Podcast #359:

HOW TO STOP FEELING LIKE YOU HAVE TO DO EVERYTHING 

In this episode of The Confidence Podcast, we’re chatting about

• Why we believe that we have to do it all and be it all
• How to stop drinking the toxic kool-aid of this perfectionistic gospel tenant
• 10 tips to let go so that you can stop feeling like you have to do everything
• How to stop feeling like you have to do everything

REVIEW OF THE EPISODE

So Amazing!!! 5 Stars, by Helpful too

Trish really projects what it is to be a great human being and helps others to find that person inside! She is encouraging and uplifting and real. I’m so thankful that I found this podcast and the COC, I’m ready to be a massive Action Taker! 

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WHY DO WE BUY INTO THIS “DO-IT-ALL”/”BE-IT-ALL” LIE ANYWAYS?

Anxiety.

Maybe you haven’t considered yourself an anxious person, but if you peel back all the layers of the onion here, there typically is a grounded state of anxiety.

Anxiety over what?

Well, since anxiety is fear; fear or apprehension. It’s defined as intense, persistent or excessive worry of what might come or is to come.  It could be fear of not being enough, fear of not doing enough, fear of being discovered as an imposter, fear of not measuring up, fear of being too needy, fear of not being capable or smart enough, 

One reason we do it all and try to control it all is because we are often afraid of being quiet enough or still enough to be with ourselves. 

We keep ourselves busy with achievement, performance, productivity so that we can earn our worth, earn our place, earn our right to be loved or admired, etc. 

A few reminders for you: 

Your worth is not based off your performance.

Your worth is not what you do, how you look, how much money you make. Those things are empty and will fail you, no matter who you are. 

Your worth was considered world-moving by God. 

Episode #329, You’re Not Just Average, Here’s How to Believe It

www.trishblackwell.com/329

Episode #340, Deepen Your Confidence that Your Life Matters

www.trishblackwell.com/340 

HOW TO STOP DRINKING THE TOXIC KOOL-AID

Be aware of your surroundings and of your priorities. Understand the voice perfectionism in your mind, and what it really means. Keep a guard on what you put into your mind. Challenge yourself to be honest about the self-imposed stress you feel. Dig deep to understand the role of pride, pressure, faith, fear, and doubt and where the come into this equation for you. Understand that if you don’t get off the treadmill of craziness, you will run yourself into brokenness, emptiness, and dimness. Consider being in the world, but not of the world, and that the status quote just doesn’t work. 

Episode #336, How to Stop Using “Tired” As An Excuse in Your Life

www.trishblackwell.com/336

10 TIPS TO LET GOING OF TRYING TO DO IT ALL AND BE IT ALL

1. Acknowledge your actual state of stress and your humanity. 
2. Ask for help before you need it. 
3. Thrive by staying in your lane, and doing a few things well.
4. Take pride in your free time and chillness. 
5. Stop worshiping productivity and performance. 
6. Give yourself permission to have boundaries. 
7. Confess your pride and power-tripping. 
8. Slow down and stop scrolling. 
9. Get support and a system, let go of being an island.
10. Let go of seeking to impress or prove yourself, and accept the gift of love. 

LISTENER OF THE EPISODE

(Hali, from IG) 

Hi Trish! yesterday I happened to stumble upon your podcast. The first episode I listened to was Why Perfectionism Prevents You From Being Confident. it was amazing!!! Everything you spoke about pointed straight to me. The way you described your struggle with perfectionism was like looking in a mirror. I resonated with almost everything you listed as to what perfectionism is. I knew I was a perfectionist, but I didn’t realize how much perfectionism controlled me nad how unhealthy of a relationship I had with perfectionism. I have the tendency to base my worth off my performance and didn’t even realize it. I’m so glad I found your podcast! Thanks so much for sharing your struggle with perfectionism! You have opened my eyes and now hoepfully I can begin a journey of letting go of my perfectionism! 

The episode referenced is:

Why Perfectionism Prevents You from Being Confidence, Episode #335

www.trishblackwell.com/335 

BEHIND-THE-SCENES ANNOUNCEMENT:

I’m currently working on a new course, an extensive and in-depth course on how to break from perfectionism. The course will be available exclusively for members of The College of Confidence. If you struggle with self-pressure, self-criticism, obsession with achievement and performance or perfectionism of any type, then you absolutely need to get into the College of Confidence today so that you can be part of this perfectionism cleanse. You can get started at www.collegeofconfidence.com