Podcast #430

How To Make A Good Life A Great Life

If you have a good life but want to make it a great life, this episode is for you. Most people settle for good enough, for getting through the week, for bland, beige lives that are mostly unfulfilling, not just for them, but for the world around them. You were created for more. God created you to desire abundance, to walk in greatness and to use the measure of talents and gifts He has given you to make the world around you better. Buckle up for a conversation filled with tough love and inspiration to help you make a good life a great life. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/430

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we’re talking about: 

1. Why you have a lot of good going on, but you feel unsettled at the end of the day
2. How to improve your nighttime routine 
3. Unbelieving and believing greatness in your life

 

THANK YOU: PATRONS

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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

The Clincher, 5 Stars by MadMakeup24

I’m not alone when I say I’ve struggled with anxious thoughts. It is an ironic turn of events for me when I think about where I am versus 3 years ago. Coming to terms with the fact that I am human and deserving of higher thinking was an uphill battle. When I first hear do Trish it was a moment in my life where I can say I drew a line in the sand. Perfectly imperfect.

Turning 30 rocked my world. Self imposed life threatening thoughts will tear up your soul and force you to live in insecurity. Because I wrapped my brain around others, I didn’t have time to think about my God given powers. Because I’ve stepped into His light, I know that my temporary feelings are not who I am, but they are shaping me into the woman I want to be. To have the mental fortitude and tenacious attitude that Trish does makes her one in a million.

Because I took those steps into confidence with her I feel I don’t owe anything to anyone but myself. I owe it to myself to be grateful! In those three years: I found the man of my dreams and he proposed marriage. We are buying a home together. I had the guts to stand up to my bullies at the office and now we’re working together. I figured out my finances (which was a source of anxiety) and bought myself my dream car. I’ve become this unstoppable force of a woman who dreams big now. The clincher is that she was inside me all along. Trish gave me the shovel to dig her out. 

 

QUOTES FROM GOOD TO GREAT

Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap and Others Don’t

 Jim Collins. Check it out on Amazon > https://amzn.to/2Yfw3R4

“Good is the enemy of great. And that is one of the key reasons why we have so little that becomes great. We don’t have great schools, principally because we have good schools. We don’t have great government, principally because we have good government. Few people attain great lives, in large part because it is just so easy to settle for a good life.”

“Greatness is not a function of circumstance. Greatness, it turns out, is largely a matter of conscious choice, and discipline.” 

“For, in the end, it is impossible to have a great life unless it is a meaningful life. And it is very difficult to have a meaningful life without meaningful work.” 

“Faith in the endgame helps you live through the months or years of buildup.” 

“What separates people, Stockdale taught me, is not the presence or absence of difficulty, but how they deal with the inevitable difficulties of life.” 

“Greatness is not a function of circumstance. Greatness, it turns out, is largely a matter of conscious choice.” 

 

WHY YOUR LIFE IS “GOOD” BUT YOU STILL FEEL SO UNSETTLED

Having a great life demands emotional engagement. 

Be willing to feel all your feelings.

Most people are stuck in “good” because they haven’t had the emotional courage to invest their heart and their hopes in life.

Also- we’re so pre-occupied with what other people think of us and of following other people’s lives that we forget to live our own. We’re self-focused and self-obsessed on superficial levels, but we are cheapening ourselves and selling our real selves short when we aren’t even living our own lives fully. 

Finally, if you haven’t done the emotional work it takes to feel, and to dance with disappointment, then you’ll never be emotionally ready to take a risk and dare to dream bigger or dare to believe bigger. 

 

START WITH YOUR NIGHTTIME ROUTINE IN MIND

More digitally connected than ever, and more detached – not just from others but from ourselves too. 

We often sabotage our great by settling for sloppy habits at night (mostly because we’re too tired from the day of going at over-drive pace) —- and so we numb, we settle, and we disengage our feelings. 

How to improve your nighttime routine:

1. Remove the “should”
2. Focus on a beautiful bedtime routine
3. Parent yourself 90-minutes before your last 90 minutes starts
4. Enter to decluttered, beautiful space with little touches that welcome you
5. Know the difference between your prefrontal cortex and your limbic desires and make your routine automated, easy and attractive 

 

UNBELIEVING AND BELIEVING GREATNESS IN YOUR LIFE

What do you need to start unbelieving?

What does success mean to you?

What does greatness, and meaning look like in your life? 

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SNEAK PEAK: “DONE WITH NUMB” MASTERMIND

www.trishblackwell.com/mastermind

No more excusing your greatness

No more eating or drinking away your feelings

No more feeling guilty for your achievements compared to others

No more overwhelm from stress and self-perpetuated pressure

You’ll 

-have the courage to call yourself out on flawed thinking

-have tools to fight against the attacks of the enemy who is trying to convince you to stay in a perpetual state of inadequacy

-have the support and coaching it takes for a 6-month transformation from living a life that is “good” to living a life that is “great”. The coaching in the mastermind will take you from anxiety / stress / overwhelm to a place of spaciousness, peace, power and ownership.

Check out more at www.trishblackwell.com/mastermind

 

LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:

Dairely from IG

Hello Trish, I’ve been listening to your podcast for some time now and I have to say that I love it!!! One episode really spoke to me. It’s episode #425, Why You Never Follow Through and How to Fix It. I am kinda lost right now in my life. I am 24 years old working a dead-end job with no opportunity to move up. I want to open a coffee shop, but I have no experience making coffee. I also think about all the other coffee shops that are already open and I get discouraged. This episode helped shift my mindset in a more positive way. Thank you.

Don’t forget: 

-You create your own opportunities

-Advocate for yourself

-Become a master of your own craft

-There is always a need for a unique approach

-You are more ready than you think you are!