Podcast #456

What to Do When There’s No End in Sight

Overwhelm, whether it’s in your personal life or your professional life, can derail your confidence, drown you in self-doubt and leave you feeling flailing for hope and purpose. In this coaching, you’ll learn what to do when there’s no end in sight. You’ll learn how to stay filled with faith, how to have peace in your confidence, and how to think the right thoughts that will fill you with power and perseverance.

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we’re talking about:

• Overwhelm, and what to do when you feel burdened by it.
• How to have hope when there feels like there’s no end in sight.
• The belief thoughts and self-talk that will help you neutralize overwhelm

 

REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

Diving Providence
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Inspired scripture tells us clearly that the one true God has predetermined every moment of suffering and joy we will ever have, but it’s always incredible when you can step back and say “Ohhhh, I see why you did that there.” It’s funny to me how fast I found Trish once I took a tiny step towards growth. God really odes open the door when you knock. Trish tackles the real things that go through our heads in such an authentic way, but then she brings it back to Christ. It’s rare and refreshing to find a coaching podcast that is more than what it seems. I’m so grateful for you, Trish! Can’t wait to read your new book!
 
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OVERWHELM & WHAT TO DO WHEN BURDENED BY IT

Overwhelm is a feeling.
It is a feeling we choose.
It is brought on about our thoughts.
 
I used to think “I’m overwhelmed, I just can’t help it.”
 
Or, “I can’t see an end in sight.”
 
But another point of consideration is: do you really need to see an end in sight to know that there’s an end?
 
Yes, I like knowing there’s an end, but when my mind plays this game and needs proof, it’s an invitation to expand my faith and my ability to callous and numb my mind to bounce back from the future moment and to stay in the present moment.
 
Being overwhelmed feels like being flooded – it’s an overload on the nervous system and brain by looking at things with a limited and small perspective, or from a place of exhaustion and hopelessness.
 
Notice >>> It happens because we keep going without listening to ourselves (we aren’t friends to ourselves … either not slowing down, not asking for help, or not creating better habits or boundaries) … and so we miss the signals that our body or our schedule has had enough.
 
Types of ‘no end in sight feelings’ >>> financial seasons of struggle, sickness and never-ending bad news, weight loss or goals that take a long time, feeling stuck or in a dead end place in your life, anxiety and depression, email inbox or work projects, your parents expectations – or the expectations of the world for you to keep achieving…
 
What you think on will multiple.
Dwell on the bad news, and you’ll feel the weight of it even more.
Dwell on the hope within the bad, and you’ll see pockets of peace and strength.
 
A few mental techniques that might help:
 
The Trampoline Method
Brain Dump
Toxic Thought Reframe
Self-Affirming Coaching Phrases (we’ll get to those shortly)
Being in a community for support (like the COC)

 

HOW TO HAVE HOPE WHEN THERE’S NO END IN SIGHT

Everything does end.
We know this.

We can’t see everything.
Keep perspective.
Fight for hope.

When everything is going wrong, find adventure in looking for what is going right.

Get curious about how and where overwhelm shows up in your life.
I’ve been working on reframing overwhelm for the past 5 years in my own thoughts, and I still have ways that it sneaks up on me. (For example, when I get sick, my brain has a habit of panicking and then I think that I will be sick forever.)

Watch for language your brain likes to indulge in. Phrases like:

It’s just too much.
It’ll never end.
I’ll never be able to figure this out / catch up.
I’m so overwhelmed, I can’t do this. I can’t cope.
I should be able to handle this, but I just can’t.
Everyone else seems okay with this stress, something is wrong with me.
I’m not good enough. I should be achieving more.
I’m not organized enough. I must be lazy.
If I can’t keep up they’ll know that I don’t belong here.
Why can’t I do this?
I can’t seem to focus as well and keep forgetting things.
I know I should be doing more but I can’t be bothered to do anything.
What’s the point. Nothing matters.

• You don’t have to depend on your own strength.
• Sometimes things are more than we can bear — and God allows that to invite us into leaning on Him, and on his dependable strength. He offers impenetrable peace and strength that never runs dry.
• It’s also an invitation to reach out to others, and be in community and connection. Culture tells us to isolate, to be machines, to be martyrs, to do it all and be it all … and it’s false ideation that keeps us stressed, stuck and feeling helpless.

 

BELIEF-THOUGHTS + SELF-TALK STATEMENTS TO NEUTRALIZE OVERWHELM

The overwhelm isn’t the problem, it’s the fear that’s packaged in the overwhelm.

Our battle isn’t against overwhelm, it is against fear. 

I love this simplification: because, like so much in life, it becomes a question about how you want to live in your heart: from a place of faith or a from a place of fear.

• I am more than capable of anything I want to do.
• I don’t have to do it all.
• I thrive when I focus on my priorities and on what matters.
• I am exactly where I need to be.
• I will always have more work today, and I love the challenge of it.
• I don’t need to see the solution to believe that it’s there.
• I have hope in the midst of my pain because I walk with peace impenetrable.
• I choose to find the good in this.
• I don’t absorb stress anymore, I’ll notice this, but allow it to pass.
• I have access to some of the most intelligent medical professionals, I will get answers and I am not alone in this.
• I am not in a rush and this is not a race, I’m doing better than I think I am.

 

ANNOUNCEMENTS:

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A Workshop on How to Live With Unshakeable Confidence.
 
On September 22nd, I’m teaching a live virtual workshop day where I’ll show you exactly how to walk in worthiness like a confident daughter of the King. 

Walk in Worthiness is an experience created to ground your identity securely as God’s daughter. You’ll learn how to think with godly confidence, how to listen to the whispers of God on your life and how to engage your faith bravely in how you live. The workshop experience will provide you with the tools to stand firm in your worth and how to express the overflow of abundant love that flows through your life. 

 

LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:

Belinda Dennis
 
Hi Trish – I’ve been listening to your podcast over the past week – I live in Australia and do lots of driving, so it’s perfect! I also listen on my bike trainer during my workout – I love your positive inspiration. Anyways, just wanted to say thanks from Aus, you are awesome.