Trying to please others puts you on a hamster wheel of inadequacy, powerlessness and in insecurity. People pleasing makes us co-dependent and cautious with how we appear to others. It makes us addicts to caring what people think and keeps us stuck in a life of stagnant averageness – average happiness, average success, average relationships. You were made for more. This podcast episode will give you 27 ways to confidently start breaking the chains of people pleasing that is holding you back from all that God has for you. Stop being a people pleaser today. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/421
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People pleasing goes beyond simple kindness.
It’s based off a low opinion of yourself.
It’s a need for others to like you.
Because it’s rooted in caring too much what people think.
It’s a belief system that thinks – if I can just make people happy, then I will be happy because I will belong, I will be important and I will be enough.
It makes our happiness contingent on someone else’s happiness.
We become victims to other people’s whims and decisions. This is why it is important to stop being a people pleaser today.
(Need more coaching on letting go of what people think? Check out episodes #419 and #187 of The Confidence Podcast.)
Negative Emotional Results Experienced:
-frustration and resentment
-feel taken advantage of
-relationships that don’t satisfy
-stress and burnout
-identity of worthlessness or contingent on results/achievement
-fear of being left out or not belonging
Rooted in Origins Of:
-fear of rejection
-false control focus
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I have been feeling a lot of overwhelm lately, with running my business, having little kids, and just managing life and general! Everything good, just a lot going on. Your episodes recently on overwhelm and feeling like you have too much to do were there at the perfect time!
I have trained my thoughts this week to say “it’s OK that you are overwhelmed, just one step at a time!” I have been getting everything done and not feeling overwhelmed!
So just another thank you for this amazing work you are doing.