How to Stop Being Jealous of Others

Podcast #409

Jealousy rots the bones, but it doesn’t have to rot yours anymore. This podcast episode dives into how to stop being jealous of others so that you can get on with your own life and thrive where God has planted and placed you. Too often we don’t call ourselves out on jealousy, envy or comparison, and it tarnishes our spirit, our joy and our confidence from the inside it. It’s time to get serious about cleaning out our hearts so that we have space to live with joy, not jealousy. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/409

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we’re chit-chatting about:

The sneaky ways that jealousy shows up in our lives – and why we never call ourselves out for it – it’s time to be honest, y’all!
10 ways how you can start eliminating the impact of jealousy in your life right now
The 2 ways jealousy can destroy a relationship: and how to make sure it doesn’t hurt yours

FREE COACHING:

One of the things that drive us deeper into jealousy is our obsession and distraction over what people think of us. You’ve heard me coach on this topic on podcasts before, but I want to go deeper than that with you – I want to invite you into my Masterclass on How to Stop Caring What People Think. We’re re-launched it and I don’t want you to miss out on it.

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Life Changing!! By LizKU124

Trish and her podcast have changed my life. Her positivity, fresh perspectives, insight, knowledge and experiences have helped me to grow as a person and become less anxious and more confident. She adds in the perfect amount of spiritual content to supplement her teachings, and I know that whenever I start my day with The Confidence Podcast, it’s going to be a great day. Thank you Trish for your ongoing encouragement that you share and for helping me to become a better, more confident version of myself!

HOW DOES JEALOUSY SHOW UP?

Comparison

Inadequacy

Dieting

Relationships

Low self-esteem

Feelings of insecurity

Uncertainty

Worth issues

Different statements that express jealousy that you might not expect:

I just feel behind …

I should be doing more ….

They seem to have it all together …

They know what they’re doing ….

I wish I had it as easy as ….

Must be nice …

They’re so lucky …

Jealousy turns our eyes outward – and sets our hearts up for a state of constant comparison.

Comparison detracts us from being able to be present, engaged and confident.

Bottom line: If you want to be confident, you have to ruthlessly eliminate jealousy from your heart

HOW TO ELIMINATE JEALOUSY

1. Pay attention to where it pops up in your life.

2. Call it what it is …. don’t flower it up.

3. Surrender your heart and pray for cleansing.

4. Guard your thoughts – and parent your phone!

5. Proactively give praise for all that you have and all that you are

6. Understand that you have an isolated narrative

7. Everyone has a story – honor yours and honor theirs

8. Ask yourself, do you want to live with a heart of abundant joy, or of anxious lack?

Ultimately, jealousy can be minimized if you follow the tenants of The Confidence Formula

-Slow down

-Simplify

-Strategize

JEALOUSY IN RELATIONSHIPS

1. Lack of Trust

Problem of communication

Problem of transparency

Problem of confidence

2. Lack of Teamwork

Problem of perspective

Problem of communication

Problem of collaboration

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Comparison

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LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:

Sandra Nilsson

Hi Trish! A big sisterly hug from Sweden. Since I changed to an Android phone, I haven’t been able to figure out how to leave a podcast review for you.

You are such a beautiful woman of God. I struggle a lot with never feeling enough and insecurities from childhood and always seeking for approval and belonging as a third-culture kid. (Finnish-Nigerian), now living in Sweden. I’m blessed with such a beautiful family and only now realizing that success lies in that and not career or being approved by random people.

I have suffered from numerous burnouts during my short life not realizing that I have made the choice of doing so … or rather been passive to not reject stress and depression.

Sister, I am enjoying each and every episode of yours. I thank God for your life and how you continue to bless others.

xoxo

Sandra, your nomad sis

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