Forgiving self-destructive behavior keeps many people stuck in confusion and conflict. If you’ve spent a huge portion of your life stuck in self-sabotage, self-destructive or unhealthy patterns of thought or behavior, then this episode is for you. In it we’re going to explore how to forgive yourself for being so harmful, for making poor decisions and wasting time. Forgiveness is the balm that will soothe your heart and give your mind the brain space it craves to walk and think with more confidence.
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Self-forgiveness is not letting yourself off the hook, or being easy on yourself.
It’s understanding that unforgiveness doesn’t help, and holding onto things hurts your psyche.
Guilt is a long-term decision to feel miserable for a long time. And there are deep consequences. You’ll be miserable, and you’ll attract other miserable people.
Difficulty forgiving also leads to heart attacks, high blood pressure and depression.
Any type that you have wanted to be free from – some examples of which are: over eating, over drinking, binging, compulsive shopping, gambling, scrolling, cutting, compulsive exercising, control, perfectionism, procrastination, smoking, toxic relationship patterns
Take ownership of your mistake.
Articulate how you feel.
Identify the hurt
Understand what you want (peace)
Recognize unrealistic expectations
Stop living on replay mode
Apologize to yourself or your body
Put things into perspective
Allow God in
Replace guilt with gratitude
Renew your mind
Do a new thing (repent, change behavior, etc.)
Rest and trust.
Unbelief makes it hard for us to forgive ourselves.
-we believe in forgiveness for others
-we believe that God forgives in theory
-so why can’t we forgive ourselves
…while also still maintaining and nurturing positive behavior change.
We’re trying to do it on our own strength
In other words, we enter into the “Promised Land” by fully embracing God’s grace. We find “rest” when we really believe that all our sins have been washed away. This, we’d suggest, is exactly what your friends mean when they suggest that you need to “forgive yourself.”
“I prayed to the Lord, and he answered me. He freed me from all my fears. Those who look to him for help will be radiant with joy; no shadow of shame will darken their faces.” -Psalm 34:5
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If you’ve ever struggled with wanting to know who you are and how to actually like yourself, you won’t want to miss this episode. We’ll be talking about exactly that: how to like yourself.
Did you know that confidence is simple? If you follow The Confidence Formula in the way we teach in the COC, then it’s as easy as (1). slowing down, (2). simplifying and (3) strategizing … all of which we do right alongside you in the COC. We’re thick into the Back-to-Basics Challenge, implementing the Confidence Formula in the College of Confidence and it’s not too late to join us. It’s back to school, back to basics … something we all need.
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Confidence is a mental skill set that can be developed and nurtured at any age. It is never too early and never too late to teach confidence to someone – wherever someone is in their confidence journey that is the perfect place to start. Confidence is a life-long adventure and exploration, and the more the skill is strengthened, the more courageously the person will be able to show up in life. This course will equip you with the tools to categorically teach confidence to girls and women of any age and at any stages. The modules start with a general overview of how to teach confidence, in the module Confidence Fundamentals for Teaching. Then, you’ll learn more specifically how to dial in your confidence coaching in the other modules, learning how to teach Confidence in Identity, Confidence in Ability, Confidence in Intellect, Confidence in Athletics and Confidence in Personality. This is the course is a launchpad for you to confidently and effectively boost and support confidence growth the girls and women in your life, while growing your own confidence as well.
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