STAYING MOTIVATED WHEN YOU ARE SAD OR SCARED

Podcast #385 

How can you stay motivated when things feel like they’re falling apart around you? If you’re overwhelmed by the circumstances of your life, or learning how to process ambiguous grief or the uncertainty of the unknown, then this episode is for you. You’ll learn how to stay motivated when you are sad or scared and how to make the most of what you have available to you. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/385

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we’re talking about:

• Ambiguous grief in the time of COVID-19 and how to process it
• How to stay motivated when you are sad, mad or scared at this time
• Making the most of the hand of cards you have

REVIEW OF THE WEEK: 

Blissful Encouragement – 5 Stars

by TravelerSB

Trish gives me such encouragement with her amazing energy and loving spirit. The content she provides shifts my mindset into a positive place,  often when I need it the most. Thank you, Trish,  for sharing your light and your gifts with the world in this way!

AMBIGUOUS GRIEF: GIVE IT SPACE

-Loss of control

-Upturning of big life events

-Balancing deep sadness with deep gratitude to be alive and healthy

-Feelings of unrest and wasted effort

Ambiguous loss is a loss that occurs without closure or clear understanding. This kind of loss leaves a person searching for answers, and thus complicates and delays the process of grieving, and often results in unresolved grief.

You might be experiencing ambiguous grief for the following reasons as a by-product of COVID-19:

Missed athletic championship, missed athletic season, canceled graduations, isolated Easter holidays, loss of a job, furloughed family members (and potential guilt for not being in the same position), uncertain global economic conditions, rescheduled vacations, postponed weddings, inability to connect with loved ones to mourn the loss of life, missed birthday plans, compromised family Spring traditions, closed gyms and training facilities, rescheduled major tests or opportunity for promotion, lost progress on financial goals, or just loss of general sense of normalcy. 

ACKNOWLEDGE THE LOSS

• Nothing is wasted – not your work, not your planning, not your efforts leading up to this point. 
• Whatever it is that you are letting go of and grieving, allow yourself the space to feel what you feel.
• Journal and express what you feel into sentences; put words to your heart. 
• Honor what is lost and decide what matters most to you moving forward. Remember that with loss always comes life and a gift of deeper appreciation. 

HOW TO STAY MOTIVATED: DECIDE HOW TO MAKE THE MOST OF WHAT IS PRESENT

Enjoy – thrive – live today well.

1. Create a schedule – everything has a place: workouts, creative time, cleaning, food prep chill time, etc. Differentiate between weekday schedules and weekend schedules and identify what days you do certain things versus what days you don’t.
2. Identify your daily transition points– use music, fresh air, a Netflix break, a phone call to your mom, etc. to create a sense of daily normalcy; which will increase your overall productivity.
3. Utilize social media effectively, not obsessively.Set time limits to your scroll, unfollow certain people and use apps that connect you in real-time socially with others. 
4. Ground yourself in gratitude.When you use gratitude effectively it reminds you of all the things that are going right and going well right now.
5. Set monthly goals and micro-milestones.For me, April is a month of 8-hours of sleep. I have “connection” goals with my husband. I have quality time and creative goals with my kids. I have writing goals for my next book. 

It’s imperative that you remember that we are not on “pause” with life. This is life, right now, as it is. If you aren’t sure where to start or what to do, you can pray a prayer I like to pray: “Lord, thank You for this new normal. Open my eyes to see what it is that I should be focused on, and give me perspective and power to pursue what matters.” 

MAKING THE MOST OF THE HAND OF CARDS YOU HAVE FOR MOTIVATION:

PLAN ON WHAT WILL COME FROM THIS 

Instead of looking at what you don’t have, focus on what you do.

What life changes do you want to make?

Everything is an opportunity to become mentally stronger and stay motivated.

Think about this time next year – what does that look like ideally to you? 

Your unfair advantage is that you have mindset tools – lean into your advantage.

It’s not about your cards, it’s about how confidently you hold them. 

PATREON PODCAST SUPPORT: 

If this podcast show has blessed your life, this is my personal invitation to become an official supporter of the show. Did you know that it costs me approximately $400 to produce a podcast episode? This is my labor of love, and worth every minute I spend on it – whether I have one listener, or one million, I will continue to show up for you. You matter to me.

For just $5/month you can become an official supporter, a patron, we call it, of The Confidence Podcast. But hey, I don’t take asking for money from you lightly – you better believe that becoming a patron means that you’ll get extra bonus podcast episodes and other encouraging content from me. Yep, exclusive, podcast episodes that I call “faith takes,” are released 2x/month for our patrons. These definitely help to stay motivated.

To start supporting the show just go to www.patreon.com/TheConfidencePodcast

MICRO COACHING SESSIONS FOR CRISIS MANAGEMENT

If you’ve ever considering hiring a life coach, a mindset coach, a career coach or a confidence coach – this is the most important time, now more than ever to do so.

I understand that investing in yourself, particularly in a time of uncertainty, feels intimidating, and it might have you second-guessing yourself. But, I assure you, there is no better investment than in yourself. The value that you get from just one or even two private coaching sessions could quite possibly be the lynchpin of change and transformation for your next steps of success.

My private coaching hours have been booked, and I was starting a waiting list for clients; but, it is only ethical that, as a coach who breathes hope and a plan into the work I do, that I find a way to show up now, more than ever for people who need coaching. So, with the help of my husband, we are arranging extra coaching hours – exclusively available now for anyone who wants affordable support in crisis management.

Sessions are micro-sessions, so just 30-minutes and can be recorded for your review and further application. The cost the discounted rate of just $150, half of my typical coaching cost. 

Maybe you need coaching for crisis management about:

How to stay positive when the world feels so panicked

How to take the fearful thoughts and your anxiety and use it for good

How to make this season an opportunity for your personal growth

How to not panic about your business growth or entrepreneurial plan

How to stay on track for your weight loss goals without a gym or your normal structure

How to work from home and stay socially isolated without getting depressed

How to pivot your business efforts and marketing to work with the new economy

How to stay motivated while staying at home / how to not give into buffering or self-sabotage

How to use any career setbacks to transition confidently and staying motivated into a new career 

How to create a routine that brings you joy at this time, not anxiety or stress

How to stretch your faith and feel good during this crisis instead of tossing and turning at night.

Email me at trish@trishblackwell.com to claim a spot. 

LISTENER OF THE EPISODE:

Juliana Amesquita

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