayal of privacy and trust. And how do we get the other person to actually listen and hear us during disagreement?
 
I’m not sure how to word this but basically how to be respectful, yet strong in your stance when the other person is adamant they are right and unwilling to budge. How do you work together when the other person isn’t willing to.

 

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You are definitely an inspiration! I love what you are doing. You have made such an impact in my life as well as many others! Thank you for being you! Looking forward to reading your book!