“If a man loses pace with his companions perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however, measured, or far away.”  – Henry David Thoreau



#1 Tip: Meditate / Self-Reflect

-This can be done through a variety of ways: meditation, yoga, prayer, journaling, running or movement, self-analysis

-You will never know the beat of your drum if you don’t first slow down to listen

#2: Action Steps for you to break the habit of going with everyone else’s beat and learn to more clearly hear your own.

(1) Stop Comparing /  (2) Believe and Listen  / (3). Maximize

(1). Stop Comparing

Stop trying to dance someone else’s dance!  I have two tips for you here:

(a). Self-analysis on your own pace. We all work at different paces.

(b). Horse blinders.

(2). Believe & Listen

Believe that you have the courage to go against the flow.  Believe that you are confident enough in yourself not to follow the crowd.

Listen to your heart.  You have to not be afraid to dance to your rhythm, let go of who is watching.

  • What do I really want?
  • What is my persistent dream?
  • What calls to me over and over?

(3). Our job is to maximize our gifts, not change them

We are called to nurture and mold who we were created to be…not change it or force it to fit society’s accepted mold.

Let go of caring about what other people think of you.

There is an inner consciousness within you that holds the answer to these questions, this is your Drummer.

Things to  be proud of yourself (ways I know you are for sure different):

-your story is unique

-your skills weave a tapestry of talent no one else can claim

-your passions are in your for a reason

-you are planted where you are for a reason

-you have the potential to positively impact and love a group of people no one else has been given

-you have been entrusted with a unique personality that is meant to shine

-your eyes see the world in a way that no one else does

Through honest self-analysis, believing in yourself and listening to your heart, you will achieve all that you desire. 


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