How to win Against Imposter Syndrome

Podcast #422

Imposter Syndrome is an expression of insecurity in which we are so preoccupied by what people think of us that we feel like frauds doing what we are doing. Imposter syndrome consumes you with self-doubt, overthinking and feelings of being unqualified. Often people who struggle with this put a tremendous amount of pressure on themselves and are always looking for external affirmation or qualifications to provide internal validation. This episode explores the Imposter Syndrome internal voice, how to win against imposter syndrome, and teaches you how to start evicting it from your self-talk. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/422  

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we’re talking about: 

1. It’s your thoughts that make you feel like an impostor, so breaking the syndrome is less about making you feel more qualified and more about thinking better quality thoughts. 
2. Why caring too much what people think is what is making you feel so insecure and struggle with all of the overthinking you’re doing about impostor syndrome
3. 3 simple things I do win against impostor syndrome that really work 

 

 

REVIEW OF THE WEEK

Invaluable Tool for your Toolbox

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I’d heard about the podcast for a year years but it wasn’t until a few weeks ago when I made time to listen. Wow- blown away! Trish almost always addresses the very things I’m wrestling with and uses the words and concepts that have made changes in my thoughts. I took time to join the College of Confidence and have been encouraged in my personal struggles and professional challenges by Trish and that community. We all need a toolbox to get through this life – this podcast is that really awesome multi-tool that addresses so many problems we contend with privately and publicly. Thanks, Trish for sharing your gifts! 

 

 

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Better Quality Thoughts, Better Quality of Confidence

Planning for the new year – your thoughts are everything.

It’s time to start trusting the thoughts you choose to think on.

The quality of your thoughts determines the quality of your life. 

Go deeper on how to change how you think by listening to episode #420, How to Change the Way You Think(www.trishblackwell.com/420) or by enrolling in my online group coaching program The College of Confidence. (www.collegeofconfidence.com)

 

Quotes on Thoughts and Winning Against Imposter Syndrome

• “If you realized just how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought.” Anonymous
• “Overthinking is the biggest cause of unhappiness.” Anonymous
• “We are a product of our thoughts.” Scottie Waves
• “Thoughts have energy. Make sure your thoughts are positive and powerful.” Anonymous
• “Thoughts become things.” Mike Dooley
• “Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think.” Benjamin Disraeli
• “You only have control over three things in your life, the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take.” Jack Canfield
• “Your life is a reflection of your thoughts.” Anonymous
• “You are not a helpless victim of your own thoughts, but rather a master of your mind.” Louise Hay

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Impostor Syndrome is Simply Caring Too Much What People Think

Haven’t listened to our most recent episode, How to Stop Caring What People Think (2020 Update)? Then add that to your listen list for as soon as you’re done with this episode. This will help in winning against imposter syndrome.

You can listen here > www.trishblackwell.com/419

If you’re really ready to go deeper and detox all the roots of insecurity and your overfocus on what people think for good, then take my free masterclass How to Stop Caring What People Think.

The link to grab a free seat is > www.trishblackwell.com/stopcaring

3 Simple Things I Do To Fight Off and Win Against Impostor Syndrome:

#1: Delight in being a life-long learner.

-This allows you to be a beginner with confidence

-This allows you to be an intermediate without cockiness

-This allows you to be an expert without pressure or perfection 

I’m just here to learn, grow and contribute back. 

#2:  Trusting the Super Trish Inside

-You have a SuperYou inside. It’s the you that listens to my voice, the one that gets courage and clarity and powerful visions. It’s the most confident you. And when that version of you makes a choice – or has a dream – learn to trust it. 

-Trust the best you who decided that you can do what you set out to do.

-Quiet the “who I am to…” or the “what if they find out …” voice 

#3: Show Up Consistently and Imperfectly

-There is no need to be an expert, progression, not perfection

-Commitment is courageous and it wins the long race of anything

-Make it a non-negotiable – I don’t give myself a choice to “feel like it” or “feel ready”

Actions Create Results. 

Your results this year are not a fluke. Use this thought to fight against imposter syndrome.

Do you want the same results? Do the same thing.

Do you want better results? It’s time to do more.

Do you want the opposite results? It’s time to take an honest evaluation of where you’re at. 

 

ANNOUNCEMENTS:

If this episode resonated with you, we have a new course that just released in the College of Confidence that just dropped – and it’s on this, just more in-depth: How to Stop People Pleasing.

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LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:

Hi Trish, Happy Thanksgiving! My name is Sadie and I’m a Junior in high school from Florida. I just wanted to reach out and say that I am SO thankful for you and your podcast! 

I began club swim the summer before my Sophomore year and fell in love with the sport. If i’m being honest, it has not always been easy to show up to practice considering almost all of my teammates have been swimming from a young age.  

Around a year ago, I randomly stumbled upon your podcast before swim practice. I was looking for some encouragement on Spotify and your podcast appeared. Within the first few minutes I heard you talk about swim and your faith in God. I thought it was so ironic how you mentioned swim because I was just about to go to practice. I knew i was meant to find your podcast. Ever since then I have listened to your podcast at least once a week.

I remember the day I found your podcast because it immediately gave me confidence, which is something that has been challenge, especially at swim lol. Also, thank you so much for including faith episodes. They have helped me strengthen my relationship with God. Thank you so so much again. 

Many Blessings,

Sadie