BEING IN A HURRY TO GET THINGS DONE DOESN’T WORK

Podcast:#364 

When you make time for growth, you make time for life. Real fulfillment and real confidence happen only when we slow down and actually live. The truth is, everyone has a life, but not everyone actually lives.

In this podcast episode of The Confidence Podcast we’re talking about:

• Why hurrying is detrimental to our productivity
• Why hurrying is damaging to our happiness
• Why hurrying is deadly to our purpose and plan

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Trish is not just a confidence coach, she is a life coach … and now I know EVERYONE needs a life coach. As a kid I always had coaches in my life being involved in sports, but as an adult, I forgot what an important role a coach plate.d My only regret is that I didn’t find Trish sooner!! Before I even realized it, I was trapped with unrealistic expectations for myself. I craved JOY or PEACE in my life, but instead, I was exhausted, frustrated and overwhelmed … Trish has reminded me that it’s ok to SLOW DOWN. She has reminded me that God loves ME, not what I do or accomplish. She has challenged me to grow in so many ways, yet it lacks overwhelm. When I take a step back and look how far I have come in the last year, it leaves me speechless. I.  have unpacked and conquered so many things that I didn’t even know was holding back or weighing me down. I have more work to do and nay more challenges to overcome, but I have leaned into the process and my faith to keep growing. From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU Trish for putting yourself out there. I know it’s not easy .. but what an impact!!! I will continue to pray God leads you to help so many more people.

THOUGHTS FROM A 4-YEAR OLD ON HURRYING:

Ellie’s clip 🙂

My journey with pace and speed.

Podcast on “Forward is a Pace,” How to be Happy With Where You Are On Your Journey” espisode from October 2018. Listen directly at: https://www.trishblackwell.com/289-2/. or below on the podcast player.

HOW TO BE HAPPY WITH WHERE YOU ARE ON YOUR JOURNEY

Remember – by paying attention to the words we use to think about our lives, we determine the pace and peace we will have with our legacy.

WHY HURRYING IS DETRIMENTAL TO OUR PRODUCTIVITY

We miss out on what really matters

We drink the productivity fulfillment kool-aid

We damage relationships – with others, with ourselves and with God

We live on an empty battery, like machines instead of humans

We believe the lie of multi-tasking and we spread ourselves too thin

We program ourselves to believe that we are valuable for what we do rather than for who we are

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WHY BEING IN A HURRY IS DAMAGING TO OUR HAPPINESS

There is such a thing as “hurry sickness”

https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/how-to-beat-hurry-sickness.htm

From MindTools – “What is Hurry Sickness?”

Cardiologists Meyer Friedman and Ray Rosenman coined the term “hurry sickness” after noticing that many of their patients suffered from a “harrying sense of time urgency.” They defined hurry sickness as “a continuous struggle and unremitting attempt to accomplish or achieve more and more things or participate in more and more events in less and less time.”

It’s a byproduct of our 24/7 state of connectedness and is a cycle of panic.

WHY BEING IN A HURRY IS DEADLY TO OUR PURPOSE AND PLAN 

Errors creep into your work

You lose your real human connection power

The big picture gets lost in the details of stress

Cortisol is released (the stress hormone) and adds weight, creates susceptibility towards depression

It’s exhausting

It’s contrary to how we were made to thrive

OK, SO HOW TO NOT GET CAUGHT UP IN THE HURRY SICKNESS? 

Slow down

Prioritize

Realize that being in a hurry is a hustle with no end

Stop some things and start saying no to others.

Take the pressure off yourself.

Go into recovery for perfecftionism.

ANNOUNCEMENTS: 

You hear the “what” and the “why” of confidence here on The Confidence Podcast, but what I’d like to invite you into is the “how.” And that’s exactly what we cover in our coaching and courses in the College of Confidence.

I’m currently working on a new course, an extensive and in-depth course on how to break from perfectionism. The course will be available exclusively for members of The College of Confidence. If you struggle with self-pressure, self-criticism, obsession with achievement and performance or perfectionism of any type, then you absolutely need to get into the College of Confidence today so that you can be part of this perfectionism cleanse. And if you think that being in a hurry is a sign of perfectionism, you’re right! Check it out to find out how to defeat perfectionism today. You can get started at www.collegeofconfidence.com

The College of Confidence, learn to create a life you love.  Lessons in confidence you can use to think happier, live healthier and do big things with your life.

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LISTENER OF THE EPISODE: 

Literally just started listening to your Podcasts. I’m a newby with Podcasting and it’s so exciting! I have a long commute and typically listened to audiobooks.

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I’ll continue to listen and eventually take this course eventually, even as a confident women I know I can benefit from this. Especially trying to raise 3 confident little women (Eleanor 7, Reyna 5, Nadine 2). I’ll be sure to figure out how to leave a review!!

GOD BLESS YOU!! I’m loving it.

-Darlene