Podcast #384:GETTING THE RIGHT PEOPLE TO LIKE YOU

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we’re chatting about:

Getting the right people to like you is a result of learning how to stop caring what people think. This podcast episode will teach you how to let go of caring what people think about you. You’ll also learn how to find and create the right friend group for yourself. Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/384

• How to get the right people to like you and how to
• The two major types of people and how to distinguish between them
• A challenge to help you let go of caring too much

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GETTING THE RIGHT PEOPLE TO LIKE YOU

Well, we can’t control people’s opinions of us, but we can control whose opinions we esteem and who we spend the most time with.

How are you supposed to confidently make good friends with good people?

How do you break the cycle of trying too hard to get people to like you?

How do you learn to figure out who will be life-giving or soul-sucking in your life?

It all comes down to learning how to assess what type of person someone is. Or, more accurately, what season of growth they are in in their lives. We are humanly capable of being both types, but to be the type that builds great relationships and thinks beyond themselves, we have to do some soul growth and work.

COVID-19 REVEALED TWO TYPES OF PEOPLE:

1. Self-focused people.
2. Other-focused people.

This is non-age-discriminate, non-gender based and not socio-economically tied.

1. SELF-FOCUSED PEOPLE

Interested in self-promotion, in getting attention, in getting praise

Thinks about proving themselves and wanting to stand out from the crowd

Driven to be better than others because they want to be special or famous and noticed

Mindset of scarcity and competition – always thinking about what’s next

1. OTHER-FOCUSED PEOPLE

Interested in making a difference, in having authority, in living out their purpose

Thinks about how they are loved and how to share that with others

Driven to have influence over others because they want to make a positive difference

Mindset of abundance and collaboration – working to be present and grateful

THE “THEY’RE ALLOWED TO NOT LIKE ME” & GETTING THE RIGHT PEOPLE TO LIKE YOU CHALLENGE

1. Write out the names of 3 people who you worry might not like you
2. Then write out what it would really mean if they didn’t?
3. Ask yourself if you even really like them, and why their opinion of you matters.
4. Be honest – does their opinion of you challenge your overall happiness or life?
5. Repeat out loud: people are allowed to not like me. 

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MICRO COACHING SESSIONS FOR CRISIS MANAGEMENT

If you’ve ever considering hiring a life coach, a mindset coach, a career coach or a confidence coach – this is the most important time, now more than ever to do so.

I understand that investing in yourself, particularly in a time of uncertainty, feels intimidating, and it might have you second-guessing yourself. But, I assure you, there is no better investment than in yourself. The value that you get from just one or even two private coaching sessions could quite possibly be the lynchpin of change and transformation for your next steps of success.

My private coaching hours have been booked, and I was starting a waiting list for clients; but, it is only ethical that, as a coach who breathes hope and a plan into the work I do, that I find a way to show up now, more than ever for people who need coaching. So, with the help of my husband, we are arranging extra coaching hours – exclusively available now for anyone who wants affordable support in crisis management.

Sessions are micro-sessions, so just 30-minutes and can be recorded for your review and further application. The cost the discounted rate of just $150, half of my typical coaching cost.

Maybe you need coaching for crisis management about:

How to stay positive when the world feels so panicked

How to take the fearful thoughts and your anxiety and use it for good

How to make this season an opportunity for your personal growth

How to not panic about your business growth or entrepreneurial plan

How to stay on track for your weight loss goals without a gym or your normal structure

How to work from home and stay socially isolated without getting depressed

How to pivot your business efforts and marketing to work with the new economy

How to stay motivated while staying at home / how to not give into buffering or self-sabotage

How to use any career setbacks to transition confidently into a new career

How to create a routine that brings you joy at this time, not anxiety or stress

How to stretch your faith and feel good during this crisis instead of tossing and turning at night.

Email me at trish@trishblackwell.com to claim a spot.

LISTENER OF THE EPISODE: 

Trish,

Thanks for being someone who lifts people up in moments of fear and uncertainty. Your light, courage, and hopefulness are contagious, and I’m so happy to have stumbled upon your podcast.

Have a great day,

Erin Harding