HOW TO STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP
Beating yourself up?
Pull back the curtain of your heart and let’s have a conversation about the pressure you put on yourself.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we’ll be talking about:
- How to recognize when you are beating yourself up
- The 4 primary fears the drive the self-flagellation and guilt
- 4 strategies that are proven effective to help break the cycle
- 10 ways to practice self-kindness if you struggle with beating yourself up
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WHAT ARE THE FEARS BEHIND BEATING OURSELVES UP
Beating yourself up seems like the most common way to tackle our problems but instead, it hinders your growth. Here are some reasons (aka fears) why you are beating yourself up.
Fear of not being enough.-over-attachment to affirmation and culturally defined success (Lack and fixed mindset!)
Fear of being discovered as defective.-speak about beauty, makeup, shame, etc, i just wasn’t taught and wasn’t built up in this way (Inadequacy and shame!)
Fear of not actually being motivated-what if you need the pressure and the inner-bully? lack of self-trust (Laziness!)
Fear of not being able to change.-I engaged in this behavior for years because I felt like I was letting God down, and then I felt overlooked by God because He wasn’t healing me from my struggle in the way I wanted or expected; I was afraid I was broken and unable to change or be changed. (Guilt!)
STRATEGIES THAT HAVE BEEN EFFECTIVE IN MY COACHING
HOW TO PRACTICE SELF-KINDNESS AND STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP
1. Be a friend to yourself – slow down, be present, be nice.
2. Put a higher value on kindness
3. Remember that being mean doesn’t work
4. Focus on more positive self-talk
5. Write out a daily truth or verse
6. Practice patience with yourself and others
7. Accept your challenges as opportunities
8. Get an aerial view – there’s no right way to do anything, there’s always a pivot
9. Surround yourself with people who want you to succeed10. Do a distraction detox
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HOW TO TEACH GIRLS CONFIDENCE
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LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:
I just wanted to thank you for your podcast and all that you do. I stumbled upon The Confidence Podcast when I was still a young girl in 8th grade. I had been struggling with an eating disorder for the past year and finally hit my breaking point when I knew I couldn’t go on depriving myself of food forever. I knew I had to make a change, so I scoured the internet for self-help resources. Your smiling face on the cover of your podcast was calling me, so I gave one of the episodes a listen, and was blown away with what you had to say. I binge-listened whenever I could, and your voice and encouragement pulled me out of the depths of my eating disorder and healed my broken spirit. I am now a senior in high school and have a daily habit of stretching and praying in the morning, doing one thing every day that scares me, journaling, taking action, making it my priority to be the best me that I can be, and loving others. I still listen to The Confidence Podcast every day in the car on the way to school, and it helps me to be present in that day. You have made such a difference in my life and I believe that God brought your podcast to me for a reason. You truly have a calling for this. Thank you again times a million.
P.S. I love seeing your posts pop up on my Instagram feed. They always make me smile and give me extra encouragement!