How to Appear More Confident than You Actually Are

Podcast #408

Appearing more confident than you are is a decision, and there are a few small tricks you can do to hack this habit for yourself. Confidence is not a destination, but rather a journey – so it’s natural for your confidence to ebb and flow. Thankfully, you don’t have to always feel confident to be confident. This podcast episode will teach you how to do just that. Get the full show notes at

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we’ll be talking about:

  • How to appear more confident than you actually are or feel like you are
  • The secret to being confident, but not arrogant 
  • Building a confidence bank for your brain

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Amazing Podcast, 5 Stars by Shelby Eichstadt

This lady has CHANGED MY LIFE. I have been listening to this podcast for the past two years and I cannot emphasize how much Trish has helped me in my personal growth/mental health/eating disorder recovery journeys. I have done YEARS of therapy and was in inpatient treatment for an eating disorder and I can honestly say this podcast has helped me in probably more ways than those other things. Trish speaks to me in a way that I feel like no one else can relate. Like half of the time I am like, are we like the same person lol. If you haven’t listened, you NEED to. This lady knows what she’s talking about and can give you PRACTICAL ways to deal with life challenges. I cannot say enough good things about this podcast. Thank you Trish for all that you do. You are making an impact in this world. 

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We’re going to go back to the basics here, and we’re going to have a conversation around how to get your neurons firing together so that your brain and thoughts get wired in the way we want — with a powerful, victorious mindset.

It starts with a base layer: belief. I believe I can do hard things.

Next, up the pyramid …I will not avoid doing hard things, because I understand that hard things are part of life.

Then, the next ascending layer…I am good at doing hard things.


I like to do hard things. 

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Do people that appear extremely confident really feel that way? Is it an act? Do they ever feel what I feel? 

You don’t have to be the best.

You don’t have to know what you’re doing.

You just have to be yourself.

You will appear most confident when you are most yourself and most relaxed.

How, so, how do you do that?


Reassure yourself.

Get to know yourself.

Stand comfortably.

Have open posture and body language. 

Do things and take action. 

How do I do this? As a confidence coach, you might think I have mastered confidence, but I haven’t. Confidence is a relationship – a spiritual practice almost – that I will be exploring and expanding my entire life.

I aspire to have a thick skin and tender heart.

I aspire to be the friendliest person in a room.

I aspire to smile more than anyone else I know.

I aspire to be consistently, openly and unapologetically myself.

I aspire to do the things that scare, intimidate or overwhelm me.

I aspire to lead even when I don’t feel ready.

I aspire to seek the Lord every day for direction, wisdom and peace.

I aspire to trust how He made me and walk that out every day.



In one word? Vulnerability.

But let’s break that down a little bit, shall we? How does this also get expressed, or how can you focus this? 

Be sincere.

Know your strengths.

Know your limitations.Embrace help.

Ask questions.

Be wrong.

Get input. 

Be hungry to learn and grow – from everyone. 

Look for the best in others. 

Be encouraging.



Keep track of your confidence wins


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-Answered prayers 

-Eleanor Roosevelt list

To do this you need to slow down – simplify how you think about yourself, and truly just look for the good. Did you realize that most people are afraid to be optimistic or positive about themselves? 

From a faith perspective, create enough space and time to know and remember what God has done in your life and where He has shown up for you. The more you understand the character of God, the more your confidence in Him will be strengthened, reliable, and secure. The deeper my roots go into the Word and into time with Him, the more confidence I have about my voice, my life, my family, my path, my work, my future. I have mountains of evidence of God’s faithfulness, and so releasing my control and putting my trust in Him becomes natural and easy. 



COLLEGE OF CONFIDENCE CHALLENGEIt’s back to school, back to basics … something we all need. 

I’ll be coaching you through the following categories, for a full week at a time.


Weight loss




Being Yourself

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I shared your podcast that you released today on Facebook. To be honest, I was a little nervous to do it, but you’ve suggested doing something each day that makes us a little scared. The reason I was nervous to share it is that it’s kind of admitting to too many people that I lack confidence. I don’t mind a close friend knowing this, but it was a little scary to share it publicly. It’s more important to try and help other people than to try and hide my setbacks. Thank you for what you are doing for me. I haven’t joined college confidence yet, but it’s a step I plan to do soon.

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