Podcast #437

Friends, How Many Should You Have

Friendships matter, but in a pandemic and post-pandemic world, we are more disconnected than ever. If you’ve ever wondered how many friends you should have, how to have better friendships or how to create life-long friends with confidence, then this coaching podcast is for you. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/437

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we’re talking about: 

• Loneliness and how to fight against its pervasiveness in a pandemic and post-pandemic society
• The questions about friendship that you’ve always wanted to know the answers to
• How to reframe your natural friendship nature to be positive and powerful 
• 7 keys to creating good friendships

 

REVIEW OF THE WEEK: 

Thank you Trish!!! 5-Stars, by Lemons&Love

Like so many other listeners, I think God so led me to your podcast! Like literally this podcast has been an answer to a prayer! Your episode have become a crucial part of my everyday and I relisten to some key episode for me especially when I find myself in my head and overthinking things! Thank you for doing this and being so authentic. 

 

LONELINESS AND HOW TO DECREASE IT IN YOUR LIFE

What feeling lonely and disconnected does to us:

1. It isolates. Isolation defeats us, discourages us and makes us open for wounding. 
2. It victimizes us. Us vs. them.
3. It convinces us that everyone has it easier. We feel misunderstood.

Resources mentioned on loneliness:

1. https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2020/01/23/798676465/most-americans-are-lonely-and-our-workplace-culture-may-not-be-helping
2. https://www.cdc.gov/aging/publications/features/lonely-older-adults.html
3. https://www.campaigntoendloneliness.org/the-facts-on-loneliness/

 

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HOW MANY FRIENDS SHOULD YOU HAVE, AND OTHER COMMON QUESTIONS

-How many do you need and how many should you have?

-How to deal with conflict within friendships or friend groups?

-How to feel known and understand when you feel disconnected?

-How to be a good friend and find good friends?

-How to have confidence in your future friendships?

-How to heal from past hurts friendships have caused?

-How to know which friendships are toxic for you?

Friends for a season, friends for a reason, friends for life.

1. Release friendships with gratitude, MariKondi style
2. Lack of interaction doesn’t mean lack of love or care
3. Realistic expectations of inner circle needs and the tribe you want in your life

Other questions that are very common: 

Does longing for more friends make me a loser?

Why do I attract selfish friends? 

How come everyone else seems to have a “group” and I don’t?

Why do I feel so socially awkward all the time?

Is it possible to find friends who accept you for who you are? 

REFRAMING YOUR GIFT OF FRIENDSHIP

What kind of friend are you?

What kind of friend do you really want to be?

There’s always a positive gift that you bring.

It’s your job to find it. To find it though, you have to stop comparing your relationships to that of others. And remember, the more flashy people are about their relationships, the more likely it is that they are compensating for something. Don’t assume that people have it all together just because their social media makes it look like they do. You can be surrounded by a room of friends and feel completely alone. That’s why the right friends matter. 

(Example: I was a floater, and because of that, I felt only partially connected to a lot of people. I thought I was flawed and isolated, but rather I am gifted at connecting, making people feel understood and being part of in multiple groups.)

How Many Friends Should You Have?

It’s like asking how much sex should you have? 

What is the key to making good friendships?

1. To have a friend you have to be a friend.
2. Pursue people, make effort.
3. Know your boundaries and your interests. 
4. Be patient and build common experiences together.
5. Build trust and practice vulnerability.
6. Talk yourself out of awkwardness (get out of your own head) 
7. Be yourself and be fully alive

 

DONE WITH NUMB MASTERMIND ANNOUNCEMENT:

You can learn how to make your brain work for you, not against you. And that’s exactly what I’ll be teaching in my upcoming mastermind, Done with Numb.

Who is Done with Numb for?

You do more than most people but you never feel like you’re doing enough.

You always feel like you should be doing more, but there’s not enough time.

You are told by others that you’re great, but you still see where you need to improve.

You know you have something great to give the world, but you just don’t know where to start. 

____________

Break the chains of decade-long patterns and redesign your life’s potential. 

The Done with Numb Coaching Progression Includes: 

1. All-or-Nothing Cleanse and Perfectionism Detox
2. Simplifying Stress, Reducing Busyness, Creating More Time
3. Striving and Proving Yourself
4. Anxiety Management (future anxiety, achievement anxiety)
5. Broken Belief Systems and the Superhero Complex 
6. Mastering Your Mindset

We’ll go deep into understanding your triggers, your habits, and your thought patterns, deconstructing them completely. 

Then, on fresh foundation, we will reconstruct your cognitive baseline and belief systems. 

This will give you the power to rewire how you see yourself, how you engage in life, and how you thrive on a day-to-day basis. 

 

LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:

Shosana Lallouz

You have helped me so much! I love you. I cannot start my day without your podcast. Please never stop doing what you do. Trish you saved me. I wish you all the best in life so much love for you and what you do.