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Overwhelm is a feeling.
It is a feeling we choose.
It is brought on about our thoughts.
I used to think “I’m overwhelmed, I just can’t help it.”
Or, “I can’t see an end in sight.”
But another point of consideration is: do you really need to see an end in sight to know that there’s an end?
Yes, I like knowing there’s an end, but when my mind plays this game and needs proof, it’s an invitation to expand my faith and my ability to callous and numb my mind to bounce back from the future moment and to stay in the present moment.
Being overwhelmed feels like being flooded – it’s an overload on the nervous system and brain by looking at things with a limited and small perspective, or from a place of exhaustion and hopelessness.
Notice >>> It happens because we keep going without listening to ourselves (we aren’t friends to ourselves … either not slowing down, not asking for help, or not creating better habits or boundaries) … and so we miss the signals that our body or our schedule has had enough.
Types of ‘no end in sight feelings’ >>> financial seasons of struggle, sickness and never-ending bad news, weight loss or goals that take a long time, feeling stuck or in a dead end place in your life, anxiety and depression, email inbox or work projects, your parents expectations – or the expectations of the world for you to keep achieving…
What you think on will multiple.
Dwell on the bad news, and you’ll feel the weight of it even more.
Dwell on the hope within the bad, and you’ll see pockets of peace and strength.
A few mental techniques that might help:
The Trampoline Method
Toxic Thought Reframe
Self-Affirming Coaching Phrases (we’ll get to those shortly)
Being in a community for support (like the COC)
Everything does end.
We know this.
We can’t see everything.
Fight for hope.
When everything is going wrong, find adventure in looking for what is going right.
Get curious about how and where overwhelm shows up in your life.
I’ve been working on reframing overwhelm for the past 5 years in my own thoughts, and I still have ways that it sneaks up on me. (For example, when I get sick, my brain has a habit of panicking and then I think that I will be sick forever.)
Watch for language your brain likes to indulge in. Phrases like:
It’s just too much.
It’ll never end.
I’ll never be able to figure this out / catch up.
I’m so overwhelmed, I can’t do this. I can’t cope.
I should be able to handle this, but I just can’t.
Everyone else seems okay with this stress, something is wrong with me.
I’m not good enough. I should be achieving more.
I’m not organized enough. I must be lazy.
If I can’t keep up they’ll know that I don’t belong here.
Why can’t I do this?
I can’t seem to focus as well and keep forgetting things.
I know I should be doing more but I can’t be bothered to do anything.
What’s the point. Nothing matters.
The overwhelm isn’t the problem, it’s the fear that’s packaged in the overwhelm.
Our battle isn’t against overwhelm, it is against fear.
I love this simplification: because, like so much in life, it becomes a question about how you want to live in your heart: from a place of faith or a from a place of fear.
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A Workshop on How to Live With Unshakeable Confidence.
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Walk in Worthiness is an experience created to ground your identity securely as God’s daughter. You’ll learn how to think with godly confidence, how to listen to the whispers of God on your life and how to engage your faith bravely in how you live. The workshop experience will provide you with the tools to stand firm in your worth and how to express the overflow of abundant love that flows through your life.
Hi Trish – I’ve been listening to your podcast over the past week – I live in Australia and do lots of driving, so it’s perfect! I also listen on my bike trainer during my workout – I love your positive inspiration. Anyways, just wanted to say thanks from Aus, you are awesome.