HOW TO INCREASE CONFIDENCE THROUGH SELF-COMPASSION
PODCAST #321
In this week of The Confidence Podcast we are chatting about:
- The secret, often untapped power of self-compassion
- Why you definitely shouldn’t be shrugging off self-compassion as something for “other people”
- Practical ways you can intentionally activate self-compassion for more confidence
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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:
From: BarbellsAndBaking
“My Absolute Favorite Podcast!”
Hi Trish! I just wanted to let you know that I love your podcast so much! I know we have never met, but I feel like you’re a best friend. I always look forward to Tuesdays when a new episode comes out. You have been such an inspiration in my life and have encouraged me to step out of my comfort zone and finally start my own blog…something I’ve been thinking about for some time but haven’t done until recently because of what people might think or because what if I fail? Thank you so much for everything you do! You’re amazing!
THE UNTAPPED POWER OF SELF-COMPASSION AND WHY WE NEED IT
The toxic effects of my perfectionism and my eating disorder perpetuated for years long than it should have because I lacked a basic level of self-compassion.
Self-compassion includes forgiveness, grace, patience and perspective. For someone with all-or-nothing tendencies, it felt impossible and out-of-character for me to ever experience.
The cycle of self-pressure is toxic, and it is fueled when self-compassion isn’t available.
When I pump self-compassion into me, it feels foreign, because I lived most of my life without it, but it feels good; freeing.
Self-compassion is the ability to walk in the grace that God already gives us.
When I push away self-compassion, when I try to punish myself and just “do better” and “expect more” then I am saying to God … thanks for your grace, and thanks for Jesus, but I’ll just take full responsibility here to be perfect. I know I’m human – flawed and weak in my flesh, but I’ll take help in all the other areas aside from this one. Ya’ll, it doesn’t work like this.
We need it because we thrive when
-we walk in grace
-when we know that we don’t have to be perfect
-when it’s safe to fail and fumble
-when our growth comes from something bigger than ourselves
-we don’t have to live in a rush, on a timeline or in comparison
WHY SELF-COMPASSION IS FOR YOU, NOT JUST “OTHER PEOPLE”
Self-compassion isn’t weak – it doesn’t slow you down – it doesn’t hold you back.
Self-compassion is actually character strength, not weakness.
Too often, we have been brainwashed to believe that we need to work, work, work, perform, perform, perform and sweat, sweat, sweat to be successful … and that then, when we reach where we want to go, that then we can relax.
PRACTICAL WAYS TO IMPLEMENT SELF-COMPASSION
Active self-forgiveness
Spiritual alignment each day
Celebrating the progress
Radically slowing down
Practicing self-kindness
Nurturing self with sleep, touch, good food
Listening to your body
Resting and talking back to the “not enough” voice
Cutting back on obligations
Getting help from others (housekeeper, etc, or modifying expectations)
Being okay with mistakes (I am learning to embrace them)
Seeing your past self with tender sympathy and love
ANNOUNCEMENTS:
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LISTENER OF THE EPISODE
Abigail Robbins
Hi Trish! I’ve been listening to your podcast for a week now and it’s been life changing! I’m going to intern in DC for the summer and you’ve been inspirational in finding my intellectual confidence and body confidence for this next chapter in my life. I find myself stepping into the arena and doing something that scares me every day. I would love to work with you in the future! Please let me know if you need more interns in the future!