Coaching your confidence and courage to that you finish what you start and contribute to the world in a way that matters.
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast
Approval addiction, or affirmation addiction, is rampant and a debilitating pattern to allow dominate in your heart. You don’t have to always be stuck in this addictive, often negative and powerless place. You can learn to be free from the need to earn approval, get permission or be affirmed by others to feel like you’re “enough.” Get the full show notes at www.trishblackwell.com/378
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Ya’ll, in life, the best advice I was ever given, is to ask for what you want.
You only get in life what you have the courage to ask for.
So I am having the courage to ask you to leave me some love.
It’s the belief that it’s possible to please everyone.
It creates a self-imposed prison
It’s both people-pleasing and performing to impress.
-Wanting to be liked by everyone
-Wanting to be the absolute best at anything I did
-Wanting to be favored by teachers and employers
-Wanting to be in all social groups
-Wanting to be as successful as possible
-Wanting to be stand out physically – and hiding when I didn’t feel that way
-Wanting to be built up by my parents in ways they weren’t wired to be
-Wanting to date only the most attractive and popular people
-Wanting to appear like I had it all together
-Wanting to create the image of a perfect life (being more interested in appearing to have a perfect life than living one)
Lack of achievement
Lack of personal fulfillment
Low self-esteem
Reduced performance
Increased stress and anxiety
Increased pressure
Overcommitment of schedule
People pleasing
Changing your position because other people don’t agree or approve
Giving compliments to gain attention
Getting upset if someone disagrees with you
Agreeing when you don’t really agree
Losing your voice and not giving your true opinion
Doing what you don’t want to do because you can’t say no
Failing to complain or communicate over wrongdoing
Spreading or participating in gossip
Asking permission or waiting for someone to tell you that you are qualified
Consistently apologizing
Pretending to be an authority on everything
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First, acknowledge the addictive behavior.
Then, after those things, most importantly, TAKE ACTION.
There’s a reason I call my clients “action takers”.
If you can embody this forward momentum mindset, you will push past the barriers of needing permission or affirmation from others to move through yourself.
Insecure = in secure = not secure.
Disease = dis – ease = not at ease or peace.
Confidence is a deep feeling of security and safety.
What I blamed on disease and on a type of personality was actually just a lack of peace in my life. Peace was a misplaced value on what mattered and what didn’t – on what would bring me real fulfillment and what wouldn’t.
Where will you find your peace?
Does your relationship with pressure serve you or harm you?
What matters more, success or significance?
Will you stop partnering with a spirit of desperation, lack, and fear?
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