#390: OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINIONS: HOW TO DEVELOP A THICKER SKIN

You can learn to not be bothered or swayed by other people’s opinions when you learn how to develop a thick skin. Developing a thick skin comes when you know who you are, how to be yourself, and from lots of practice of being in uncomfortable situations and learning how to have the mindset to focus on the right thing. You can develop a thick skin when you learn how to train your thoughts and your focus. This podcast episode will help you with exactly that. 

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we’re talking about:

• Why we care so much and how to start letting go
• Thick skin … how to get it, especially if you consider yourself a sensitive person
• How to move forward and stop caring what people think

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1. The 5 Secrets of Having Confidence
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3. How to Know if Your Dream is Achievable
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REVIEW OF THE WEEK: 

An encouraging listen – 5 stars! 

by Allimandy

I have been listening to this for a couple of months now. I can feel the difference in my mood shift when I listen to an episode. I love to listen on walks and feel encouraged after listening. I like that she is vulnerable enough to put herself out there and she challenges you to do the sam.e I would like to be a part of the College of Confidence one day! Than you for showing up Trish. I am encouraged to show up in my life every day. 

OTHER PEOPLE’S OPINIONS 

God never told you to impress other people, just to love them. So love them. 

You probably wouldn’t worry about what people think of you if you could know how seldom they do!

– Olin Miller

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

– Eleanor Roosevelt 

here is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.

– Aristotle

Other People’s Opinions

1. There will always be conflicting opinions.
2. There will always be an option for you: let them matter or don’t.

Opinions change as often as the wind.

Opinions are not relevant – and they’re fickle. 

Opinions should never keep us chained or bonded from life.

What have you let other people’s opinions take from you or keep you from?

For me…caring too much made me…

-get into wrong relationships

-say things I didn’t want to say

-do things I didn’t want to do

-spend money I didn’t have

-put off writing my first book for a few years

-almost didn’t launch my podcast or business

THICK SKIN: HOW TO GET IT

Y’all. I’m a sensitive person.

I’m the girl that likes to cry by intentionally watching sad movies.

When I was a kid I was the only emotional one in my family, and a black sheep because of it. I once cried so hard that my mom told me she might have to send me away.

Think about callouses, they come with time, pressure, and exposure. Now, I’m not trying to get my hands all calloused, but I do like a baseline of callous protection since I lift frequently.

I’ve had to develop a thick skin, and the truth is that the toughening of one’s mental thick skin never ends or stops. Just the other week I had a deep conversation with an influential mentor and investor … and I hung up the phone – not sure whether or not to smile or cry. I spoke to Brandon about it and he and I agreed that this person, knowing that I am a world-renown confidence coach, assumed that I had the confidence to take straight talk and open criticism. Which, technically, I do. But, that doesn’t mean that I don’t have to do the mindset work behind taking something that makes me feel sensitive, vulnerable, small, and worthless and I have to intentionally turn it into a compliment for myself.

Developing a thick skin is based on knowing where to put your focus.

I’ve decided to focus on what is good, what will encourage me, and what will drive me forward in a positive way. 

HOW TO MOVE FORWARD AND STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK

1. Decide which opinions matter and which ones don’t.
2. Know that you belong.
3. Address the internal bully you are avoiding 
4. Take a risk — and be yourself
5. Eleanor Roosevelt it
6. Get pissed off at what you’ve missed out on
7. Make up for the lost time

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You were created for such a time as this. 

Are you ready to shine light in this world? Your dream does that – whether you’re thinking about a book, a  website, a business idea, a speaking career, or sharing your art – your dream brings light into a world that feels quite dark right now.

ANNOUNCEMENTS:

The Dream & Do Project is only available for 3 more days at the time of this recording. You don’t want to miss out on this.

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LISTENER OF THE EPISODE: 

Renee_K8 from Instagram

Hi Trish!

I started listening to your podcast a week ago, and you are EXACTLY the positive energy I need in my life. I have so many traits of people-pleasing and thrive on receiving affirmations. I have downloaded your 21-day. journal and am so excited to start using it. I resonate with your post on needing to use pretty paper, what are your top recommendations for daily journal planners?

xoox

Renee

References Mentioned:

The Passion Planner, www.passionplananer.com

21-Day Toxic Thought Detox Freedom Journal, www.trishblackwell.com/freedomjournal