STOP CARING WHAT YOUR FRIENDS THINK 

Podcast #322

In this week of The Confidence Podcast we are chatting about:

• How to stop the cray cray of caring too much
• Why we care so much anyways
• The real reason you might be stuck right now

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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

From: Jdannireid

“Wow”

Trish, I just started listening to this week and wow. This is exactly what I needed. You are so real and passionate about what you do. You have brought me to tears several times already. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK

Make sure you listen to the original coaching episode on this…How to Stop Caring What People Think, episode #187 of The Confidence Podcast. You can listen directly at www.trishblackwell.com/187

In that episode, we talk about …

• How to stop wasting so much emotional energy and effort worrying about and caring about what other people think about us
• 5 specific ways to start changing how you let people interfere with you living your best life yet and your full version of yourself – how to really live free as who you were created to be
• A powerful mantra to use when you find yourself sucked into the siphon of self-comparison and self-doubt that is birthed from worrying about what people think about you

More specifically, in relation to caring about what your friends think, I want to go deeper. 

The moment we begin to fear the opinions of others and hesitate to tell the truth that is in us, and from motives of policy are silent, when we should speak, the divine floods of light and life no longer flow into our souls. –Elizabeth Cady Stanton

5 WAYS TO STOP CARING ABOUT WHAT YOUR FRIENDS THINK: 

1. Think about what you love about the people you love.

2. Act as if you only have 36-more months to live.

3. Be honest about what you have missed out on.

5. Stop being so afraid to be alone.
6. Resist the desire to cheapen who God made you to be.

WHY WE CARE SO MUCH ANYWAYS

We look at the wrong places to get our worth.

We compare and give ourselves a place in this world in relation to the comparison.

We were taught to strive for approval.

We yearn to fit in, yet to also be different.

We are afraid of being weird, left out, isolated, unnoticed, forgettable.

THE REAL REASON YOU MIGHT BE STUCK RIGHT NOW 

Being in a place where you are caring too much will always keep you stuck.

• It will keep you from hearing God’s voice (because instead, you are listening for the voices of others)
• It will keep you from generating and stepping into self-trust, which is what you need to take action on an idea, dream, goal or life change that matters
• It will keep you striving to conform to being “enough” in the opinions of others – which are fleeting and constantly changing, meaning that your confidence will also be in an eternal state of flux and fluidity, leaving you exhausted chasing the finish line that always moves

ANNOUNCEMENTS: 

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LISTENER OF THE EPISODE

Runjennaay

Trish – I would love to hear the episode on How to Stop Caring What Your Friends Think! I have deliberately backed off from replying to your story so many times because I’ve been meaning to write in detail what a life changer you have been to me. I willed to that email soon. Please don’t lose your courage because you are who I listen to or “run to’ for a lack of better words when I ‘m falling apart or just need to recenter myself. Thank you so much!! Working on not being that overwhelmed mommy. One of your biggest fans, Jenn