HOW TO REFRAME REJECTION TO SEE IT AS A GOOD THING

Podcast #372

We all have felt rejection or exclusion, and we are all guaranteed to have more of it throughout the rest of our lives. There is no way to avoid this pit of pain, so, rather than dread it or allow it to be a reflection of our character, it’s time that we take rejection into our own control. Rejection and closed doors don’t need to get you down ever again.

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we’re chatting about:

• The universality of rejection and setbacks and what your relationship with them can be
• 10 ways to reframe rejection positively so that you can see rejection as a good thing
• Why I celebrate rejection and what gives me confidence that I will fail, but not fall.

REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

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I so look forward to Tuesdays! Trish’s content seems to always be spot on. She inspires her listeners to be productive, loving people. I admire how she has incorporated her faith into several of the episodes. Keep going Trish! You’re making a difference.  Gina in Idaho

OK, LET’S DEEP DIVE INTO REJECTION. REJECTION IS A GOOD THING.

It’s all about how you think about it and your relationship with it.

As in all relationships, there’s a reaction and an interaction element to how you interact with it. Take a moment and assess how your relationship with rejection is.  Does it define you or does it refine you?

Rejection types: 

jobs, sales, relationships, opportunities, friendships.

Why we’re talking about rejection:

We all have felt rejection or exclusion, and we are all guaranteed to have more of it throughout the rest of our lives. There is no way to avoid this pit of pain, so, rather than dread it or allow it to be a reflection of our character, it’s time that we take rejection into our own control.

Trial by fire:

Rejection is the first part of my professional career – Gold’s Gym, trial by fire. I learned a lot in the process – mostly, that rejection is inevitable and not personal. Make it a game, play the game and use the game to strengthen your mindset.

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10 WAYS TO REFRAME REJECTION AS A GOOD THING

1. Decide that you are going to like it, not shy away from it or personalize it.
2. It’s a sign that you’re stepping outside of your comfort zone.
3. Get some callouses – thick skin grows with time.
4. It’s okay to be an M&M – hard on the outside and soft on the inside
5. Pump yourself up – hype it up
6. Reverse the role: chase rejection instead of avoiding it.
7. Understand what a “no” really means (it’s the next no on the way to the yes you need)
8. Be proud of your boldness
9. Refuse to believe that you are on your own – walk with faith – Psalm 37:23-24
10. Understand the life advantage it gives you when you become friends with rejection

Man in the Arena Quote 

-Be dang proud of yourself for being a brave soul.

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

https://www.mentalfloss.com/article/63389/roosevelts-man-arena

WHAT’S GIVING ME CONFIDENCE THIS WEEK:

Psalm 37:23-34 (NLT)

The Lord directs the steps of the godly. He delights in every detail of their lives. Though they stumble, they will never fall, for the Lord holds them by the hand.

I know that though I may stumble, that I will not fall.

This gives me permission to do bold things – to walk those ledges – to take risks. And it can for you too.

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LISTENER OF THE EPISODE: 

Hi Trish –

I love your podcast and message. I am a long-time listener and your podcast is one of the two I always recommend to people.

I respectfully ask that you don’t share my name but I recently started a new job where it’s door to door prospecting for clients. I believe in the company and our product but my perfectionism and soft heart are emotionally crushed daily by the multiple rejections.

Do you have an episode or blog post that may help?

Thank you, I appreciate you so much.

• The Perfectionism Curse, Episode #354 (trishblackwell.com/354)
• Why Perfectionism Prevents You From Being Confident, Episode #335 (trishblackwell.com/335)
• The Anti-Perfecftionism Quest, Blog Post https://www.trishblackwell.com/the-anti-perfectionism-quest/
• The Perfectionism Detox – course exclusively available to students in the College of Confidence (which you can join and get instant access at collegeofconfidence.com)