You’re not alone in feeling insecure about how you engage and interact with others physically. But there’s no reason to stay stuck in this avoidance of or minimization of physical intimacy. No matter your background with others or with yourself, you can learn how to safely and comfortably connect with yourself and others with confidence in a physical way. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/452
· Physical intimacy blocks and how your lack of confidence might be hindering your overall confidence and connection with others
· How to have more body confidence and self-intimacy so that your physical intimacy with others – both platonically and romantically improves
· 5 techniques to proactively improve your confidence in physical intimacy in your romantic relationship
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Past sexual trauma or abuse
Distrust of others
Preferences (lots of physical touch or not)
Blocked intimacy means that you might…
Avoid dating because you don’t want to have to be physical
Sabotage relationships to hide yourself
Body shame yourself and heighten your self-critical voice to create physical change
Overdrink or use substances to help you not overthink
Minimize social situations where hugs or interaction make you uncomfortable
Stand with guarded and closed off body language
Hinder the openness and deep intimacy of allowing yourself to be known by your spouse
Undereating or protocol to allow yourself to be worthy of receiving touch
Never get self-care like massages or pedicures
Allowing yourself to have self-care
Skin care routine
Intimate understanding of food that feels good on the inside
Intimate conversations with yourself
Write your future self a love note at night for the next day.
Learn to be friends with yourself means learning to come from a place of love.
Love is the most powerful emotion we can be in; it opens up our creativity, our confidence and our connection.
What you feel yourself with you have to continue using – fuel with love not self-criticism. Criticism and pressure is heavy and forced, love is light, airy, easy and exciting
Understanding your affection preferences
Communicating to others your preferences
-I’m not a hugger, I love hugs, come – sit closer, etc.
Allowing someone to be with you fully, without numbing yourself or hiding anything, opens you to true connection and deep intimacy.
You have to decide to allow yourself to be known.
Physical intimacy isn’t going to give you physical confidence if you don’t already have it — physical intimacy grounds your confidence and your hard wiring to connect deeply with another human being at your base level.
1. Spend more intentional time naked by yourself
2. Thank your body for how it looks and compliment it
3. Practice proactively escorting out negative thoughts – unwanted guests for when your mind wanders – refuse to allow your intimacy experience to be cheapened by your trash thoughts.
4. Speak openly with your spouse and experiment with a variety of physical intimacy that isn’t sexual.
5. Engage in more small touches throughout the day
Hey Trish – I had a friend recommend your podcast about 2 months ago. I have been listening to lots of your podcasts in the last few months. And it has been very powerful, life changing and bringing such healing and truth in my life. Thank you so much for being you and all you do. You’re awesome! You have such a gift at speaking and teaching! -Ashley Jean