Podcast #438

The Fear of Disappointment and How to Move Past It

The fear of disappointment can keep you playing it safe and staying small on the sidelines of life. You may think you’re protecting yourself or being realistic, but really all you are doing is guaranteeing that your life as a whole will be less than you were created for, and that’s disappointing. Disappointment is part of being human, and when you learn how to feel through your disappointments, they end up being tools to deepen your confidence, hone your drive and leverage what really matters the most. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/438


In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we’re diving deep into disappointment, specifically:

  • The relationship of disappointment to self-criticism
  • How to process and feel disappointment
  • The key to moving past it for good – and not being held back by the fear of it in your life



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Let’s talk briefly about the relationship with disappointment, our fear of disappointment and self-criticism. 

-Disappointment in ourselves

-Disappointment in others

-Disappointment in how our lives have panned out

-Disappointment in choices

Or even, the fear of

-Thinking you’re a disappointment

-Being told you are a disappointing

-The classic, “I’m not mad at you, I’m just disappointed”

-Telling yourself that you’ve disappointed God 

Disappointment seems to sting deep in our character, burning us at the core of our identity where it hurts the most. But we are separate from our disappointments, and our disappointments can’t and shouldn’t hold us back from living fully.

I paused many years of my life because of disappointment. I thought by trying to control more things, play it safe, set smaller – more controllable goals, not get my hopes up, etc that I was protecting myself from emotions I didn’t think “I could handle.”

  1. First – I didn’t know that I can handle anything. Maybe you don’t know that either. But it’s true, you can.
  2. Second – I protected myself, that’s for sure, but from a full, fulfilling and impact-making life. 
  3. Third – Disappointment is part of being human; it’s not something avoidable, either you let it make you miss out, or you embrace being willing to feel your feelings and move through them. 



Quotes on Disappointment:

Disappointment opens our hearts to know what we really care about. Don’t worry about the perceived closed door, focus instead on the open heart. More opportunity will come. 

-Trish Blackwell

We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain or regret or disappointment. –Jim Rohn

The principles of living greatly include the capacity to face trouble with courage, disappointment with cheerfulness, and trail with humility. –Thomas S Monson

If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment. –Henry David Thoreau

Fear of disappointment is a false sense of control and a disillusioned belief that we can avoid a basic human emotion.



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  1. Feel it completely.
  2. Be brave with your emotions.
  3. Focus more on the open heart, not the closed door.
  4. Think on (create belief) the opportunities to come and God’s provision in your life. 
  5. Deepen your commitment to what matters in your life. 



Podcast #211 | The 4 Positive Ways to Deal with Disappointment
Course: How to Feel Your Feelings, available to members of the College of Confidence



Candace Flores

Hello, I just wanted to thank you so much for writing this! It’s really helped me focus my attention to God and who I am meant to be. I wake up and meditate along with your morning meditation recording and almost have it memorized! I finish listening to your podcasts feeling encouraged and strong after. I feel the change; this shift in my posture, my attitude and well being. Thank you, again God Bless.

Jodie from IG

Hello there, I just want to stay by saying I’ve been listening to your podcast and you have done wonders for my confidence. You’re making such a positive difference to so many women’s lives!!! Your podcasts have provided a kind of therapy for me. Keep doing what you’re doing! 

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